"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Meeting this girl for while then tells me shes still involved with Ex....?

The North Dragon

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So i met this girl a while ago n recently got her number. We hung out th last couple days but nothing happened we just had fun. She always dropped hints like ' am so bored' etc . We only started texting couple days ago n met twice.

So today i asked if we cud met for tomorrow night just the 2 of us, there was always other people around when we met, she kinda stalled me then eventually got to th point and mentioned her ex was comin round to sort some things out. She has her own place so wether its to sort bills or its them 2 i dont know. I replied ' oh ok cool no worries ' . I never mentioned mabye a next time coz i was pissed. She replied back ' aww i am so confused' . Bish must want me to sit there n listen to her problems.

Is she just trying to keep me around n desperately cling for hope she'l come back to me? Should i keep in touch or cut my loss's? This is th first time this has happened to me !

We r still texting the now but am trying to go cold n let her to be th one doing the work/initiate.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She is still textin me a couple days after the fail date attempt but i just dont understand why ? Someone clear this up for me?
 

5string

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She's gonna swing to your branch when the other guy fizzles out.

Just mount her, keep your emotions in check and see what happens.

You are only an option to her at this point. Use it to your advantage.
 

VladPatton

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Just see what happens, play it cool until she agrees to another date. Do mention that if the guy is still seeing her you cannot date her any longer because you don't need the drama. Once homeboy is out of the picture for good, you can then proceed. No need to listen to her whine and complain about the past relationship either, you are a fresh start and that's baggage you don't intend to open.

Good luck.
 

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Vlad is spot on.
Her "I'm so confused" msg was an attempt to make you an emotional tampon which is the first step to the friend zone.
Don't take that bait. Just ignore.
If she brings it up again, ignore again.
I'd try a bit of NC for a while and test her reaction.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Am trying a bitof NC just now but shes textin me a lot first and flirting. Also keeps hintin for me to meet her on her break from work and at night. But she brings her friend if we met at night. Havent met recently though. Also hasnt brung of anything about her ex either and deinatet dont want to be friend zoned. Should i ask for another date? Dont see any progression with her and the ex?
 
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