"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Messing up the approach

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So I approached a HB on the street and she loved my opener and was completely into me and showing a lot of IOI's. And then I may have said something that startled her or made her uncomfortable (perhaps a joke I made), and she seemed to lose complete interest. But she gave me her phone number with reluctant body language and left. So in your guy's experience, even with good initial attraction, is there anything left I can salvage from this approach (assuming the number is even real)?.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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first impression is generally the last impression... but u should definitely try... cos the girl definitely didn't put u in her rejection list
 
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rsaini said:
first impression is generally the last impression... but u should definitely try... cos the girl definitely didn't put u in her rejection list
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Well, I guess so, it's just that everytime I get a girl's number without building good rapport, I usually end up getting flaked on. But this time, she actually seemed really interested in the beginning and was giving massive IOI's. I think one of my C+F statements/story hit a wrong spot. Any idea how I should cover this up in a phone convo?
 
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What did you say?
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I think the story I told made her feel uncomfortable, but I'm not entirely sure cuz I talked more than I usually do. I'm just wondering if the impression she had of me when I got her number determines the course or if a great first impression overcomes that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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do it 100 more times, and you'll learn what you should and shouldnt say
 
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