Messaging with this woman

[flowtheory]

I’ve been messaging with this woman. Date is already set for this Friday, seems like it’s already in the bag. Fun to talk to. Nutritionist. Anyways.. we’re talking and all of a sudden she says out of nowhere

Her: “OMG this guy just nearly fell off his bike checking me out haha too funny! Jealous?“
Me: What would I be jealous of?
Her: Touché!
Her: Oh snap you're getting a bit better at this banter thing...

Note: all along I havent told her she’s cute, sexy, hot, etc. (Which she is). She’s even sent me a couple photos of her from this morning which I didn’t comment on. I just continued our convo. She later asked me for a pic saying ‘pretty please. You’re eyes are so beautiful. Blah blah’. To which I sent her a gif saying “not a chance” lol
And throughout the whole conversations I’ve been quite sexual, c*cky, mixed in with good conversation and wit. She texts me a lot so it’s clearly working.
I know it’s all words and doesn’t matter till in person. But is she saying that example above to sh!t test me in some form? Seems odd

 

[Glassguy]

She is seeking validation because you are not foaming at the mouth over her (at least not outwardly). It means you are playing it correctly.

However.....throw her a bone every now and then. Maybe something about her clothing.....shoes...etc. If you give her a personal compliment, be sure its something like "your eyes look very pretty......something is different about them tonight".

You have a perfect scenario for push/pull. Just make sure you dont come across as completely unobtainable or she will eventually lose interest.

When they chase the carrot it's a good thing. Just be sure to let them have a little nibble occasionally so they dont tire out or lose interest.

 

[ohrein]

Seems odd. It doesn't seem like a joke that missed, it seems like she is passing off something she actually thinks as a joke. I'd keep an eye out for more red flags of either excessive insecurity or excessive ego (princess syndrome). You played it perfectly, however, so well done.

 

[Igetit!]

I’ve been messaging with this woman. Date is already set for this Friday, seems like it’s already in the bag. Fun to talk to.

I'm kinda curious as to what you two have been talking about. I mean it's good you two have fun and all speaking to one another,but YOU DON'T want to overdo it on the comfort,while underdoing it on the attraction.

You're good.....just don't let "having fun" overshadow the fact that you're A MAN who finds her SEXUALLY attractive....that has to be paramount.

That thing you tried to do with the last chick,where you tried to get this "deep connection" with her.......how bout we skip that this time,and just keep things surface level...meaning the ONLY CONNECTION you want until you two get to know each other better is your hand connecting to her àss,or lips to her neck.

Get the attraction thing settled FIRST. Then you can move on to the "deeper" stuff.

Anyways.. we’re talking and all of a sudden she says out of nowhere

Her: “OMG this guy just nearly fell off his bike checking me out haha too funny! Jealous?“
Me: What would I be jealous of?
Her: Touché!
Her: Oh snap you're getting a bit better at this banter thing...

Good comeback. If she'd asked me that,the convo probably would have been something like....

Her: “OMG this guy just nearly fell off his bike checking me out haha too funny! Jealous?“
Me: Jealous? Well....I guess I am,a little. I've wanted a bike my whole life and never got one...not even as a kid. What kind was it...was it nice?


Dump the sh1t right back on her. Your line was cool,though....it got the job done.

Note: all along I havent told her she’s cute, sexy, hot, etc. (Which she is).

That's good.....but YOU DO need to express your interest in some way. You shouldn't tell a chick those things anyway,they'll likely just pump up her ego.

When you compliment a chick,don't say "You" anything.....like,don't say "you're" hot,"you're" beautiful...."you're" sexy,or anything like that....say "I",as in "I like". That way it's about YOU and what YOU like. If she send a nice pic of herself,say "I like" then whatever about the pic....don't say "you" look hot in that pic,"you" look sexy,or you ANYTHING. It's "I"......what "I LIKE".

She’s even sent me a couple photos of her from this morning which I didn’t comment on.

Why not? You know...it is possible to express your interest without tripping her attention ho/ego alarm.

And throughout the whole conversations I’ve been quite sexual, c*cky, mixed in with good conversation and wit.

Well since you sent these text,it's likely you still have them. I'd like to see what you consider "sexual" and how you expressed it to her. Cause you got to make it PERSONAL.....between YOU AND HER.......and not have a logical talk about attraction like it's a passing topic of conversation.

But is she saying that example above to sh!t test me in some form? Seems odd

Like Glass said.....probably just looking for a little validation. You didn't fall for it,so that's good. If a chick does ANYTHING to try to get you to express a feeling about or towards her (happy,sad,hurt,anger,jealousy..whatever),it's for her ego. I mean chicks you just met....not someone you've been dating and in a relationship for a while.


JUST REMEMBER......

Have your mind MADE UP about what avenue you want to pursue with her. Don't go into it wishy-wasy trying to decide if you want to just be friends,or pursue something MORE with her. Decide QUICKLY,go full force into making it happen.

 

[flowtheory]

So aftwr the discussion I posted above in my OP, we sent like 23 more messages each. She asked for a photo of me, and I told her she has to wait to Friday ‘good things come to those who wait’ it’s kind of driving her nuts haha but I like it.
Then she said “Okay. But for the record I think you are way out of my league *blush face*”

When a woman says that, is that a red flag or is she trying to get me to boost her ego by that comment?

