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Mental block with what to say as an opener?!

ryanvalmont

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Ok so i get countless girls ALL the time through doing my thing like using ec,dancing etc...

But i DO NOT OPEN GIRLS,yeah it's not that i'm afraid as because i can say without hesitation that i'm not that shy to aviod opening girls.

It's just whenever i go out i have SOOOOO MUCH confidence it kinda freaks me out,i mean i walk REAL slow and look like this badass who get's girls whenever he wants.

But my problem is i CAN'T open girls ATALL,it's just i can't think of a good enough opener that will come across non needy and kinda smooth!.

BTW:this is my first post in this great forum,i hope i can get some advice on how to open girls....maybe some newbie opener lines?

THX

Ryan Valmont
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"Hello.." is always a good one to use :)

I like the Joey (Friends style) of "Hey, how you doin?" type opener.

Other than that the search function is a really useful tool.
 

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Originally posted by ThEFuRy
"Hello.." is always a good one to use :)

I like the Joey (Friends style) of "Hey, how you doin?" type opener.

Other than that the search function is a really useful tool.
yeah i gotta try something,i forgot about the search funtion (my bad)

Anyhow i just wanted to know some newbie openers to guys who are just learning to approach or haven't really approached yet.
 

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To be honest all the girls I've ever pulled in clubs I've just said things like 'hey, how u doing' (not in a cheesy way lol) or hi or I'll just make a comment about something like their perfume or the barmaid/barman or whatever. I don't really think the opener matters that much, it's just a way to get convo started. You sound like you have lots of confidence so you should be fine anyway
 

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i'm exactly the same. confidence skyhigh when i go out, but i just don't open.

i do open when it seems very very easy, like if i get good ec with a girl or bump into one; i'm just like "alright, hows it goin?" "havin a good night?" "who are you here with" etc

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although usually, my m8s just open me up to girls anyway - "hey, this is gay gav"; it's still fvckin happening
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by SteR
To be honest all the girls I've ever pulled in clubs I've just said things like 'hey, how u doing' (not in a cheesy way lol) or hi or I'll just make a comment about something like their perfume or the barmaid/barman or whatever. I don't really think the opener matters that much, it's just a way to get convo started. You sound like you have lots of confidence so you should be fine anyway
Thx Ster,my confidence really FRIGHTENS me once i get outside the door heading to the club.

It's as if i turn into this really cool dude and leave my other more reserved self at home...

Ok so i'm out tommorow night to my main pick up club and was thinking of just saying "hey there, how's it going?"...or maybe "hi,i'm ryan...how's it going?"
 

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Ask them who lies more, girls or guys?
 

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dude there is nothing to it.

You see all the badasses out there getting laid, they ain't rehearsin lines and ****. They ain't doin NLP or this nerdy seduction pattern ****.

To get a chick is all embedded in your DNA in fact everyone's DNA. This is why monkeys and dogs aren't out there reading guides on how to get laid.

Stop thinking, let your testosterone do the talking for you. You know that emotion that makes you want to ****, be aggressive, dominate. Get in touch with it. Don't hide it like society wants you to.

For Example: Just like if you wanted you could let your anger loose. Sometimes this is good to do. You see how your brain controls if you act upon your anger. If you bottle it up it comes out another way. You gotta do the same thing with your sex emotion to get girls. Just let it go and don't give a ****. Shut your brain off and feel how its telling you to act.

Let testosterone take over when interacting with females and you'll be fine.

If some of you remember how david deangelo was saying when you get to a certain point "IT DOESN"T MATTER what you say". I think underneath what he figured out on a deeper level. He figured out that when you let your testosterone take over it doesn't matter what you say cause it's sexy as **** to a girl to be a man and be masculine.

Stop thinking with your brain. Next time you're in the social situation, stop trying to think about the situation and just act on what your body is telling you to do. It might take a while to get in touch with it but its there.

Sex doesn't come from the neo cortex. It has ZERO to do with it. This is why chicks like bad boys but in their brains they know they are jerks and no good.

Anyways, If you are still saying oooooo "what should i say" oooo "when is the right time to call her" you are missing the point.
 

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Originally posted by Jvesti
dude there is nothing to it.

You see all the badasses out there getting laid, they ain't rehearsin lines and ****. They ain't doin NLP or this nerdy seduction pattern ****.

To get a chick is all embedded in your DNA in fact everyone's DNA. This is why monkeys and dogs aren't out there reading guides on how to get laid.

Stop thinking, let your testosterone do the talking for you. You know that emotion that makes you want to ****, be aggressive, dominate. Get in touch with it. Don't hide it like society wants you to.

For Example: Just like if you wanted you could let your anger loose. Sometimes this is good to do. You see how your brain controls if you act upon your anger. If you bottle it up it comes out another way. You gotta do the same thing with your sex emotion to get girls. Just let it go and don't give a ****. Shut your brain off and feel how its telling you to act.

Let testosterone take over when interacting with females and you'll be fine.

If some of you remember how david deangelo was saying when you get to a certain point "IT DOESN"T MATTER what you say". I think underneath what he figured out on a deeper level. He figured out that when you let your testosterone take over it doesn't matter what you say cause it's sexy as **** to a girl to be a man and be masculine.

Stop thinking with your brain. Next time you're in the social situation, stop trying to think about the situation and just act on what your body is telling you to do. It might take a while to get in touch with it but its there.

Sex doesn't come from the neo cortex. It has ZERO to do with it. This is why chicks like bad boys but in their brains they know they are jerks and no good.

Anyways, If you are still saying oooooo "what should i say" oooo "when is the right time to call her" you are missing the point.
Ok my friend,sounds like a great way of seeing things,i'll give it a try tommorow night and report back here

Thx for the cool advice so far peeps...off to sleep some now

Ryan Valmont
 

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My advice is just walk up to a girl and say hi, if she responds positively ask her name and make an observational comment anything will do to break the ice. After that your natural charm and charisma should take over. Dont worry about C&F or Neg hits or any of that ****, just be a fun guy to be around and be flirty. I guarantee that if a girl finds you attractive this will work.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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