met a girl at a party sat.

[usscrum]

so my buddy's fraternity had this formal thing on saturday and i went with a bunch of friends. i was pretty drunk so i wasn't worrying about girls but i danced with a few and talked with some random girls throughout the party. this one girl i danced with, probably a HB7.5, seemed into me so i told her i'd find her later on.

saw her at a table with a few of her girlfriends so me and my wing walked over and sat down with them. i sat beside her friend (who turned out to be her roommate, probably an 8) and started talking to her. HB7.5 saw this and moved seats so she was on the other side of me. we shot the **** for a while and eventually everyone else left while i was talking with the 2 of them. turns out they were headed to the same party we were at. i danced with her for a couple more songs but missed out on some chances to escalate because i was pretty drunk. i also didn't # close so i felt stupid. proof that alcohol can help but also hurt you.

anyways we leave the first party and i end up not seeing them at the next one. i said whatever and didnt worry about it. the next day i happened to see her on facebook and added her. immediately i saw a message in my inbox.

Her:
lol so u called me a stalker for addin _____ as a friend on here. kinda seems like ur the stalker now haha.


Me:
haha whatever you say...i ended up getting way too drunk but i remember havin fun with you even though i had to put you to shame on the dance floor. way to show up at _____ by the way! (the party we wre supposed to meet at)


Her:
haha whatever u couldnt even pop lock and drop it!lol. I did go to the lodge but there was like no one there when i was there so we left. Did u have a good time in (town)?


Me:
yeah it was dead when we went by but our ride left and we ended up havin to walk back from there to UV. i had a good time though...i think we may be stoppin by thursday night. you should come out


Her:
that sucks. thats a long freakin walk! I'm livin in UV next year!

umm i might go out, depends on what u guys do seein as I cant go to the bars cause im still a youngin haha. but if u guys go to the club or jus chill at someone's apartment i might go. I was gonna go home but I have work on friday so i gotta stay here. :/


Me:
cant go to the bars i forgot...you kids always ruining everyones fun haha. but nah its this girl's 20th bday party so i think we're just gonna be at UV for the night.

but i noticed youre friends with ____...i went to school with her. we were tight way back in the day in middle school haha


Her:
lol im sorry! i know im so young. but if u do that then ya i might stop by!

haha really? I love her!! I dated a guy for 4 years and she hangs out with him and his roommates a lot. What highschool did u go to?


Me:
i went to ____. dont think i have seen ____ and them since the summer we graduated..its been a while.

but yeah you should definitely come out thursday. just give me your number or somethin and ill get up with you sometime around then and let you know what we're doing. plus you owe me cause as far as im concerned you bailed on me last night haha


Her:
u did?! I went to ____ool! lol. wow u were like 10 mins away haha.small world.

lol i didnt bail on u! u got there too late haha. but ok sounds good. XXX-XXX-XXXX text me so i hae urs too.




so i texted her "alright heres the most important number youll ever put in your phone!"

she replied with "hahahah hmm ok. maybe ill save it as drunk guy fb stalker lol "

bla bla couple more messages and i told her i had to go, she said "ok sleep well!"


So there's a chance she's gonna stop by my friend's on thursday. i live about an hour and a half away and we go to diff schools so that's the only time i'd be able to see her. she's hung up on some dude from home i think but my friend said she will put out so i figured why not.

anyways did i do well? should i talk to her any more over the next couple days to build more rapport so she doesnt flake? im still learning..any advice appreciated

 

[usscrum]

anything?

 

[NewAndImproved]

You did well. I wouldn't have said "I had a good time" twice but that's just nitpicking. You chatted for a bit and went for the number.

Good line too:

"alright heres the most important number youll ever put in your phone!"

 

[Kal0051]

sounds like your doing ok so far. Just continue to do what your doing, escalate a bit (or a lot), maybe use the fb stalker thing as an inside joke. And if she's willing to put out it probably won't be a whole lot of work for you. Good luck.

PS: I like the line you used, I'm gonna use it next time I get a girl's number.

