"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Messed up! Need damage control advice!

mikeraw

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I started this thread on a different forum on this site. I just realized this is the mos appropriate one... anyways...


I think I messed up really bad this weekend.

I just moved to a new city. I don't know many people, but I do have "friends of friends" over here. This weekend I went over to this guy's house and his girlfriend came home with some girls... all of them kinda 5s or 6s... there was a 4 in there, too... Anyways, we all went out and I met up with this chick that I used to obssess years ago... a friend of a friend talked to her friend and we all went back to my friend's house for a little after party.

There I got really drunk and I started getting with the 4... I think no one saw me, but that's what all drunks think... needless to say, the chick I used to obssess over is not going to want anything with me after I got with the behemoth 4. That doesn't bother me that much, though. All those 5s and 6s and the 4 that I got with are my friend's girlfriend's friends, and I apparently spoke really dirty while I was hooking up with her. That chick I used to be in love with supposedly heard me.

I guess this is not a hooking-up related problem, but I need any advice as to how to patch things up or at least minimize the damage before next weekend, when I'm bound to run into those few people that I know in this new city.

Oh, and there's some guy talking crap on me to that chick I used to be crazy over. Obviously, I need to straighten him up without alienating anyone else... any advice there?

Thanks, guys.

Mikeraw
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drmeathead

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dude you are single and it is none of their business what you do, how you do, or with whom you do it. if they would socially retarded enough to question you about it. diffuse them with humor and change the subject. dont explain yourself with humor but nicely put them back in their boundaries with humor.


them:i heard you the other night with that girl

you:really?

them: yes you were so loud

you: so?
 

RAFCbearfilm

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I agree with Dr. Meathead - So what?

I am still trying to figure out the question here though, seems to me this kind of situation usually drives the HB crazy trying to figure out why you got with the 4 instead of her. Either way you had fun so?
 

mikeraw

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I'm mostly worried about being overheard telling the ugly chick that i was gonna bang her til she forgot her name and other ridiculous things... plus the fact that the morning after talks centered around what a disrespectful way to treat her that was... i think the hostess might not like my presence around her friends... things like this have a way of working themselves out to my advantage over time, but right now i just need a little peace of mind...

Plus, there's this guy there talking crap about me that I simply can't afford to alienate at this moment... not while i'm new in town...

thanks for any additional advice!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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mikeraw said:
...I guess this is not a hooking-up related problem, but I need any advice as to how to patch things up or at least minimize the damage before next weekend, when I'm bound to run into those few people that I know in this new city.

Oh, and there's some guy talking crap on me to that chick I used to be crazy over. Obviously, I need to straighten him up without alienating anyone else... any advice there?
In the future you do plan to put this much effort into women you actually like, right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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