Messed Up Situation, do I break up or fight it out?

[FightingOut]

Hi SoSuave i'm new here!

I have a messed up issue.

I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now. Her and I are having some major issues. I will start with the most important. First of I am 24 years old and have had a serious medical condition that has put me on several medications for the rest of my life. These medications include some anxiety and ani-depressant pills that have reduced my sex drive dramatically. I cant preform anymore with her and she is losing her mind over it. I have tried getting help from my doctors and specialists, However, due to this issue she has put a lot of pressure on me, she acts out, stresses me, keeps me from doing what I want to do. She thinks we should do everything she likes. For example, I asked her to go play tennis with me and she doesn't want to she would rather do what she likes. I am a calm person in general when it comes to arguments but she calls me an a**hole, tells me to shut the **** up and I have never said anything hurtful to her once.

Once she accused me of cheating when she saw two hickey-like marks on my back, and didn't even take he time to ask me but instead accused me right off the bat. She says she doesn't feel pretty because I can't have sex with her, but instead lashes out at me over every thing that happens in her life. I like to be active and she likes to do what she likes and never with me. I understand her situation that she doesn't get any but she doesn't understand mine.

My medical condition is serious, but I hate myself for the medications I have to take that are preventing my **** to stand up. I feel as low as I can but I need to do something.

Please don't remind me that i'm an AFC because that just adds more to my arsenal; feeling less of a man.

Do I end it now and move on?

 

[TheException]

Tricky situation here for sure......shes acting exactly like I would expect her to.

First off....I dont know exactly what your "medical" condition consists of but I would seek to eliminate the "depressive" component of it. Often times having the right attitude will allow you to do things, you once thought were impossible.

I would seek to abolish this first before trying to "fix" anything else.

 

[Die Hard]

Would it be possible for you to take something like viagra?

 

[FightingOut]

I thought about that too. Unfortunately my doctors told me to stay away from Viagra and other such pills so that's off the table. I'm losing my damn mind. I'll tell you this though, her nagging and disrespectful behavior has hit me pretty bad to the point where I don't even want to try and satisfy her anymore.

In sickness and in health, for richer and poorer --- my ass..

 

[MisterSisterFister]

Without knowing your exact condition 9/10 I feel there are more natural ways to deal with things especially when it comes to depression.

Anybody who can't cope with a situation and chooses to lash out in personal attacks rather than find routes to help and better you need to be immediately cut from your life!

So cut her from your life and start finding natural ways to a healthier life.

 

[Jaylan]

I thought about that too. Unfortunately my doctors told me to stay away from Viagra and other such pills so that's off the table. I'm losing my damn mind. I'll tell you this though, her nagging and disrespectful behavior has hit me pretty bad to the point where I don't even want to try and satisfy her anymore.

In sickness and in health, for richer and poorer --- my ass..

Well for one, she is not your wife. Youve been together only half a year, and shes a young woman with sexual needs. If you cant meet them, your relationship will fail. So there is no "In sickness and in health, for richer and poorer" here bro.

Your situation does suck, but you have to look into ways to increase your libido. Im sure there are times when your girlfriend sympathizes and understands your unfortunate circumstances. But shes your girlfriend, which means she needs a good fvking in order to stay attracted to you. Without the glue that is sex, she grows to resent you.

I think most people would grow to resent someone not fulfilling a basic relationship need, despite there being a good explanation for that lack of fulfillment. If I was dating a girl for less than a year, and we barely had sex because of the meds she was on...despite how understanding I might be sometimes, there would be other times where I resented her a lot. Id be highly frustrated because Id feel like I was wasting my sexual prime on someone not having sex with me.

Really sit down and talk to your doctors about this. Try and research natural libido enhancers since you dont seem able to take any more meds than you already are. While it sucks that your girlfriend can be b!tchy at times, I can definitely see her side of things as well as yours.

If you cannot fvk her, you WILL lose her. Either have sex, or find a woman your age who isnt that into sex. A mans 20s isnt the time where he will find many women who are ok with lack of performance.

Good luck.

 

[FightingOut]

While I could understand your guys' concerns weather this woman has the sex or not, I would also like to point out the behavior she addresses and/or lashes out at me. While she might not get a lot of sex, everything in her life with me is great. ---- However, exploding, disrespectful, resentful behavior is something that turns me away from even taking the time to present myself to her.

I keep my cool regardless, and still please her needs outside of the sexual part. When this happened to me, I had sex with her and my **** went down so fast I embarrassed myself trying to keep going. I am absolutely not butthurt over the situation but my sex drive has almost disappeared.

The way I feel? I would love this girl even if she had issues similar than mine. But I would not stress myself to the point where I am losing my own damn mind over this with her.

 

[El Payaso]

You need to work on your own issues first before you can have a healthy relationship. Lack of sex would drive most people crazy.

You're obviously not in the right state of mind to be in a relationship so you should drop her and work on yourself as a man.

 

[Jaylan]

While I could understand your guys' concerns weather this woman has the sex or not, I would also like to point out the behavior she addresses and/or lashes out at me. While she might not get a lot of sex, everything in her life with me is great. ---- However, exploding, disrespectful, resentful behavior is something that turns me away from even taking the time to present myself to her.

I keep my cool regardless, and still please her needs outside of the sexual part. When this happened to me, I had sex with her and my **** went down so fast I embarrassed myself trying to keep going. I am absolutely not butthurt over the situation but my sex drive has almost disappeared.

The way I feel? I would love this girl even if she had issues similar than mine. But I would not stress myself to the point where I am losing my own damn mind over this with her.

Trust me bro, we understand that her response to the lack of sex is totally unhelpful and outright b!tchy. But like Payaso just said...you need to work on yourself as a man first before getting into a relationship.

The reality is that this will not work without the sex. Most young people need sex to bond in a relationship, or you end up with problems similar to the ones youre having.

I fashion myself to be a dude who keeps his cool and tries to be even-keeled when dating someone. But if my girlfriend was not giving me sex, even if I was aware of her meds, I might start thinking she was cheating, and I might lose my cool from time to time and lash out. Lack of intimacy in a relationship is very, very tough bro.

I think you should break up with her now, so you can at least have an amicable end to things. I dont see this getting better. And tbh, if I was her, I would have never committed to someone who didnt give me enough sex...or I would have left once I realized the lack of physical intimacy would be a long term thing.

You have to find a way to fix your libido...and if you cant, or if youre ok with having no sex...then you need to find someone more compatible to you and break up with your girlfriend.