 

[pua1989]

seriously......youre good to go. i go to UCSB where everyone is ****ing drunk andif you have a girl hit you up like that giving you her number (even though i wouldnt have talked to her that much online just because id rather text/call) you are where you wanna be. just let her know you are kinda busy this week with class but you know of some parties on the weekend (even tho this is a bad weekend and some people are goin home for easter) and that youll call her on friday. call her friday around 4-5 see what party she is going to (once you talk to her, shell probably say she doesnt know what shes doing yet) and then you say "well, we'll probably be prefading at [my place/my friends place] around [this time] ill call you before i go so we can meet up there and then go to some parties." then you can easily f-close

 

[pua1989]

seriously......youre good to go. i go to UCSB where everyone is ****ing drunk andif you have a girl hit you up like that giving you her number (even though i wouldnt have talked to her that much online just because id rather text/call) you are where you wanna be. just let her know you are kinda busy this week with class but you know of some parties on the weekend (even tho this is a bad weekend and some people are goin home for easter) and that youll call her on friday. call her friday around 4-5 see what shes doing tonight (once you talk to her, shell probably say she doesnt know what shes doing yet) and then you say "well, we'll probably be prefading at [my place/my friends place] around [this time] ill call you before i go so we can meet up there and then go to some parties." then you can easily f-close after going to a party, you and her are flirting playing drinking games and then you head back to your pad

 

[usscrum]

thanks for the advice. i kept it in my mind the whole time to keep the convo short on facebook, but we didnt get to talk for a long time at the party so i had to build some kind of rapport. we didnt talk today at all but ill probably shoot her a text or something tomorrow just to make sure things are still 'afloat'. ill keep you guys posted.

 

[pua1989]

it seems like we posted at the same time [which means look at the post above yours they happened within seconds of each other]...follow my advice and youll be fine. thats how i bag most of my chicks. as for "keeping her afloat" ehhhh its up to you....maybe some flirting on a wednesday over text

 

[DohnShaft]

I think you did a stellar job ace. Keep up the good work, and stay cool.

 

[usscrum]

well i texted her a couple hours ago "yo...just seein how my least favorite dance partner is doing " and didnt get a response. im chalking it up to a flake since we didnt get much chance to build rapport in person and i got drunk toward the end. ill probably shoot her a text thursday just in case but oh well. good practice at least

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

well i texted her a couple hours ago "yo...just seein how my least favorite dance partner is doing " and didnt get a response. im chalking it up to a flake since we didnt get much chance to build rapport in person and i got drunk toward the end. ill probably shoot her a text thursday just in case but oh well. good practice at least

If she was interested enough, you should have just left it until that day of the party rather than trying to string her along. That was basically the deal you guys made at the end of the conversation anyway.

 

[usscrum]

turns out she was at work....later last night she texted me back and we had a convo for a while. like I said earlier I am still new to this so I dont have 100% confidence in my ability to tell if shes attracted.

so i'm going to post the conversation so whoever wants to read it can let me know how i did and if she seemed interested.




me: yo...just seeing how my least favorite dance partner is doin

her: haha hey! sry i was at work and couldn't answer. least fav? im doin just fine how about urself

me: Oh did i say least favorite...dunno how that got there haha. but im doin alright other than the blizzard we got up here. where do you work?

her: Lol meanie. i heard u guys got snow. soo glad im not there! lol. i'm a server at applebees.

me: i never thought i'd hate snow but 3 years up here will do it. applebees huh...how do you like that? last time i was there they ran out of forks. true story

her: Lol well i hate the cold. so i would hate it there. but um i just started but its ok. very busy and rushed all the time. lol

me: hey as long as ur cool with old creepy dudes then its good money. im tryin to find a job...i was thinkin about an escort service but idk yet you know

her: Lol i'm a big flirt anyway i love to make people laugh. an escort? Lol i dont think u would get far with that...haha

me: haha we both know youd pay good money...no need to lie about it

her: Lol nahh we both know u'd be willing to do it for free. haha

me: Listen im sorry but im in high demand. id consider a discount but thats as far as i can go. so sorry

her: Lol. Nope and from my understanding the girl isn't suppose to pay. no chivalry i see.

me: yea sorry ive been told i should start charging for my services so i think ill just stick to that. if you want chivalry ill hold the door open for you haha

her: Lol. nah thats ok. i like chivalry but i'm a very independent person so i like doin things for myself. i def. dont like being waited on hand and foot

me: you dont? thats perfect cause i love being waited on hand and foot. haha but i see what youre sayin ive never been into girls who expect everything on a platter.

her: haha yea girls like that are spoiled *****es. ive never been like that i feel pride in doin something myself. ive always been independent.

me: sounds good....i have no problem stayin home and taking care of the kids while you bring in all the money !

her: haha well hopefully ill make plenty of it! R u still comin to (her school) on thursday?

me: yes ma'am ill be there. the question is are you partying with us?

her: Lol yea i most def. will! did u say it was some girls bday party?

