Men, Alimony & Child Support

[HoneyHitter]

When I hear about wealthy guys who are forced to pay tremendous amounts of alimony it really gets my blood boiling. Why does it seem like western society (as a whole) feels entitled to a man's wealth? Why do they try to rob you of as much as they possibly can get away with?


Alimony
Alimony is supposed to be "spousal support", but it looks more like a spousal spoiling system to me. I mean, why does a woman think she should be able to continue living the high-rolling lifestyle after she divorces a wealthy husband?
I'm all for paying a reasonable alimony that supports an ex-wife and support a normal lifestyle. But I also plead for putting a ceiling to the amount alimony ex-wives can demand, like say max 50k a year. Regardless of the husband's income. If the ex-husband feels like 50k is not enough, he can add to that by means of gifts which are not counted as alimony.

Some people will say "yeah, but what if the wife had a contribution to the husband's wealth". Well, if she's really that skilled she could get by just fine with 40k and work herself back up to the lifestyle she had when she was married. (And really, couldn't she just open a personal bank account?)
She'll get enough to support herself and to focus on her personal development and raising the child(ren). She doesn't need a job, so she can get an education or start up a business to improve her own lifestyle.


I found this list of factors that are considered to determine the amount of alimony:

• Length of the marriage or civil union
• Time separated while still married
• Age of the parties at the time of the divorce
• Relative income of the parties
• Future financial prospects of the parties
• Fault in marital breakdown
• Gender of the recipient

(I underlined the factors I disagree with)


Child Support
I've seen so many single mothers abuse the child support they get, and really wonder why men should keep tolerating it. Again, I'm all for child support. But sending a woman money to support your child and see it being spend in the club really sets off an alarm for me. I think a father should have the right to demand evidence of how child support money is spent.

If men are fined for not paying child support, women who abuse child support should also be fined.

What do you experienced guys think about these matters? Have you ever dealt with alimony or child support issues?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
Please,do yourself a favour,click on the Red and read Bradds Posts.......I don't think these were posted on the Mature Man Site.If they were,maybe I was working overseas...Compulsory reading!

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Bradd,
In your valuable notes,you mention the interest Women have in Mens Shoes....I think you are right,but I am blessed if I can explain why....A little story.......about six months ago I bought a new pair of Dancing Shoes,when I was putting them on the tongue would disappear inside,necessitating the removal of the shoe,and another attempt to put it on...Soo not just being a pretty face I pop rivetted a piece of black belt on to the tongue so I could hold the tongue as I put the shoe on...Quite logical,and the small tail of protruding leather was barely noticeable...So you would think,but imagine my surprise when three separate partners asked what the little piece of leather was for? now that I think is amazing!...The mind of a Woman is a strange and mysterious place!

 

[sodbuster]

They figure a wife's contribution to the house hold...cooking,cleaning,etc. when they give alimony to "the lifestyle accustomed to". BUT, they don't figure that these SAME things are what the man will be missing going forward... we don't get the cooking,cleaning, or sex we used to.