meeting girls in the street

[piri]

well hi! I'm new here! Just hope I putted this question in the right forum!

alright! here it goes!

I became a player since I started reading this site 3 or 4 months ago!

I made out with every girl I wanted, and so far I'm being sucessfull with everything I want!

But I'm having a major problem!
I only talk to the girls I get the chance to know!
I can't look a girl I don't know in the eyes and smile!
Whenever I'm walking on the street or at the disco, if I look a girl in the eyes, I can't just keep the look and smile to her! please help me out with this! what should I do?

I'm having another problem, If you can help me out!
Whenever I have a conversation, sometimes (more times that i'd like to), the conversation becomes too dull, too boring! We talk about her, her problems, her stuff and little about me! I use the "me too" thing and stuff! But sometimes, I don't know why, I find myself talking about boring stuff with her! can you help me out finding in our conversation some interesting points to talk about?
That happens mostly with my friends, when I find out we have nothing more to talk about, cuz she already told me everything intrested about her! please help me out with this!

I's also love if you'd give me some self-confidence boost (withou going to strip clubs ) advince!

thanx a lot! I know that might be too much, but that's all I need help with!

thanx for your attension!

I'm 18 years old btw!

 

[mroriginal]

welcome

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by piri
if I look a girl in the eyes, I can't just keep the look and smile to her! please help me out with this! what should I do?

There's nothing else you can do except to keep looking at her until either you feel comfortable breaking away or she looks away first. Don't turn it into a staring contest, but if you look away first you want her to know that you're looking away not because you're shy, but because you have something more important to look at. Practice makes perfect.

Originally posted by piri
Whenever I have a conversation, sometimes (more times that i'd like to), the conversation becomes too dull, too boring!

Sounds like you're keeping the convo going too long. If you extend something past the natural point at which it should break, it's going to either die or get really dull. After time you'll be able to sense when a conversation is about to take a turn for the worse and end it before it does... you want to keep things on an upbeat note throughout and not let them taper down to "hmm ... what'chu doin... nothin?... me too..."

 

[Serialized3]

Originally posted by piri

But I'm having a major problem!
I only talk to the girls I get the chance to know!
I can't look a girl I don't know in the eyes and smile!
Whenever I'm walking on the street or at the disco, if I look a girl in the eyes, I can't just keep the look and smile to her! please help me out with this! what should I do?

First of all man, read this post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18451

All you gotta realize is that women are just other people, they aren't above you, and what's the worst that can happen if you approach a woman on the street? She can bruise your ego by being indifferent or b!itch to you? I mean, I still get a little case of the nerves sometimes when I do cold approaches on the street, but you just gotta stop and think that well, you'll either miss the oppurtunity and maybe regret it later or gather your balls together and go out and just do it.

Funny you should mention that you can't look a woman in the eyes and smile, because I find that that is one of the EASIEST ways to screen out girls that will be open to be approached versus girls that would just shoot you down. If I see a girl I like, I shoot her a smile, and if she smiles back, I just gotta approach. It doesn't always work out because some girls are just looking for friends or they're taken, but it never once has turned out bad, I've always had a positive experience, and that's what its all about. If i smile at a girl and she doesn't smile back, i just assume she'e a b!tch and ignore her. Millions of other girls out there.

Just go out and do it, bro.

 

[piri]

yay! thanx a lot!
I'll try it!

Well, but I'm confortable at looking a girl in the eyes and smile! but, has I said, it's only with the girls I meet! My problem is with the girls I don't know!

alright!

any other advices?

thanx for the help