Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rem, Stop it. Read what i am writing to you. Listen to me. I have been there and i feel i have gone through the rough brutal heart aches so i can pass on the knowledge to other in need,... like yourself. unfortunatly your probably going to ignore what i say to you because your going to let your emotions run your actions but you have to ignore that and be strong. If she doesnt want to speak to you. dont speak to her. Leave her alone, dont call her, dont Text her dont do ANYTHING!!!! that involves her. Do you see whats going on? Your waiting for her to contact you? Let me repeat.. "YOUR..WAITING... FOR.. HER... TO...CONTACT...YOU"... may i ask why? IF shes treating you like crap.. Dude move on. i hate girls like this with a passion. My Ex Fiance was like this and Oh my good god in the heavens , im so happy i left her. Girls like this will toy with your heart like a game and your the one who keeps on losing. Im sure.. No, i am 100% positive... That if you just shut her OUT! completely she will be crying and saying things like "How come you are being this way, Why arent you wanting to speak with me?" Boo Hoo. Cry me a Ocean. Rem Please take my advice.. When i was in your shoes.. my mistake was "waiting on her". Im sure your not a bad lookin guy. If other girls find you attractive, then why waste your emotions on a girl whos treating u bad? Why?? When you ignore her, she will either leave a voicemail or Text saying, Why arent you talking to me?? Your Response will be, "You didnt want to talk to me when i wanted to talk to you" Then u hit her with the Big blow "I liked you but you shut my out, Goodbye" Then thats it! she realized she F--ed up with her stank attitude and understanding. Listen to ME!!!.Remulak said: