Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Men have to start living in reality

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Alot of men's problems with women stem from
men refusing to in reality. Men think because of who they are, how life has treated them, how they have been screwed over, lied to by Disney, magazines, media, movies and tv, have limited sexual experience, they are owed a young good looking girl to date, have constant sex with, and marry. This is also what everyone wants you to be believe, so you are never working to improve yourself and never trying to get with a girl, always thinking the next hot girl is around the corner waiting for you. So while others are getting ahead, you are waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting.

If men want to be respected, get results, get rich, sleep with girls, they have to start LIVING IN REALITY. This is the most powerful thing men can do for themselves. Know what you are, know who your friends are, know what your education is, know where you live, know your paycheque, know your smoothness, know your value to society. Once you start living the truth, you won't get bothered too much by anything because everything is what it is.

Men refusing to live in reality will get burned every time. o_O
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If one refuses to look in the mirror and take honest stock of the person staring back one will never know one's current lot in the world and therefore will be ill prepared to change it.

Taking honest inventory is the beginning point of the journey. Get real and that will allow you to progress.
 

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Alot of men's problems with women stem from
men refusing to in reality. Men think because of who they are, how life has treated them, how they have been screwed over, lied to by Disney, magazines, media, movies and tv, have limited sexual experience, they are owed a young good looking girl to date, have constant sex with, and marry. This is also what everyone wants you to be believe, so you are never working to improve yourself and never trying to get with a girl, always thinking the next hot girl is around the corner waiting for you. So while others are getting ahead, you are waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting.

If men want to be respected, get results, get rich, sleep with girls, they have to start LIVING IN REALITY. This is the most powerful thing men can do for themselves. Know what you are, know who your friends are, know what your education is, know where you live, know your paycheque, know your smoothness, know your value to society. Once you start living the truth, you won't get bothered too much by anything because everything is what it is.

Men refusing to live in reality will get burned every time. o_O
Men need to first ask what is reality. The unexamined life is not worth living and all that.
 

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The easiest way to observe reality is to make people REALLY angry. Then they will tell you what they really think. You can only do this a few times before they kill you though.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have started reading the Social Contract and Political Economy. Jean-Jacques Rousseau explains that a man's only obligation, to anyone, is self-preservation.

And it makes sense. If a man cannot look after himself for present and future, even in the face of providing for a family, he stands no chance of making personal choices. He chooses to take a wife, he chooses to raise children. But in order to do so, he must put himself first.
 

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Ah, the myth of the noble savage. Romanticism continues to take its revenge on rationalism. A curse on both houses I say.:rolleyes:

Domus

When was it we first turned toward home,
To seek comfort for our weary bones,
And forgetful of mariner's instinct?
We no longer deign to follow flights
Arrowing forth across expansive skies,
Save a ritual we’ve come to reserve
As a nod to the adolescence of our years.

And so we settled to feather the nest
To the satisfaction of our woman-folk.
And good builders we habitually became
To leave it all unfenestrated,
Lest sea-borne winds disturbed a memory
Of an open unlimited horizon.

And so I ask for a final voyage,
Into the expanse from which we come and go;
Burn it all, and all the fickle wealth accrued,
Which lies burdensome on a transitory scale,
Heavy as an immovable anchor,
As if we could pin ourselves to this earth.
 
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A lot of truth to this. I remember being in my early twenties thinking "girls should be able to see me for the guy I am".. but that's a ridiculous way of thinking. Women can only judge men by the characteristics and attributes they present.

It's no different from a fat girl saying "guys should see me for the girl I am" rather than getting in shape and making them take notice.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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People in general are insecure, needy egotistical and have heavy confirmation bias.....who cares what they think.
 

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The easiest way to observe reality is to make people REALLY angry. Then they will tell you what they really think. You can only do this a few times before they kill you though.
Squeeze an orange end every time you'll get orange juice.
 

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Jeez, this last bit makes it seem like you write this from the grave. Isn't it better overall to NOT make people hate you though?
The opposite of love is not hate....

....it's indifference.

Love and hate are passions.

Has a woman ever told you "you're toxic for me"........yet she can't fvcking stay away from you....

Addicted to the emotional roller coaster.
 

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And so what happens when you finally start living in reality? I'm pretty sure I'm there. I don't like what I see. I see a world with few repercussions to keep female behavior in check. The reality of it is that when you take away the repercussions, males and females are pretty deviant animals. You have the world we are living in now. I've participated in some of that deviance, but long term its not for me.
 
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