 

[The Duke]

So aftwr the discussion I posted above in my OP, we sent like 23 more messages each. She asked for a photo of me, and I told her she has to wait to Friday ‘good things come to those who wait’ it’s kind of driving her nuts haha but I like it.
Then she said “Okay. But for the record I think you are way out of my league *blush face*”

When a woman says that, is that a red flag or is she trying to get me to boost her ego by that comment?

Everything @Glassguy said was perfect.

I think this chic is a little nuts. Definitely has some insecurities. Her focus/value is all based on looks it seems.

Her last comment might be that she is fishing for an ego boost or maybe she doesn't look as good in real life as she does in pics.

 

[R.U.G.]

It's usually hit or miss, but if they are wearing a nice dress or skirt, I'd say I like the way you fix yourself up when going out (kinda like a back handed complement). If they have mostly sh!tty pics, I'd say something about their smile or eyes just once to give them a nibble. Again, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. It's a toss-up. You have to give them a carrot to chase. I.E., if they are in a seductive pose, perhaps say their eyes are mesmerizing or your smile lights up the room. Some BS like that. You can also try, if you want to be a bit flirtatious, love the lips, I wonder what else looks good with them. ;'p The later only really works with a woman who has a really high sex drive or is incredibly flirtatious. Need to be careful of the backhanded compliments. They are wising up on them.

 

[flowtheory]

Thanks for the comments, gents! We talked on the phone the other night. She seems fun.

Will update on the date. She seems nuts over me though; it’s flattering.

note: on all dates recently (about 4) and just general flirting in person. Being c*cky andteasi g while knowing you’re valuable WORKS!! Chicks lap it up. They almost deliver themselves to me on a platter. It’s so good to see myself getting good at this

 

[R.U.G.]

Thanks for the comments, gents! We talked on the phone the other night. She seems fun.

Will update on the date. She seems nuts over me though; it’s flattering.

note: on all dates recently (about 4) and just general flirting in person. Being c*cky andteasi g while knowing you’re valuable WORKS!! Chicks lap it up. They almost deliver themselves to me on a platter. It’s so good to see myself getting good at this

Get it in bro. Get it in.

 

[BeExcellent]

It’s so good to see myself getting good at this

And what is happening as a result is that your natural allure and self assurance and self confidence are rising. That is an intangible trait that is extremely attractive and can spiral you upward as your results come to fruition through your behavior. It's the difference between seeing someone else succeed and succeeding yourself.

Enjoy yourself and enjoy your date. In that order.

 

[Trump]

Thanks for the comments, gents! We talked on the phone the other night. She seems fun.

Will update on the date. She seems nuts over me though; it’s flattering.

Be careful. Stable educated women usually don’t go crazy over a guy they just met. Got to be an ulterior motive.

 

[R.U.G.]

Be careful. Stable educated women usually don’t go crazy over a guy they just met. Got to be an ulterior motive.

Stable educated women? I think that's an oxymoron bro. Stable and educated... LOL. Not in the 21st century.

 

[flowtheory]

And what is happening as a result is that your natural allure and self assurance and self confidence are rising. That is an intangible trait that is extremely attractive and can spiral you upward as your results come to fruition through your behavior. It's the difference between seeing someone else succeed and succeeding yourself.

Enjoy yourself and enjoy your date. In that order.

It’s actually kind of crazy. I’m pulling so many women these days. Constant looks, flirtatious behaviour, blushing. I’m doing it with everyone, everything is flowing very well lately in many aspects! I’ll write a big post about this and my growth since swallowing the red pill and being a member here soon.

Be careful. Stable educated women usually don’t go crazy over a guy they just met. Got to be an ulterior motive.

Perhaps. She said she’s the wear her heart in her sleeve type. I don’t know what her alterior motive could be? Poke a hole in all my condoms and ask me to give it to her all night, unbeknownst to me I’ll be a baby daddy in 9 months? Haha

 

[flowtheory]

Will update on the date. She seems nuts over me though; it’s flattering.

Update: had a date with this woman. Calm connection, was chill and good. She showed up dressed really well - pink polka dot dress, pearls, nails done, hair done, pretty full out. I just wore classic tshirt and jeans, white vans. This shows me that she probably doesn’t go on a ton of dates; at least ones she’s interested in? Or maybe I’m wrong.
We went for a walk and then back to my place. Kissed her halfway through. Made out. Watched a ‘IT’ and cuddled throughout; touching her the whole time. After movie went to bed, madeout and spiced things up. She blocked my hand from progressing under her dress. Touched over clothing. She seemed to have wanted it, but stopped progression (I’m assuming this was anti-slvt defence) so I didn’t try more because it was all good. She said it takes her awhile to get used to people. Fairly shy and reserved. Definitely submissive.
She messaged the next day, and we have another date planned for this Friday. She wants to come back over again (she lives 1hr20min away)

Other plate: first date last night she ended up back at my place. She was revved up and ready to go, naked on my bed. She wanted me quite bad. Fingered her.
Funny enough, I was not in to it at all; felt no sexual excitement and was thinking about other things the whole time; my bone broth soup, a book I’m reading, etc haha ugh. Ended up telling her we should watch a movie. I put on my shirt and she wrapped herself in a blanket and we watched a movie. She was really cool, wants to hangout again. But I don’t want to put myself in the position of having her naked and not me not ‘feeling’ it sexually towards her again because I don’t want to have to tell her ‘I just don’t feel it with you’

Many other woman texting and wanting sex. This SoSuave red pill stuff really works for cultivating good game.