messed up with my girlfriend

[overburn]

ok, i have another question... and i really care about this girl

a couple of days ago we were at the seaside, in a bar. And she slapped me on my very burnt shoulders. She had done this before and this would have been the fourth slap. On the first i didn't tell her anything. On the second i playfully told her to stop it. On the third i really told her to stop it. And on the fourth (which was really bad) I almost hit her. As in I packed my punch straight to her face and at the last moment i saw her arm held up and grabbed it. And really told her to really stop it because it hurt like hell. And she stopped it an was attentive to my shoulders until they mostly healed.

Today. she has a
znccold. the thing is i went for a beer (which turned out to be 5) with a friend, and when i came back home i started talking to her on YM.
And being a bit drunk i made the mistake of telling her about almost hitting her.
She said that "She'd forgive me in a while and that I'd have to make up for it". And I still felt bad about it and pursued the subject.
And eventually I observed how bad she felt about it , and i tried to tell her that it was all a joke to see if she'd really dump me for this. And it became worse and worse, and i asked her if she wanted to dump me for this
and she said "we'll talk tomorrow, i want to have a cool head when i think about this".
She said good night and she signed off.

The question is:
Do you think she'll really dump me?
As in, i feel really happy with this woman,

And what can i do to set things right and make her understand that i really care about her?

P.S. I've never hit a woman before, and never planning to. And this is the first time it's happenned to me. Fortunately I controlled myself. So please don't be judgemental about the almost hitting part. I feel bad enough about it.

 

[overburn]

ok, nevermind. she just logged in again just to say that she loves me. thanks anyways guys problem solved

 

[Scion]

Fail. You should be out spinning more plates. Then it wouldn't matter if she dumped you for b1tch slapping her around because you'll still have easy access to pvssy.

 

[Captain]

Typical chump. Nearly hits a woman, gets drunk and does something he regrets, then goes all AFC "are you going to dump me?"

Man, control yourself.

 

[Aazman]

blawdy hell- major oneitis. hahaha

 

[hexx]

Fail. You should be out spinning more plates. Then it wouldn't matter if she dumped you for b1tch slapping her around because you'll still have easy access to pvssy.

This was more of an over-thinking problem than anything.

 

[Warrior74]

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Today. she has a
znccold. the thing is i went for a beer (which turned out to be 5) with a friend, and when i came back home i started talking to her on YM.
And being a bit drunk i made the mistake of telling her about almost hitting her.
She said that "She'd forgive me in a while and that I'd have to make up for it". And I still felt bad about it and pursued the subject.
And eventually I observed how bad she felt about it , and i tried to tell her that it was all a joke to see if she'd really dump me for this. And it became worse and worse, and i asked her if she wanted to dump me for this
and she said "we'll talk tomorrow, i want to have a cool head when i think about this".
She said good night and she signed off.

And what can i do to set things right and make her understand that i really care about her?

P.S. I've never hit a woman before, and never planning to. And this is the first time it's happenned to me. Fortunately I controlled myself. So please don't be judgemental about the almost hitting part. I feel bad enough about it.

I highlighted all the parts where your freaking manhood bled out. You basically said, I feel sacred and I'm giving you all the power now and I hope you do the right thing with it. The right thing is to dump a man who has no manhood and power. You know it in your gut. You put the ball in her court and you know what she's going to do with it and your asking us for a last minute fix.

BTW She was attentive because that almost punch got her 'gina tingling. Tell me did you have sex after that incident? You showed some dominace and agression. The female monkey of species responds well to that dispite what they say. (not advocating hitting women, but dominance is a turn on)

She provoked you for a reason. She knew it hurt. She's been burned before or knows people who has. She knew what she was doing. She wanted to get something out of you. Test your mettle.

You feel bad? NO YOU DON'T, NOT ONE DAMN BIT. You feel scared that you might lose her. She deserved to get hit, and if she was a guy she would have. Another guy would have stopped because he knows he would have gotten hit. She knows this. Now you are afraid to lose her. That's why these guys are shouting oneitis and spin plates.


How to keep her? Well you showed all sorts of weakness here. Time to harden the fvck up son.

