"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mental exercises - help with

Magnatolia

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Hi All,

I've been trying a lot of the different mental exercises - things to boost confidence, self-esteem etc. I find that my inner voice tends to ignore these things - usually my inner voice will say things like that won't work.

Any advice on how to get around this?

Thanks
Jason
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your inner voice is you man.............It's not that hard every time you catch yourself saying something negative...

CORRECT IT

I use to wear an elastic band around my wrist whenever I thought something negative I pull the elastic back and let it go.

After 2 weeks I never had negative thoughts about myself.
 

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I'll have to try that - I've tried all the traditional ways, maybe pain will be the key. How many times did you use the band in the two weeks.

These are the sort of tips that I've been looking for. The things people did to overcome their shyness.

Thanks for that.
 

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READ THESE BOOKS

psychocybernetics
the hidden powers of the sub-concious mind

once you master your imagination you master your
destiny

for starters, imagine being successfull in the ways you
want to be.
see it in as much detail and clairity as possible.
do this prior to bed and prior to bed.
try this for a for weeks.

this is no different then wanting to approach a girl
but seeing in your mind that you already failed
so you don't do it.

instead of seeing failure...see success.
theres alot more to it then that but this is just a quick
example.

it's no suprise that one of the NO#1 ways of psychologists
in determining the mental state of a patient is in evaluating
their fantasies and thoughts.
fantasies and thoughts are blueprints for the future.
good or bad you get what you think about,
think success and what you want in life..:cheer:
 
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