Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Men who Mate-Guard: Anything More Pathetic?

Stugots26

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I've recently noticed at least one of my plates whose beta boyfriend mate-guards to all hell on social media. He posts pictures of the two of them calling her "his girlfriend" and tags her, and later the posts "mysteriously" disappear. It's absolutely transparent and pathetic. Revolting, actually. But I can't help but smile.

I can't think of a single more telling action on the part of a man than mate-guarding to scream to everyone, including his girlfriend, that he's an insecure beta who's fighting a losing battle of waning attraction.

Anyone else have any good stories about instances of mate-guarding they've witnessed?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No, there's nothing more pathetic. And it's obvious to everyone around, including the woman.

If anything, do the opposite. Don't visit any social media she's on.

If she says: "Did you see that picture I posted on fb, wasn't it funny!"

You say: "no, you know I'm almost never on those sites"

Then change the subject. If she wants to show you a picture, she has a phone for that.
 

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Stugots26 said:
I can't think of a single more telling action on the part of a man than mate-guarding to scream to everyone, including his girlfriend, that he's an insecure beta who's fighting a losing battle of waning attraction.
:up:

Excellent post man. I bolded the key here....

It's nothing more than attraction levels. Your girlfriend loves you when they are high.....and she despises you when they are low.

They are usually in flux. But the two extreme ends of the spectrum are usually constant. If every man would just focus on becoming the best man he can possible be and start respecting himself.....then sh1tty women would cease to exist.

INSTEAD

We have mate guarding. It comes in several forms but the result is the same. A cringe worthy look from fellow males.....and a pitfall of attraction from females.
 

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Chronocidal said:
Meh. I don't like social-media at all, and don't bother with it, but really, what's the difference between "mate guarding" and "blowing out an attempted AMOGing"?
One is a soon to be cucked beta herb pathetically pawing his prize.

The other is two men socially squaring off. Has nothing to do with clinging to a woman like an insecure baby chimp.
 

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Oh I have never indicated I even notice her posts. Certainly no likes or comments. I'm just a casual observer, and when these things pop up I can't help but smile internally and cringe at the same time.

Dude's talking about his sweet baby girlfriend, and I'm thinking, "The sweet baby girlfriend who was gagging on my c0ck a few weeks ago?"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chronocidal said:
In either case, however, it's merely an attempt to ward off competition (from the other man/men). The concept and purpose is the same. Should the attempt at negating the AMOGing fail, the person deploying may well be a "cucked beta herb".
You shouldn't have to thwart an AMOG. As in the link that was posted, if an attempted AMOGer moves into the vicinity, your woman should then move in closer to yours. Or, simply thwart it herself. If you are a high value man in her eyes, any outside attempts at hurting the relationship, the woman will fend off herself.

Other than the occasional extreme example, if your woman invited or, complied, with the AMOGers attempts, you would simply withdraw your attention.

Other than being polite in a social setting, your woman will not disrepect you if she respects you and the relationship.

What, do you think a woman can't fend off a man by herself? How often do attractive women get hit on in a social setting when they're alone? They have learned, from a young age, how to deflect approaches by men they are not interested in. It will only increase if they are already with a man of high value, who they already see as Alpha.
 

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Chronocidal said:
In either case, however, it's merely an attempt to ward off competition (from the other man/men). The concept and purpose is the same. Should the attempt at negating the AMOGing fail, the person deploying the tactic may well end up a "cucked beta herb".
One comes from a place of insecurity and a time proven way to fail with a woman. The other is just a way to blow competitors out and display ones social savviness now that the law frowns upon violence. Either way both violence or social finesse will always generate tingles. Mate guarding kills tingles. A big difference in my opinion.
 

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what if you're a bit of a braggart and you're not mate-guarding, you're showing off to all who will listen. I know guys like that.
 

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Reminds me of last week in my salsa class. Some beta chump brought his gf to class, but wouldn't let anyone dance with her while everyone was rotating partners every 2 minutes. Why bring your gf out to learn salsa in a class setting if your so insecure about it? The gf wasn't even anything special either something like a 5.5-6.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Stugots26 said:
Dude's talking about his sweet baby girlfriend, and I'm thinking, "The sweet baby girlfriend who was gagging on my c0ck a few weeks ago?"
Wow, what a cool dude you must be. I don't know what you're congratulating yourself so much for. It's good that you are not emotionally involved, but you're still sharing this girl's vagina with this guy. If you go down on her, do you taste his nasty c0ck? Is that a turn on for you?
 

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You're right zekko. I must be a cool dude. Thanks for noticing.:cool:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stugots26 said:
You're right zekko. I must be a cool dude. Thanks for noticing.:cool:
Good comeback. :up:
 
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Stugots26 said:
I've recently noticed at least one of my plates whose beta boyfriend mate-guards to all hell on social media. He posts pictures of the two of them calling her "his girlfriend" and tags her, and later the posts "mysteriously" disappear. It's absolutely transparent and pathetic. Revolting, actually. But I can't help but smile.

I can't think of a single more telling action on the part of a man than mate-guarding to scream to everyone, including his girlfriend, that he's an insecure beta who's fighting a losing battle of waning attraction.

Anyone else have any good stories about instances of mate-guarding they've witnessed?
strange because your a virgin. YOU HAVENT EVEN BEEN TO SECOND BASE IDIOT. go home and eat your macaronis
 
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Stugots26 said:
Oh I have never indicated I even notice her posts. Certainly no likes or comments. I'm just a casual observer, and when these things pop up I can't help but smile internally and cringe at the same time.

Dude's talking about his sweet baby girlfriend, and I'm thinking, "The sweet baby girlfriend who was gagging on my c0ck a few weeks ago?"
On your one incher? yea right virgin
 

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Curious what the race of this guy is? I would expect Asian because I see this everywhere I look. Wherever there is an extreme shortage of women, you'll see this behavior.
 

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My opinion is that mate-guarding among humans is more common than not. In fact, it's sort of socially accepted... QUITE socially accepted. Guys who don't mate-guard are usually looked upon kind of strangely.

Remember a time when I was at a bar with a chick (call her "X") I was dating and was talking with her friend. "X" was over talking with some other dude who was better looking, taller, more built than I. The friend pointed it out to me and I shrugged and tried to go back to the conversation she and I were having.

She said, "Aren't you going over to pull her away from that guy?" I shrugged again, played dumb and said, "Why would I do that?" knowing full well why most guys would do that. She seemed exasperated and later "X" told me that the friend had complained that I mustn't care for her all that much if I wasn't threatened by other men talking with her.

Kind of interesting.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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