"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Meeting online: Next level

Dictatorsaurus

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There's a lady who I've been messeging back and forth on myspace and she lives close by. Basically we've been talking about our backgrounds and our interests and some travelling we have done. She seems to ask a lot about me in her emails so I'm guessing she's interested.

Girls get asked out by guys on that site all the time. How would you take it to the next level with someone like that? I understand meeting a stranger online is something most girls are careful about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cashc0w

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Hey man.... I actually am in this exact situation so ill tell you what i did. I messaged this girl on myspace... no intention of f*cking her or anything but I thought she might have gone to my school. So things progressed and eventually im talking to her on msn. Then one night im going out to a club so I tell her she should come... and shes like "Ok" then im like "im not sure if im going for sure yet or not but give me your number and ill call you". So i called and ended up going. We met, drank, danced... lots of touching. Im going out with her tomorrow night. Pretty basic.....
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Women will go out with guys they are interested in if he's gained a comfortable rapport with her. If you've achieved that, just ask her out for coffee.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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