me: yeah this girl is havin her birthday thing at UV at least thats what i was told

her: oh ok. UV always gets busted tho. but I'll still go. i hope its not a small thing tho bc i dont wanna be rude and just show up at some girls bday ya kno?

me: haha ive partied with them a lot and its never been broken up. but you can bring whoever you want ill talk to them and see how big its gonna be.

her: ok thats cool. well i hope it doesnt get busted! i think my friend ___ might come with me.

me: yea thats cool. ill let u know once we know for sure whats goin on. but im abuot to head out for a bit so ill talk to u later on.

her: ok cool deal!








so there it is...this was over text last night while i was studying in the library. i know you are gonna say that i talked to her for too long but i felt like i needed to build a little more rapport with her. i guess it worked bc she went from "maybe" coming to "definitely" coming on thurs. i made sure to keep my responses anywhere from 5-15 minutes after hers.

do you think i did well? sounds to me like she was qualifying herself with the "I'm an independent person" stuff and it seemed to me like the convo went well. am i missing anything?

i probably wont talk to her today, then get up with her at some point tomorrow to let her know whats goin on for the night.

 

[itishe]

Are you a student at the University of Minnesota?

 

[pua1989]

nice bro, still not in the bag YET, but i think youre very close. i would hold off on some communication until the party this weekend (unless she calls/texts you). then call her up the day of the party (not at night when youre hammered) but at like 4 or 5 and tell her the details..maybe invite her to come over to your pad to prefade with your buddies and then you can all roll out to the party (and then get some POONANI)

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

nice bro, still not in the bag YET, but i think youre very close. i would hold off on some communication until the party this weekend (unless she calls/texts you). then call her up the day of the party (not at night when youre hammered) but at like 4 or 5 and tell her the details..maybe invite her to come over to your pad to prefade with your buddies and then you can all roll out to the party (and then get some POONANI)

I don't know if he can pregame since it sounds as though they're in different towns, but it could still work once he makes it down there.

I'd say things are going well. Just let us know how things go.

 

[usscrum]

alright so she flaked...i didn't talk to her yesterday but shot her a text a couple hrs ago asking if her and her friend were still planning on coming out. she said "idk my schedule at work got messed up". i said something like "damn bailing on me just like last sat. haha its all good hit me up if you change your mind" and she said "lol sorry im trying to get off work".

she seemed really excited about coming when i talked to her on tuesday so I feel like she still may be interested but i don't know where to go from here. should i get up with her later tonight and see what's going on? or just trust that she'll call me if she does "get off work". i don't want to come off as needy but there's a chance that this was a legitimate excuse.

this girl lives about 20 mins from me and we'll both be at home this weekend for easter break. should i try and set something up? she really doesn't mean **** to me but i can always use the practice.

 

[Kal0051]

alright so she flaked...i didn't talk to her yesterday but shot her a text a couple hrs ago asking if her and her friend were still planning on coming out. she said "idk my schedule at work got messed up". i said something like "damn bailing on me just like last sat. haha its all good hit me up if you change your mind" and she said "lol sorry im trying to get off work".

she seemed really excited about coming when i talked to her on tuesday so I feel like she still may be interested but i don't know where to go from here. should i get up with her later tonight and see what's going on? or just trust that she'll call me if she does "get off work". i don't want to come off as needy but there's a chance that this was a legitimate excuse.

this girl lives about 20 mins from me and we'll both be at home this weekend for easter break. should i try and set something up? she really doesn't mean **** to me but i can always use the practice.

maybe she does have a ****ed up work schedule. Don't always be so distrustful, give her another chance and if she flakes again then you can ditch her.

 

[usscrum]

well i didnt say anything else to her yesterday, she ended up hitting me up and headin over to the party we were at around 2. we hung out for a bit, kino, flirt, all that good stuff but i was pretty drunk. i ended up sleeping in her dorm with her but her roommate and my friend were also there so there was no real chance to do anything.

we're probably gonna hang out tomorrow sometime before she has to leave town. i think i did well but i'm still hitting a sticking point where i am uncomfortable escalating with a girl. something i need to work on.

 

[pua1989]

dude you are running out of time...its in the bag make your move and just kiss her

 

[Kal0051]

man you missed a perfect opportunity to kiss her or something. Like come on, you slept with her, I'm pretty sure she would have let you kiss her. You two could have even had sex quietly so you didn't wake up her friends. But you didn't make your move, so don't be surprised if you don't get another chance.