"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Men who go abroad to find women.

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What's the deal with men who go overseas to find women? Are they all overweight, nerdy, desperate control freaks who could never cut it in Western Society?

God some of the videos I've seen from international 'dating' services are loaded with lulz!

Check out Ilovelatins on youtube. Or Winston Wu's videos. (They may've been taken down.)

I watched Winston Wu's videos and that guy is a grade A loser. Couldn't restrain himself from calling every woman "hot". What a friggin pathetic perverted nerd.

Ilovelatins videos are nothing more than an escort service for desperate perverted morons who think they are 'real men'. Hilarious!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i live in ny and travel to the caribbean(dominican rep..puerto rico...jamaica aruba) quite frequently.

i dont go to find women ...the women find me:rockon:

i go for the weather....

i go because the dollar takes me further overseas than to waste it in vegas.

plus foreign women are generally hotter and better shape.
 

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Actually even the lonely and desperate types have mates in such countries and people still marry young and marry out of love. I ve never seen this many single men as in the West anywhere else.
 

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I can attest to having more fun overseas outside the US that is. Women are hotter (less of the obesity problems and such), look younger and are more willing in other parts of the world.
 

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PapiChulo said:
Actually even the lonely and desperate types have mates in such countries and people still marry young and marry out of love. I ve never seen this many single men as in the West anywhere else.
Yeah cause you can go out and drink and mingle at 18 in most parts of the world or younger if they don't enforce the age.

The US is conservative.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What's the deal with men who go overseas to find women? Are they all overweight, nerdy, desperate control freaks who could never cut it in Western Society?
You could say that however I hope you don't equate that with being losers. In order to go abroad you need to have some money so these guys are definitely not dumb or losers. They are successful men that just don't want to put up with American women's bs.

Some might say that they are lazy in terms of not trying to work on themselves in order to get women from their native countries, while others like Jimbo might say that American women with their stupid attitude, self entitlement and feminist mindset are not worth fighting for. Specially when you can get a hot young woman in parts of the world where men are still treated like kings so why put up with all the bs from women of the western world?

I think there's truth to both sides however i don't think the guys abroad care what you think as they are having the time of their lives while you are here trying to figure out the girls here with all their games and what not. ;)

I think we owe it to ourselves to experience as many women as possible from all types of backgrounds. Jimbo does lay out a good plan enjoy women when you're young and when you're in your mid 40's marry a hot 20 year old that will treat you like a king.
 

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I want to go overseas to meet new woman. Not because I'm desperate but because it's always refreshing to see new girls. Them foreign girls be some of the most prettiest girls.
 

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f283000 said:
I think there's truth to both sides however i don't think the guys abroad care what you think as they are having the time of their lives while you are here trying to figure out the girls here with all their games and what not. ;)
No time to waste on my part 'figuring out' what games women play. I already am well aware they are always testing. I find it amusing and ignore it or play dumb to it while I flip it on them. Drives them insane.

I think we owe it to ourselves to experience as many women as possible from all types of backgrounds. Jimbo does lay out a good plan enjoy women when you're young and when you're in your mid 40's marry a hot 20 year old that will treat you like a king.
I'm not talking about people who've travelled abroad to see new places and wind up meeting women in the process. I'm talking about men who specifically go international looking for women. I've travelled quite a few times abroad to see new places and have no problems meeting chicks in other countries as well as America.
 

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I want to go overseas to meet new woman. Not because I'm desperate but because it's always refreshing to see new girls. Them foreign girls be some of the most prettiest girls.

Oh there are definately loads of friendly intelligent hotties in many other countries. I will say it's a complete eye opener in their attitudes and intelligence. Though even having been overseas a few times and to other countries I'm not the one to expect to wife up someone who has her own life in her own country.
 

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What?

"Men going abroad to find women????"

I think the biggest problem with this is that too many men go looking for women but only wind up finding a "Broad".

Sorry...couldn't resist. lol

But seriously, no matter where a man finds women, there's no way in hell that he'll ever KEEP any of them if he fails to continue to be "a MAN" when he's WITH them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Not all of us are ideally suited for the situation we are born into. What's wrong with playing to your strengths?
 

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A man either has enough resources to keep a woman happy, or not.
 

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Depends. There are very legitimate reasons a man would seek out a foreign girlfriend.

I spend about 50% of my time working overseas in a developing country (however it is developed enough that there is a night-life and so on, i.e. things in the dating world which are familiar to westerners). I didn't come here to date the local girls, but they would turn anyone's head. :crazy:

The women in the country are educated, modest, kind, respectful of men, very well-dressed, and the majority of them take good care of themselves and have great figures. At no point would it even occur to these women to cross their man or act out of line. There is none of the bullsh*t, arrogance, active disdain, and general b*tchyness that causes so much unnecessary hassle for men in my home country.
 

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There is nothing wrong with finding a girlfriend, wife, or fvckbuddy abroad. But there is a problem with going abroad to find a girlfriend, wife, or fvckbuddy.

If you cannot get along with ANY women or men with your SAME culture, background, norms, and history the problem is YOU, not them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Most of these guys don't know that they can do better and end up dating the first oversea's chick that puts out for them. Normally it's some uggo that the locals won't give the time of day to.
 
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