Meeting quality women outside of bars/clubs.

[nilescrane]

I'm a late-bloomer to the dating scene. Had to work on myself before getting into the game. (For you young guys reading this, trust me, get your sh*t together first...perfect your look as much as possible...it will improve your confidence...also learn the basics of socializing, and it will resonate when you talk to women you want to date/have sex with. Better off spending a few years on the bench getting your swing down so you can have a better chance of hitting a homerun in the future.)

What I'm finding is that, it truly is a numbers game, no matter what you're looking for...sex, dating, or an LTR. Finding a girl that you're sexually attracted to is a project in and of itself if you're not living in the right location, then add a girl whose personality you actually respect on top of it.

I'm wondering how you older (mid 20s and up) men do it if you're not living in a city or urban area? I live in anywhere, USA, near other anywhere, USA towns. When I approach, it's at outdoor malls, coffee shops, places where you can talk to the woman and it's not threatening to her. I want to expand my search.

I only like 8-10s, and by 8-10s I mean hot white women that aren't fake looking...look up women like Rachel Weisz, Heather Graham, Catherine Bell. (And yes, I'm good looking and have a personality to back it up.)

I'm just having trouble locating these type of women. The last time I saw a handful of them was when I went to a golf tournament in a town about 10 minutes away from me and they were all with boyfriends/husbands.

There is the big city about an hour and a half away from me, but that does me no good because I'm looking to date, have a f*** buddy, or a girlfriend if a good one comes along. So I'm wondering where to meet quality women, and am willing to try most things as long as its local and will lead to meeting a girl within 20-30 minutes of me or closer.

 

[trent81]

I'm a late-bloomer to the dating scene. Had to work on myself before getting into the game. (For you young guys reading this, trust me, get your sh*t together first...perfect your look as much as possible...it will improve your confidence...also learn the basics of socializing, and it will resonate when you talk to women you want to date/have sex with. Better off spending a few years on the bench getting your swing down so you can have a better chance of hitting a homerun in the future.)

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I wanted to PM you but your account won't allow it. I wanted to talk to you about this statement a little more. As far as meeting goes; You can try the internet and maybe even try to hit up friends who can introduce you to women. Transactional relationships are very successful and healthy. It depends on what you want. If you want a fuvk buddy, then clubs and bars for sure. If you want to date, you will have harder time because of your location. It's the same problem I have. I'm moving to a bigger city because of it. I laugh when people say "lots of single girls out there!". WHERE? Not in small cities in America, most my age are married or single moms. So location is key. But try internet, try different friends and ask them to hook you up. Gym, stores, shopping malls. Try the local college and go for the grad students. If you are as good looking as you say you are, then your only problem is LOCATION. May have to move. Good Luck and PM me cause I need to talk to you about that statement above.

 

[nilescrane]

I'll explain it here. I basically just mean to work on yourself before even worrying about meeting women. I know a couple guys on here that don't post often who basically want the results, but they're miserable, have bad attitudes and don't have anything to offer a woman. On top of it, they're bitter. They want results without doing work. They're George Sodini's in the making.

And the thing is, even if they happen to "get lucky" once and meet a hot girl that has sex with them (which won't happen, but even if it did) they wouldn't be able to duplicate it.

Basically, you have to be happy with yourself and your own life. Not have "everything figured out" but be a happy person to be around, have goals besides women, genuinely be able to live with yourself if you aren't getting women. This way, even if you don't get women, there's a strong foundation.

 

[nilescrane]

I posted this in in the mature forum for a reason. I'm looking to meet women in the 22-35 range (and perhaps 35-49 range for sex if they're hot.) I'm done with college women, little girls, and AWs. LTR or no LTR, I like dealing with a woman, not a girl, in appearance and manner.

If any older men on here (post-college years) want to share secrets about meeting older HBs in small towns, I'm listening.

The biggest local spot for me is this local outdoor mall about 30 minutes away. The other places just have an "occasional" HB8-9 and not enough targets to practice or try out.

 

[trent81]

You have to move. Bigger the city, the bigger the prospects. Otherwise, you are fuvked.