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Who said anything about being leaders? I have no reason to debate with anyone who keeps propping up straw men.

I wish you luck with whatever gold digger latches on to you, just make sure the money doesn't run out.
Why am i arguing with a person that said "on average women are smarter than men". You literally wrote this. With no evidence on a mens forum. Wow.....
 

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Why am i arguing with a person that said "on average women are smarter than men". You literally wrote this. With no evidence on a mens forum. Wow.....
You're a big boy, I'm not going to hand hold you for easily accessible research that you can get with a few clicks on google.



Also look at the recent university statistics. I'm sure @SW15 can help you find them if you are too dense.
 

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Nevermind, this is getting off course. Pandora exposed himself as doing no research on anything and spewing a few anectodal accounts to base his entire frame of thinking on.

I'm leaving this thread, hope someone found it useful.
 

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You're a big boy, I'm not going to hand hold you for easily accessible research that you can get with a few clicks on google.



Also look at the recent university statistics. I'm sure @SW15 can help you find them if you are too dense.
Getting the majority of student loan debt for worthless degrees is genius.

Having the majority of credit card debt is genius.

Having thousands of abortions a month is super smart and genius.

Inviting trans men to compete in women sports intellegent and genius.

Choosing to become single mothers is genius.

Yes I was wrong. Women are way smarter than men. They are genius.

JMO as a highly intuitive female but I think generally speaking (there are always exceptions) men dominate intellectually (IQ) and women dominate emotionally (EQ).

My husband for example is in awe of my innate ability to perceive situations and read people accurately. As well as my knowledge of human nature, male/female dynamics and polarity.

And apply my knowledge accurately to assess and understand any given situation. My EQ.

While HE excels intellectually and in business. I could never understand the aspects of building and operating a successful business and managing hundreds of thousands of dollars on a daily basis and frankly wouldn't want to!

And the books he reads! Way over my head intellectually. His IQ. Close or at genius level.

It's a dynamic that works very well for us and keeps things balanced in different ways.

Yang (masculine) to my yin (feminine) so to speak.
Exactly. Men are more logical and have wisdom. Women have more emotional IQ and intution. Women also have an eye asthetics.

All traits are vital. To say that women are "smarter" than men is nonsense and is feminist propaganda.
 
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I don’t trust virgins because I think every girl has to get a ONS under her belt at some point.
 

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He is very good looking, very fit & athletic and very masculine. He could model easily. He comes off arrogant to people often, and he doesn’t care really. He doesn’t need his mom or a mommy, that is laughable. He’s an elite level athlete in an extreme sport, so he’s an adrenaline junkie (although his sport doesn’t give him the rush it once did
Being good looking, fit and athletic doesn't say anything about how the man (or woman for that matter) feels inside...on the contrary, the more athletic and competitive in an extreme sport one is, the higher the chance one does that to mask or try to conquer some deep seated insecurities.

You actually admitted a while back that he's insecure ;)
My BF mate guards out of his own insecurities. Period. His own deep seated fear that he isn’t good enough to keep a woman like me.

Otherwise he wouldn’t tell everyone that it took him 30 years to find me. Otherwise he would see me as replaceable. He doesn’t see me as replaceable. I am not.
 

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My fiancé a cuck?

He’s anything but a cuck, quasi cuck or anything else.

Just because you don’t understand or relate to something doesn’t mean it’s cool to insult it.
This is not an insult at all. This is also not my belief system. It is a statement of fact. Calling your fiancé a cuck is no different than calling a desert an area that is lacking in rainfall.

Cuck is short for cuckold. The dictionary definition of cuckold is below.


Based on that definition, he doesn't qualify as a cuck. However, there's more. Cuckold is used in a connotative sense to describe a man who makes parental effort with a child that is not his own. Being romantically involved with a woman with children under 18 still living at home counts as parental effort. Wikipedia (1st link) describes that biological definition while citing the 2006 book in the 2nd link as reason for that statement. In the third link, Rich Cooper, author of The Unplugged Alpha, makes the statement below.

"when you get involved with a single mommy, you have to understand that you're signing up for your own cuckoldry"



 

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I know a few professional models from when I worked in the profession in NYC, who are some of the most insecure people on the face of the planet, even re their looks in some cases which was surprising.
Yeah, appearance can sometimes be very misleading...for instance the brunette in the photo looks like my type, a demure, innocent girl ... but she's a pornstar :oops: The blondes are too, but they look the part.
 
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Yeah, appearance can sometimes be very misleading...for instance the brunette in the photo looks like my type, a demure, innocent girl ... but she's a pornstar :oops: The blondes are too, but they look the part.
The amount of bat shvt crazy women out there is outstanding because society lets them thrive. All a girl has to do to look innocent is dress accordingly, put on some makeup, and hide her tattoos to appear demure/innocent.

Crazy guys are either dead or in jail by 25.
 

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Being good looking, fit and athletic doesn't say anything about how the man (or woman for that matter) feels inside...on the contrary, the more athletic and competitive in an extreme sport one is, the higher the chance one does that to mask or try to conquer some deep seated insecurities.

You actually admitted a while back that he's insecure ;)
This is not an attack again BeExcellent. This is just an interesting observation I noticed based on what you wrote. I used to hang out with some high preforming marine officers. My highschool and college best friend was a marine officer from the Academy. These guys were super smart, super accomplished but I was surprised that they were still very insecure. If they failed at something they would take it very personally. They would also try to compete with you on just about everything. I was just shocked because I expected such accomplished men to be very secure.

They are still amazing dudes though. This was my early to mid 20's so maybe they are different now.
 

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Listen. My fiancé is not a cuckold by any definition. I know him, you don’t. I cannot stand men who would be any variety of cuckold, and I am loyal. So you are incorrect on all counts and any assertions otherwise are stupid because you do not know what or who you are talking about.

