Men seem to make life for women worse

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Article about single women in the US sharing their dating woes.

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By 2030, 45% of prime working age women in the US, defined as women aged between 25 and 44, will be single according to Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts – the largest share in history.

Society has now cultivated two generations of feministic dogma. The philosophy towards total liberation against the nuclear family is already falling apart. Excellent quotes, plus data, in post illustrates the growing angst within the population.

Nearly half of American women are going to be in constant angst. Over saturation of anything is always the best medicine. The bad experiences and the chirping that today's girls experience from now nearly half of their elders is going to form a worldview against feminism.

Improves my optimism as a father of a young girl.

Really good post.

 

[Randall Stephens]

Let's be real. Most women have the options of choosing between cow turds and dog sh!t as options.

What do you think went wrong here in the West? Feminism, the Great Sh!t-Test men failed collectively?

And now what can be done to rectify the problem?

 

[zekko]

despite this, difficult to find a girl that at least does not make my life worse. Most women are a pain in the ass to date

So I do not really buy the narrative that the guys are necessarily the big issue with them being single

Both genders have some culpability. It's the culture we live in. Everybody is selfish, men and women alike.

 

[Randall Stephens]

Both genders have some culpability. It's the culture we live in. Everybody is selfish, men and women alike.

Who or what defines culture? And what is it about us that we decide to use it as a dictate for our conduct (when better means may be available)?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What do you think went wrong here in the West? Feminism, the Great Sh!t-Test men failed collectively?

And now what can be done to rectify the problem?

Stop making excuses. What needs to be done is men need to get off their ass, stop crying like little b!tches and stop caring what people are telling them can and can't be done as if someone else pulls their strings like they are a puppet.

What they need to do is stop being fvcking passengers in their own life and be the driver for once.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don’t know about that bro. I have a few friends who are dentists can’t find anyone. Another friend who is a company guy, makes good money, cant find anyone. They are nice guys. They are not Brad Pitt.

I’m doing OK, last 2 women I’ve taken out on 1st date and texted me after and told me off, told me off after the date. They were older too:

In terms of looks l, I was better looking than them: So either I wasn’t tall enough, or exciting enough. Maybe I should have pushed for sex on first date? They weren’t that attractive. Maybe I should have went sky diving without a helmet with them, maybe that would have turned them on.

Always my fault. I should have impressed these older women more during the date…

If it's not your fault then who's fault is it?

If you can only blame someone else then you are saying you have no control over it.

And if you have no control over it then how can you fix it?

You can't.

Stop looking for answers everywhere else and start looking at them internally.

Maybe the answer is you should have screened better.

 

[Randall Stephens]

Stop making excuses. What needs to be done is men need to get off their ass, stop crying like little b!tches and stop caring what people are telling them can and can't be done as if someone else pulls their strings like they are a puppet.

What they need to do is stop being fvcking passengers in their own life and be the driver for once.

What does that look like? A youth stepping up and making waves in his occupation, attracting a cute, loyal wife and starting a family together? Is that world still offered as an opportunity to today's youths?

 

[BadBoy89]

If it's not your fault then who's fault is it?

If you can only blame someone else then you are saying you have no control over it.

And if you have no control over it then how can you fix it?

You can't.

Stop looking for answers everywhere else and start looking at them internally.

Maybe the answer is you should have screened better.

I'm not blaming the woman.

Look internally? I got nothing else to offer or could have done better. To be honest, I think they could feel I wasn't attracted which made me act accordingly; because other women on first dates I've been attracted to and have done alot better.

 

[The Duke]

I'm not blaming the woman.

Look internally? I got nothing else to offer or could have done better. To be honest, I think they could feel I wasn't attracted which made me act accordingly; because other women on first dates I've been attracted to and have done alot better.

So the physical or mental attraction lacking from your side? Or both?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What does that look like? A youth stepping up and making waves in his occupation, attracting a cute, loyal wife and starting a family together? Is that world still offered as an opportunity to today's youths?

Maybe it's people laughing at them and telling them they can't do something and then them going ahead and doing it anyway.

Too many people let others decide what they can and can't do instead of making that decision for themselves.

Pretty much every major technological breakthrough in human history occured that way.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Society has now cultivated two generations of feministic dogma

That's one interpretation of events. Here's another:

Like every other fad, Feminism/PC culture more generally falls out of the limelight for awhile, regains cultural currency once again, becomes a punchline, only for the cycle to repeat yet again...

In '82, The NYT declared the arrival of a Post-Feminist Generation https://www.nytimes.com/1982/10/17/magazine/voices-from-the-post-feminist-generation.html , only for The Feminist Sex Wars/The First Great Age Of Political Age of Political Correctness to take flight in the mid-80s https://reason.com/2021/12/13/the-second-great-age-of-political-correctness/

As we got deep into The 90s

and 2000s https://nypost.com/2025/08/14/lifestyle/maxim-slammed-over-resurfaced-guide-to-curing-feminists/ , we seemed to be Post-Feminist once again, with Camille Paglia declaring in 2012: "Everything that Steinem, Dworkin, Mckinnon, etc etc represented is gone now" https://www.the-independent.com/art...-t-like-me-and-i-don-t-like-them-8076611.html A mere three years later, her assessment was revealed to be entirely too optimistic

The 2nd Great Age Of Political Correctness will still in the midst of will, at some point, similarly sputter out, even though the ideologies that generate such nonsense never disappear entirely

 

[zekko]

Who or what defines culture? And what is it about us that we decide to use it as a dictate for our conduct (when better means may be available)?

Part of it is just environment, and how we're brought up, it has tremendous influence. By the time you're old enough to define the culture, you're already a product of it.

 

[tksniper]

I think there are 3 levels to human maturity.

Dependent - You are a child who needs to depend on your parents for survival.

Independent - You become your own person and don't need anyone to survive.

Inter-dependent - You realize life is about getting along with others. The sum is greater than the parts. In order to create any real change, people have to come together.

The problem with radical feminism is that it focused so much on independence that it totally neglected inter-dependence.

And ironically, if you make an entire sex the reason why you want to become independent, you actually become a co-dependent. When you make an enemy of someone, you become co-dependent with them. You need them to exist in order to hold on to your identity as someone who despises them. True independence doesn't need a dance partner.

Now, I am not saying all of those women in the article are radical feminists who are co-dependents. But becoming inter-dependent with people takes a lot of work. In fact, inter-dependence is a choice only independent people can make.

It is only after you've become a truely independent person can you bring value into an inter-dependent relationship with another independent person.

In 2025, most guys in their 20's are still dependents. What does this mean for women? It means a woman in her 20's better look for older men who have their sh1t together.

This is the real dating market. Mature and successful men who have their lives together and young women in their prime.

Everyone else is sh1t out of luck. Unless of course, you are an older woman who still has her looks or if you are a young man with his sh1t together.

The more you look at reality, the more you realize the vast majority of people in America are simply undatable (in an inter-dependent way). They are either too immature (men) or waited to long to settle down (career women).