"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

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Messed up a date close for this afternoon, suggest texting?

drift_king

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my potential love interest who didnt return my call yesterday, was walking by to class and i was heading in the same direction.. i asked her what she was doing today, she tells me nothing. then i tell her im picking her up at 2 but i dont tell her where we're going just its not far and to dress warm, then she tells me she is suppose to go to the mountains with her roommate but she is feeling a bit sick so doesnt think she'll go.. this smells like sucha flake and i did the pu$$y thing of letting her let me know in 2 hours, actually i said that would be too late to let me know then, but to let me know in 1 hour.

but i didnt know what the time was so i said what i said. i gave her a time limit on my offer i should have just told her i'd pick her up at 2 instead of giving her the way out to cancel.

anyway she cancelled and asked me some silly question if i was going somewhere tomorrow on some class trip. 'hi, im going to be busy this afternoon, are u going on the class trip tomorrow?'

i was like 'no im busy playing football are u going to the mountain then? we can meet at 4 when i finish playing otherwise sunday at 4 would be better. hows then?' (im wary that i come across way too available which is the reason i lost her originally) she was replying to me straight away cos she was in class so i wanted to make sure i got confirmation now rather than waiting so i didnt read over my texts before i sent them. she sends me straight after 'can we meet on sunday?' i dont know if she read my 1st text where i already offered sunday and a time cos it sounds like she just read the 1st part about tomorrow at 4, anyway a counter offer is a good offer.

i finish it by saying 'yeah tomorrow is halloween so i need to get ready after i finish playing football. i'll pick u up from your dorms at 4 on sunday. see u then'.

unfortunately i sent this right at the end of class so she may have already left her building. had i received it earlier i would have got a reply probably straight. she didnt reply even a 'ok' which makes me think she'll flake saying shes sick or something.

is she just toying with me again?
 
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drift_king

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i am looking way too available aren't i?

i dont know why i make redundunt comments about halloween, i think i was trying to appear busy and got caught in 2 minds but reading back it looks as if im bending my schedule to accommodate her, like 1 min im offering to meet her straight after football and the next min im saying i got to get ready for halloween.. i dont know if she'll pick up on the fact i look keen.

her cancellation this afternoon makes me suspicious like she told me she was getting sick so wasnt going to the mountains, yet needed to confirm with her roommate, but her original text back just tells me shes 'busy' this afternoon. she was rather dressed up which makes me suspicious she has a date this afternoon cos she never replied to if she was going.

maybe cos she knows im into her she can blow me off and go out with another guy, i'd be surprised if someone asked her out in between the 1 hour i saw her. i am suspicious though.

oneitis is a b1tch. now im thinking back to the BS where she tells me shes not doing anything this afternoon then suddenly shes going to the mountain but not sure, now shes busy. man im getting played...
 

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this is giving me a headache lol she ****ed it up not you, she could not get dumber. drop her and get another love interest and you will soon forget her when u begin receiving attention from another girl
 
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