My history with my ex LTR has been pretty well documented here. I'll leave that thread buried but figured I'd post this gem.
Yesterday morning I'm headed to my front door to go hang at the beach with some friends. I open the door to see this guy with a clipboard about to ring the bell. He say ohhh, hi. I was here looking fo "the ex". I tell him she hasn't been at my address for about 2 years. I notice the guy is from DCF.
I head to the beach, hang out for a few hours and head home. Thought I should let the ex know about my visit earlier. I text: "thought you should know DCF is looking for you. I told him to try you at your boyfriends place". That's it nothing else.
I get a few texts to which I don't reply. "Why would they go there?", "great! Now (my boyfriend really thinks we have something", "my son has accused him of hitting him"' "are you going to f**king respond", "you're a jerk".
Actually thought this was funny, but who cares?
This morning I'm opening my place of business and lo and behold her boyfriend approaches me. "Hey ZTIME, I know this is a little strange but can we talk."?
Brief convo highlights:
Him: "Any idea why DCF is coming to you? She hasn't been there for 2 years."
Me: "No. You're issue bud, just relaying the issue."
Him: "Has she been contacting you? We're having some issues."
Me: "Nope". (This is a lie. She texts all the time. I never reply. Always about the mistakes she made blahhh, blahhh.)
Him: "you'd be honest and tell me right??"
Me: "I really don't know you, and have no reason to lie. She's your issue now, and I never got a chance to say thanks for taking that off my hands. She's a rough one."
Him: "Yeah, I'm really having some doubts"?
Me: "Listen there's lots of good therapists around, I've got stuff to do. Was there anything else you needed?"
Him: "No man, I just stopped to make sure there's no funny stuff going on, You know man to man."
Me: "Cool. I gotta go. Good luck with that whole situation."
So I think I was good at the way I handled things, and I maintained my composure.
My questions would be:
1. Should I have handled it differently? (Just to see others opinions).
2. Is this common? You would think men wouldn't want to risk letting their girlfriend know they're that insecure.
Yesterday morning I'm headed to my front door to go hang at the beach with some friends. I open the door to see this guy with a clipboard about to ring the bell. He say ohhh, hi. I was here looking fo "the ex". I tell him she hasn't been at my address for about 2 years. I notice the guy is from DCF.
I head to the beach, hang out for a few hours and head home. Thought I should let the ex know about my visit earlier. I text: "thought you should know DCF is looking for you. I told him to try you at your boyfriends place". That's it nothing else.
I get a few texts to which I don't reply. "Why would they go there?", "great! Now (my boyfriend really thinks we have something", "my son has accused him of hitting him"' "are you going to f**king respond", "you're a jerk".
Actually thought this was funny, but who cares?
This morning I'm opening my place of business and lo and behold her boyfriend approaches me. "Hey ZTIME, I know this is a little strange but can we talk."?
Brief convo highlights:
Him: "Any idea why DCF is coming to you? She hasn't been there for 2 years."
Me: "No. You're issue bud, just relaying the issue."
Him: "Has she been contacting you? We're having some issues."
Me: "Nope". (This is a lie. She texts all the time. I never reply. Always about the mistakes she made blahhh, blahhh.)
Him: "you'd be honest and tell me right??"
Me: "I really don't know you, and have no reason to lie. She's your issue now, and I never got a chance to say thanks for taking that off my hands. She's a rough one."
Him: "Yeah, I'm really having some doubts"?
Me: "Listen there's lots of good therapists around, I've got stuff to do. Was there anything else you needed?"
Him: "No man, I just stopped to make sure there's no funny stuff going on, You know man to man."
Me: "Cool. I gotta go. Good luck with that whole situation."
So I think I was good at the way I handled things, and I maintained my composure.
My questions would be:
1. Should I have handled it differently? (Just to see others opinions).
2. Is this common? You would think men wouldn't want to risk letting their girlfriend know they're that insecure.
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