"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im looking for a coach or mentor in this area of girls, ive read alot and done alot and I still dont seem to be getting any better. Im stuck, I try to talk to girls at school but make no progress. I am in grade 12 and would like to go out with a bang! My group of friends in enclosed with a few girls whose friends are only others in my group, all computer, gamers and relitivly smart people, not social popular by any respect, more or less the outcast group of kids no one elese can relate to, excluding some cause there is some kids we dont even like :p anyways is there anyone that can help me and work with me? I live in Canada BC and I use msn if somone wants to talk through that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yo Bryce556,


Also, you may want to check out another one of Karma's threads like this one. Pick you some goals that your progress in attaining them can be measured. Start out small, then work your way up. Move at a pace that motivates you, but at the same time, it keeps you from continuing to settle into your usual COMFORT ZONE.

Also, focus on just talking with people (different kinds of people----not JUST girls). Start becoming INTERESTED in other people, AND in what they say, and what THEY are "into". That way, you will continue to develop yourself as you find yourself developing other interests.

Practice talking to girls casually at first, and then as you AND HER get more comfortable, THEN you can begin to escalate things more and MORE towards the "romantic" direction. DO THIS until your confidence grows and you feel the "fear" getting smaller inside of you.

NEVER look at any girl, or ANYBODY as "above" you. You are the MOST important person on the planet, because there is only ONE "you". So focus on being ALL you can be. And celebrate EVERY success you have during this process----no matter how "small" you may think it is. Because ONE success ALWAYS builds into, AND inspires another.

Also, read this post I made in this thread just to get you started on the path of being able to relate to a broader and BROADER group of people------especially GIRLS.


March on, young soldier.
 
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Your mentor should be grounded in truth and not in words. Seek your masculinity first and foremost before you seek a woman. Once you have a secure grasp of your masculinity then, and only then, will you know what women is best suited for you! Do not follow popular opinion - popularity leads to the same fate as the masses of men - which is disappointment and distress! Do the exact opposite of what the mass media tells you to do - seek your manhood and reject the hor!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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