men wounded pride and hate

[kelv]

Anybody can recommend a good way to rectify this situation?
For eg if i text/call a girl, and she doesn’t reply, the first thing that comes to my mind is “öh shes such a *****” wun even reply me. And i will just force myself to lose interest in her. In the past afc style, I will keep wondering about why she doesn’t reply me.

I know girls aren’t that evil/manipulative but I cant help feeling this way if somehow if I felt I got shortchanged. I think I feel my inner game is not strong enough. Someday it gets freakin high and somedays it just hits rock bottom and I think about such **** stuffs. This is due to my afc past where I got rejected alot of times mercilessly and now harbour abit of grudge against girls when the outcome isn’t wad I expected. I even googled on “hating women” which i presume is serious enough to warrant some help. WHAT DO I DO!?

 

[terran2k]

only thing I can tell you is find out what you're doing wrong and adapt.

 

[rtrev64]

what I do is not hate, I do feel sometimes dished, kicked to the curb and it happens alot and does not feel good but, I know that my history suggests, I will be banging some other chick in the near future.

Dont hate, just fix up your game some and score..always have backup. again I am learning that cause chicks will say one thing and convince you that it will be just the two of you but something or someones-past or present jumps in and screws all that up and guess what? your back to square one.

Just score and have others your working on. btw, you may get 3 chicks and you can be banging all 3 but there is a chance you can lose all three. It happend to me, talk bout hitting rock bottom but guess what? there are plenty of fish in the sea, get another three as I do..look back and say, damn Im a dog but only because all they want is to have fun and sex is fun for the chicks too..

 

[Interceptor]

You have to get to the point where you are not consistently Investing into a woman who hasnt proved herself to you.

When she doesnt text you back, its because it is a test and a rejection.

If you freak out, you failed her test. Youre not what she wants, you cant handle rejection or emotions. She doesnt want that kind of man in her life as a partner.

If she doesnt text you, it also can mean she is just not interested and because she doesnt know you or anything, shes not going to spend time trying to explain to you why she's not interested..

Youare EXPECTING a text back. Meaning you are operating to Get A REACTION.
When you do that, its not genuine. Youre operating from Ego, not true self esteem.

Youre trying to get her to react to you. That comes from feeling invisible, it is a place of weakness , and a feeling of powerlessness ultimately.

Dont do that anymore.

Remove yourSELF from the Ego, and accept her decision to not reply and move on.
Dont waste time on a woman who is NOT responding to you. She is not reciprocating. She is not WELCOMING you.
These are KEY things that a Man needs to feel motivated to move forward.
And she knows that. And if she's not doing it, it usually means for you to stay away.

Since you often barely know her, and you feel a meed to get a reaction, youre not in a proper place to evaluate how Valueable she really IS to you as a partner.

She is showing you by not replying that she doesnt see you as a potential partner.
Case closed.
Rejection is never easy.
But youre time is better spent on a woman who IS reciprocating and making an effort to be with you. She is welcoming YOU. She is showing you that she wants you to be with her.

Understand that these women are usually operating from a place where they will pick and choose their mate, and and will not invest in a man who hasnt in a sense 'proved' himself. If she is not emotionally invested in you, you must let go of NEEDING for her to react to you. You myust let go of needing her ATTENTION.
You need to let go of the need for Validation by her.

You feel bad about yourself because a certain female did not respond to you.
That doesnt mean youre not worthy of a romantic partner, or love and respect.
(This is tied into the need for a womans Sexual Approval before moving forward with her. And sometimes men confuse this need and can be so desperate that they dont even SEE the particular female in front of them.)

You must keep these things intact at all times.
Dont let a woman control your own Value.
Sure, rejection can get depressing.
Feeling unfulfilled and unloved is no joke. It IS serious. Of course it hurts, man.
But you have to understand that this woman hasnt proved anything to you. She hasnt even replied to a text.
So she is NOT a worthy candidate for your love and affection and resources.

Value your resources however modest they may appear to you.
They DO have value.

Dont let a random stranger decide your Worth.

And dont let the feeling of rejection begin to cloud your mind so that you become bitter and resentful. Then you become a cynic. And you wont find much happiness in that mindset.
Its not about not respecting those women who dont reply, its about only saving your love, affection, resources, and KINDNESS for the woman who RECIPROCATES. Who wants to give it back to you. Who VALUES those things you have inside of you to GIVE.
Its true. "Dont Hate".



Good luck.

 

[Jack-Torrance]

Easy.

Just don't let yourself fall too much "in love" with one girl before you KNOW FOR SURE that she is into you. That way if one girl doesn't get back, you can just be like " how dare you not reply, you are off the christmas card list" and start talking to another girl.