"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Meeting her housemates the morning after...

Mr.Fantastic

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So I've been seeing this girl for a couple of weeks now and I've been boning her quite a bit at her place. Today I met a couple of her house mates and I don't think I made a brilliant impression really. They were all chatting about people they know n girls stuff and I was pretty quiet. I chimed in with a few smart ass comments etc, made em laugh a little, but when I left I got the impression that they were not amazed by me, I probably came off as shy or not very talkative. I guess i'm wondering how important it is to impress a girls friends, i mean I know they will talk about me when im gone. Does anyone else get awkward meeting girls housemates/friends? I mean I had just finished having morning sex with her and quite frankly couldn't be bothered to talk to her house mates. I think they may have realised...

anyway, I met this girl two weeks ago and i've seen her quite a lot since then, i mean this week ive seen her monday, wednesday and now friday...I think I should give her some time to miss me, when do you all think is the best time to contact her again?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Raikojo17

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really who cares about wat her friends think. u did ok from wat i read. u dont have to be like the king of the world when u talk to them, jus talk to them. be you, ur not tryin to flirt with them or anything so jus talk and be friendly. u shouldnt be concered about whether they will be amazed by u or not. dont put so much pressure on urself

i kno girl's friends that talk about me infront of my girls. they dont ever say anything bad i assume, because they still talk to me and like me. jus be u and not worry about trying to impress her friends. if she really likes u then she wont care if they think ur shy or quiet.
 

PectoralisMajor

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Contact her to make plans a couple of days before the day you are free to see her. A lot of guys here make the mistake of contacting a girl on the SAME day they want to hook up. This is obviously too shorter notice and will normally mean the girl already has plans.

Dont worry too much about her friends, but it will make life easier if you get on with them.

On all accounts it sounds like your doing well with this girl. keep it exciting by mixing up the dates a bit by doing different activities from time to time - simple eh?

good luck, you'l do fine..
 

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I think its always awkward meeting the roomates the next morning. Especially if theyre dudes. I lived with a chick who was a total slut, and I couldnt help but bad-vibe her "guy"s in the morning. its a normal thing, but if you're gonna continue with this chick, its a good idea to get on their good side, but you dont have to.
Why doesnt she ever go to your place?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Raikojo17 said:
really who cares about wat her friends think. ...
:nono: Never underestimate the influence a woman's friends have on a new relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr.Fantastic

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we don't go to my place because 1. I live with my dad = awkward, 2. we get the same bus back from most places we've been to, and her stop is before mine, so she gets off, and invites me back. haha

Actually, she has just text me asking if i wanna meet up tonight (saturday) because she knows im going to be out with my boys, and she is out with her girls. I only just came back from her place a few hours ago! I said that we 'could get together' and that I would ring her later. I really think that i should spend some time away from her though..
 
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