In the quote you referenced @pipeman84 I refer to his insecurities, but he not an insecure man. Every human being has insecurities. My fiancé is not insecure.

I am a millionaire and hang around other millionaires. That’s a different social strata than he is accustomed to and he does not have the same net worth as many of the men I know socially and these are men who think I’m hot. He earns a 6 figure income & does fine financially but he’s not worth tens of millions of dollars like people I know well who have taken a company public. I’m loyal to him so no one else has a chance, but it’s been an adjustment for him interacting with very wealthy & successful people who are routine to me.
 

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Listen. My fiancé is not a cuckold by any definition.
Except by @SW15 ´s definition. Clearly you will never admit he´s a cuckold (and Im not saying he is) and I doubt you are gonna change @SW15 ´s views on this.

In all fairness, I have avoided single moms, that´s no secret. BUT If I could pull a millionare single mom, I couldnt care less if people called me a cuck or whatever just because she´s a single mom.
 

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Except by @SW15 ´s definition. Clearly you will never admit he´s a cuckold (and Im not saying he is) and I doubt you are gonna change @SW15 ´s views on this.

In all fairness, I have avoided single moms, that´s no secret. BUT If I could pull a millionare single mom, I couldnt care less if people called me a cuck or whatever just because she´s a single mom.
People enjoy too much labeling and being judgmental

It is irrelevant if she is a single mom , a virgin , a femme fatale , etc

What matters is how you feel when you are around her , as long as you do not stay with her only because you are scared that you will not find another woman . Basically due to scarcity
 

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Except by @SW15 ´s definition. Clearly you will never admit he´s a cuckold (and Im not saying he is) and I doubt you are gonna change @SW15 ´s views on this.

In all fairness, I have avoided single moms, that´s no secret. BUT If I could pull a millionare single mom, I couldnt care less if people called me a cuck or whatever just because she´s a single mom.
Here’s the strange thing about all this. Much like men who are well off and have some common sense I do not go around advertising my net worth.

When my man first met me in a random public venue he knew nothing about me other than my physical appearance. He did not know my age, my net worth, where I lived, what I drive, nothing.

He was struck by my physical appearance before he knew anything else about me. He also assumed that I was already married. As soon as he realized I wasn’t he immediately got my information and he lost no time contacting me and asking me out.

It was only over time that he found out I really have my act together. And of course that simply ups my appeal and my value in his eyes. Add to that he observes how other men respond to my physical appearance from afar and he knows they see me just as he first saw me (as very attractive, hot, whatever).

So he was attracted physically straight up. Everything else is a bonus, and because of the total package I am he has accepted that my children (who do not need a father figure in him) are part of the equation.

Why that is so hard to accept I have no idea (other than it doesn’t line up with the dearly held belief systems of some here) but I assure you that’s my absolute objective reality.
 

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@BeExcellent I have come to really admire you, but it boggles my mind why you take such criticisms (or what you perceive to be criticisms) so personally and feel you need to defend yourself against them to the extent that you do.

Does it really matter what @SW15 or anyone else thinks? Everyone is entitled to their opinions including about you, your fiancé and how you came to be.

Being an intelligent and evolved person, you must know a secure genuinely confident person would simply let it go, ignore, move on, who cares?

I mean seriously, you know why your fiancé became attracted to you and ultimately fell in love with you, why do you care what anyone else thinks, especially on an anonymous forum?

Truth is, your defensive stance works against you rather than for you. It just doesn't place you in a good positive light, it makes you appear a bit full of yourself even though I know that is not your intention.

You're simply defending yourself and wanting to prove to the poster who criticized you and anyone else listening why they're "wrong." I get it.

Recently, I was criticized and well as my husband. A couple of posters accused him of being a psychopath, dark triad and suggested that is why I fell for him.

So not true and said so, once or twice tops. Mentioned that I would appreciate both my husband and myself being respected and then I LET IT GO.

Nothing was mentioned since (to my knowledge anyway).

Are you into Eastern philosophy/religion at all? Buddhism? Speak your piece once, then let it go.

The Law of Detachment

1. Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.

It took me a LONG time to learn this even during my time on this forum. Hell I am still learning! And every once in a while I get wound up too. But then I think about this law and let it roll off. Not doing so only creates MORE drama.

Sometimes I still fail at this, but I try!

But best to just ignore what you perceive as criticisms or insults you will save yourself a lot of unnecessary frustration by doing so.

Hope things are going well with your wedding/marriage plans and I wish both you and your fiancé all the best!
Cool law, girl. Thanks 4 sharing :)
 

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People enjoy too much labeling and being judgmental

It is irrelevant if she is a single mom , a virgin , a femme fatale , etc

What matters is how you feel when you are around her , as long as you do not stay with her only because you are scared that you will not find another woman . Basically due to scarcity
I agree that scarcity mentality can be a B1tch. Not proud to admit I suffered from it in the past
 

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Thanks, and yeah it is!
I'm glad you captured the post because on further reflection, I decided to delete it!

Not the place. :).
Lol. This time I didnt do it in purpose
 

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I agree that scarcity mentality can be a B1tch. Not proud to admit I suffered from it in the past
It's common to have scarcity mentality issues. This is part of why this thread was created. Scarcity mentality is a common symptom of the beta male disease.

 

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I would not necessarily say it's in a good way. It may seem like she is good with it, but female nature does not work that way. Be careful she isn't planning to kill you.
I get a laugh out of the responses like this when I bring up open relationships on this site. People like us do exist and we live a fun filled life. Stop assuming all women are like the prudes you know. And yes female nature absolutely does work this way for some women.
 
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