"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Meeting women when you have no time

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Waking up at 7 for work, going to the gym during lunch and getting home around 8 pm exhausted Monday through Friday. Saturday just want to relax and recover from the week.

In college I was out 2-4 nights per week and it was no problem.

I'm working in NYC now in an area filled with beautiful women and there are 3 modeling agencies on my block. Whenever me coworkers and I go downstairs for a smoke or a break there are tons of beautiful girls walking by however they are all 'tunnel visioned' straight ahead and probably on their way back to a job modeling and having their ego blown. Or maybe not...

Anyway, I'm sick of talking to the old girls I already know and am ready for new ones. What would you do?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Jonblood said:
I'm working in NYC now in an area filled with beautiful women and there are 3 modeling agencies on my block. Whenever me coworkers and I go downstairs for a smoke or a break there are tons of beautiful girls walking by however they are all 'tunnel visioned' straight ahead and probably on their way back to a job modeling and having their ego blown. Or maybe not...
1) Maybe not indeed. Maybe even some would like a decent guy to stop them on the street, if he was charming enough. Imagine that eh? Your choice of mentality, you decide if you want to keep it...

2) Take transit, don't drive. Keep our air clean and talk to people!

3) Talk to people at your gym.

4) Go out on your weekend anyway, even if you're tired. Manage your schedule so you're not exhausted when fri-sat-sun hit.

5) Talk to people in everyday life. When you see that smile and sparkle in a girl's eye -- be sharp, be on point, get her contact info!! If you are rusty you will probably blow it. To shake of the rust and get that instinct back, the boot camp exercises will help.

6) Do nothing. Meet no girls except on far-flung vacations.

You have your options my friend, they are the same as mine.
 

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wait_out said:
1) Maybe not indeed. Maybe even some would like a decent guy to stop them on the street, if he was charming enough. Imagine that eh? Your choice of mentality, you decide if you want to keep it...

2) Take transit, don't drive. Keep our air clean and talk to people!

3) Talk to people at your gym.

4) Go out on your weekend anyway, even if you're tired. Manage your schedule so you're not exhausted when fri-sat-sun hit.

5) Talk to people in everyday life. When you see that smile and sparkle in a girl's eye -- be sharp, be on point, get her contact info!! If you are rusty you will probably blow it. To shake of the rust and get that instinct back, the boot camp exercises will help.

6) Do nothing. Meet no girls except on far-flung vacations.

You have your options my friend, they are the same as mine.
#2) I really thought you needed a car to get by, unless you are trying to get some eco broad? I thought no car = no self sufficiency and thus lower value?

#5) I do agree about talking to people in "everyday life" I work in a place where I have ample chances to talk to some very pretty women and have a valid excuse to do so, "How can I help you today" :). I am really shy but with the help of a nice female co-worker that I have started to come out of my shell a bit more and been trying to talk and "help" more people when I can.

My work schedule is jacked, mostly working 1230-9 which really puts a damper on things, so I don't get out as often as I like to. That and not driving kind has been messing with my mind, but hell, people are in too much of a damn hurry anyway, traffic sucks and there are too many idiot drivers out there anyway. Just kind of shocked to see some one mention public transportation in the aid to get women.
 

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Look, plenty of women will like you because you make them feel something. If a woman really needs a car to move to a new apartment, she can call her platonic friends.

Don't get so hung up on little things, you're looking for reasons to shoot yourself down and that is not a good mindset.
 
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