"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Meeting the love of my life

The4Elements

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Just before i begin my story: I'm not a don juan nor a player. I'm shy at times, i'm ok when it comes to girls though, thats really no problem.

I know this girl for a pretty long time now, like 4/5 years. Now that i think of it, i always was in love with her, i just found out too late, i was too young to understand the feeling, but i know for sure now that i'm badly in love.
When i was younger we used to hang out alot. Now i haven't seen her for so damn long(She moved to another place) but she would still be on my mind. Then one day i saw her walking somewhere, and i just went nuts, the feeling of love i felt was incredible. I was too shy to just walk up to her, so i searched her info on the internet(profiles etc) And boom after 2 hours i found a profile of her, i sendt her a message and asked if she still remembered me, and she did, she asked for my msn. I told her my feelings for her(I know thats the worst thing you can do, especially over internet-.-) But i just couldn't wait. We talked on msn for a few months.. No deep convos.. Just regular stuff.. We already tried to meet eachother a couple of times but it failed.. But now.. in 2 days shes going on vacation, and i really wanna see her before she goes.. So the plan is im going to see her tommorow.
Problem is, i'm so nervous now, because i waited too long, and i haven't spoke to her in real for such a long time, i have no idea what to talk about, or even where to meet.. Cause in my eyes it isn't a real date..Were just gonna chill for a bit.. shes so freaking beautiful it intimidates me!

Can anyone give me some good tips? Cause most tips on sosuave.net are impossible to do for me.. Most are about talking to a girl you've never met before, this is a different situation..

This is really important for me..

Thanks in advance

Note: Sorry if my english is bad, but i'm not american/english
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Toushi

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C'mon, haven't you learned nothing?

You don't tell her how you feel.
She's not the love of your life.
Go for it.

If it goes well, fine. If not, learn from it and move on.

Geez, read the DJ Bible.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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i agree with the post above...

but *YOU* want advice... so here...

you meet her... be like "i'm not normally like this... but i'm kind of nervous right now, ya know... i havent seen you in a while"

(^that's the icebreaker so she knows you are stupidly-nervous... and now you know she knows... so get the f.ck over it)

she'll be like "blah blah, oh really?" ... w/e

then be like "yeah it's great though that i can finally get to know you again."

then the rest is getting to know her and talking.

then RIGHT AFTER you read this go to the 'bible' located at the bottom of this forum... learn how to talk, touch, flirt, all the essentials.
 

Distant Light

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Your done...Supplication your frame is weak, your chances are slim to none. You seem to be way more interested in this more than her. All you could have done was do some solid game and you would have been better off but you basically asked for a handicap. Good luck though, my only advice is don't look nevrous and lead the whole interaction because you already fuvked urself over. Good luck.
 
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