Personally. I would not call her for a while. Do not talk to her for a while. I would go work out, spend time with friends. STAY OFF CHAT. Seriously. Don't even get on it. Don't return text. Let her call you. Let her worry. Flirt with other girls. I would wait for her to contact me. If she never contacts you, you have your answer, its over. If she does contact you I would not say a word about this incident. I'd say "Hey, I was wondering what you had been up to, want to go do X?" If she says the old "we need to talk" line, I would tell her there is nothing to talk about, but if she wants to go have fun then come bowling or something action oriented. No dinner, no bookstore or coffee shops where she can do a bunch of talking about the relationship. I would be fun and dominate and have a good time. I would cut the date short. And I would try to have NO conversations in the car about anything serious.
I would NEVER discuss this topic again with her. Do not bring it up. If she brings it up evade. NO DISCUSSION OF THIS, it never happened.

That being said. I don't know if you have it in you to do all of that. It's probably too scary. You will probably go gushing your feelings out to her making her have even more contempt for you. Weakness gets no respect or love.

This is why many guys here will just say, spin plates, oneitis and next. It's quicker than writing out all the sh1t I just wrote. But you deserve a real anwser. So there you go. Now if you can reach down and find your balls and decide to be a man, then that's the blueprint for you. If you can't do this, when it burns out and you get heartbroken and depressed...read the DJ Bible, find the Book of Pook and learn the game properly. Good Luck.

 

[runner83]

I highlighted all the parts where your freaking manhood bled out. You basically said, I feel sacred and I'm giving you all the power now and I hope you do the right thing with it. The right thing is to dump a man who has no manhood and power. You know it in your gut. You put the ball in her court and you know what she's going to do with it and your asking us for a last minute fix.

BTW She was attentive because that almost punch got her 'gina tingling. Tell me did you have sex after that incident? You showed some dominace and agression. The female monkey of species responds well to that dispite what they say. (not advocating hitting women, but dominance is a turn on)

She provoked you for a reason. She knew it hurt. She's been burned before or knows people who has. She knew what she was doing. She wanted to get something out of you. Test your mettle.

You feel bad? NO YOU DON'T, NOT ONE DAMN BIT. You feel scared that you might lose her. She deserved to get hit, and if she was a guy she would have. Another guy would have stopped because he knows he would have gotten hit. She knows this. Now you are afraid to lose her. That's why these guys are shouting oneitis and spin plates.


How to keep her? Well you showed all sorts of weakness here. Time to harden the fvck up son.

Personally. I would not call her for a while. Do not talk to her for a while. I would go work out, spend time with friends. STAY OFF CHAT. Seriously. Don't even get on it. Don't return text. Let her call you. Let her worry. Flirt with other girls. I would wait for her to contact me. If she never contacts you, you have your answer, its over. If she does contact you I would not say a word about this incident. I'd say "Hey, I was wondering what you had been up to, want to go do X?" If she says the old "we need to talk" line, I would tell her there is nothing to talk about, but if she wants to go have fun then come bowling or something action oriented. No dinner, no bookstore or coffee shops where she can do a bunch of talking about the relationship. I would be fun and dominate and have a good time. I would cut the date short. And I would try to have NO conversations in the car about anything serious.
I would NEVER discuss this topic again with her. Do not bring it up. If she brings it up evade. NO DISCUSSION OF THIS, it never happened.

That being said. I don't know if you have it in you to do all of that. It's probably too scary. You will probably go gushing your feelings out to her making her have even more contempt for you. Weakness gets no respect or love.

This is why many guys here will just say, spin plates, oneitis and next. It's quicker than writing out all the sh1t I just wrote. But you deserve a real anwser. So there you go. Now if you can reach down and find your balls and decide to be a man, then that's the blueprint for you. If you can't do this, when it burns out and you get heartbroken and depressed...read the DJ Bible, find the Book of Pook and learn the game properly. Good Luck.

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[Scion]

This was more of an over-thinking problem than anything.

I wasn't being that serious, I was just imitating the stereotypical answer on this forum. Although it would be a decent solution.

 

[escaleraroyal]

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