"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mentoring the younger man.

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cordoncordon said:
I know that you and I disagree on a lot of things but very well done. I even see you are calling a child "brother". Kinda strange but in this case I could see the effect it would have on him, giving him respect while at the same time letting him know that what he did was wrong.

Points for you.
Disagreement, my brother, is part of perspective respect. I respect yours even though I may not agree with it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Drumstick said:
That was all very good, don't get me wrong, but you're "real men" stuff... I don't totally agree with it. This kid did soemthing and he was ashamed -let him cry, thats real emotion, and thats ok. The real men part is about NEVER doing anything that would make you feel ashamed. I would have let him cry, but tried to comfort him and firmly tell him that he should never do anything that makes him feel shame in himself because that is what a true man does.
Don't say it, dear boy, DO IT!
 
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