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Men faking orgasms?

jack knife

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Has anyone here ever faked an orgasm? I rarely get off when I have sex, and a few girls I've been with take it personally. I mostly don't care if the girls take offense or not, but sometimes girls will lose attraction to me after sex because they think I am too much for them.

What does everyone think?
 

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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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...If you really can't get off during sex, you should probably see a doctor, bro.
 

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jack knife said:
but sometimes girls will lose attraction to me after sex because they think I am too much for them.
:p You just keep telling yourself that. :crazy:

But as for your not getting off problem I would say you masturbate too often.
 

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I'm seeing a woman who's concerned that I don't get off as fast as she does. I won't fake an orgasm for her sake though. The problem is that most women take a seemingly long time to reach orgasm (if they can at all). Some of us guys have just conditioned ourselves to last longer, it's no big deal.

I would see a doctor though if you can not ejaculate at all, it may be a prostrate problem. Notice that I didn't say orgasm; they are two different things in males.
 

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I would say you masturbate too often.
That's about it.

Its happened to me before. I was rock hard and humping away but I felt nothing coming. I thought it was the condom plus the fact that she was an older woman so she wasn't as 'tight' as she should be.
Don't beat the meat for a while, and use a more sensitive condom.
 

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Are you on anti-depressants such as paxil or prozac? Those will casue it.
 

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I'm fine, and I can ejaculate fine, it's just that condoms make it difficult, and I always use a condom so it usually doesn't happen.

I was with a girl the other night, and afterward she said she felt terrible because I didn't get off. She said that she thought she did a really bad job at sex.

Maybe I should go after girls who are more mentally stable.
 

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Faked it many times. You do what you gotta do and if it ain't working then you gotta end it. My first time faking was in highschool, round two with this hottie wasn't going well for me. Apparently I overdid it though, the girl thought I had hurt myself.:cool:
 
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I have a similar problem... if I'm not with (what I consider) a HB10, it sometimes can be hard to perform. That's why I exclusively go for ones I'm really attracted to.

Oh and when I don't get off, I don't fake anything, I just tell the girl "looks like you're too ugly"
 

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i've been thinking about it recently, sometimes i would not *** after a while and eventually that will lead to the head becomes sore and sensitive, even though there hasn't been any ejaculation. it is very depressing >_<.
 

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Let her get on top, cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, and just let her do whatever she wants. She'll probably just pump up and down and gyrate her hips with you inside her and stuff. Enjoy the view if you can, and just imagine sexy things if you can't. With her in control, you won't know when a big pump is coming or anything else. That whole 'not knowing' factor makes it hotter. She'll probably be clinching her PC muscles from all that pumping and moving, so it should be tighter. Hopefully that helps. Worth a try anyway, right?
 

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reallyfreakinlost said:
I have a similar problem... if I'm not with (what I consider) a HB10, it sometimes can be hard to perform. That's why I exclusively go for ones I'm really attracted to.

Oh and when I don't get off, I don't fake anything, I just tell the girl "looks like you're too ugly"
Do you actually expect anyone to believe this post?

jack knife

Have you tried some different types of condoms? They make thinner ones for this very problem, try adding a little lube on the inside too, this helped me alot. Make sure it's water-based though.
 
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get more sleep, that should help i reckon, if your tired and can't really be bothered doing it, then it ain't really gonna happen

oh and with teh cowgirl/reverse cowgirl thing

i dont think many women will know how to straddle you and wont have the leg strength to really move it up and down, and they will generally just gyrate, and wriglle their hips around on top of your body, and you wont feel much at all

so unless you get a girl that actually straddles, like in all those porn movies youve seen, its best if you control it yourself
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'm seeing a woman who's concerned that I don't get off as fast as she does. I won't fake an orgasm for her sake though. The problem is that most women take a seemingly long time to reach orgasm (if they can at all). Some of us guys have just conditioned ourselves to last longer, it's no big deal.

Im the same....Self Conditioned to last longer as thats what most girls want. I will normally go until I shoot my load. Even if a girl cums half way give her a short break (change postion) and she is ready to go again. Alot of girls dont know what they are capable of in the sack.

I have faked in the past. I couldnt see myself cumming at all and it wasnt worth the aggro to say i hadnt. You can fake if your wearing a condom and girls dont generally know....Just dont go for an oscar.


Girls will naturally get inscure if you dont *** in bed....When you say go for girls more mentally stable...I think it would be mentally unstable if she wasnt concerned. Everyone is insucrue about how they are in bed to some extent.


Sarge On!
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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lordson said:
oh and with teh cowgirl/reverse cowgirl thing

i dont think many women will know how to straddle you and wont have the leg strength to really move it up and down, and they will generally just gyrate, and wriglle their hips around on top of your body, and you wont feel much at all

so unless you get a girl that actually straddles, like in all those porn movies youve seen, its best if you control it yourself
Sounds like its time to experiment and learn a few things with his girl, if that's the case. Tell her what you wanna try, and take it slow. If it isn't working for either of you, then do something else. Try to get the thinner condoms like Slevin was saying.
 

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Self-control is a two way street. You sometimes have to delay, sometimes bring it on. Both are required skills. This is why many women can't because they expect it to just happen.

You have to achieve complete self-mastery. Mind over pecker. Mostly they have to take your word for it if you use a condom and don't show the end result to them. So why make an issue out of it with them, just say it was all fine.
 

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jack knife said:
I'm fine, and I can ejaculate fine, it's just that condoms make it difficult, and I always use a condom so it usually doesn't happen.

I was with a girl the other night, and afterward she said she felt terrible because I didn't get off. She said that she thought she did a really bad job at sex.

Maybe I should go after girls who are more mentally stable.
So the real problem is that you have an issue with condoms and are dating an insecure girl?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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