Going trough some old MASF posts so here it is...
You are lucky that I found this and if you pssy out and don't approach I'll track ur ass down and beat it mercilessly
Notes from Thundercats Art of Approaching
by: ak55
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Interest
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Dont act too interested, be "actively disinterested" meaning open them, and talk enough to make it seem you want to be their friend and not just get into their pants
-basically dont telegraph interest.
Plural - Use "Hey" instead of "yo" (yo shows unformalitity and intent [ you want something from them ] )
Groups - "Hey There" also works
- Don't call them girls or ladies (shows your intent)
Time Constraints (People are busy so you want to make them feel like you wont waste their time)
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1. real quick
2. ive only got a few seconds
3. i know your busy, but
4. i gotta get going in a minute
5. i can only stay a minute
6. this will only take a second
Steps
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Intrude -> Plural -> Time Constraint
Timing
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Meet as soon as possible, no BS excuses at the last minute.
Its better if they make eye contact THEN you approach, but you can still approach if they dont.
Tonality
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Breath from your diaphragm
Dont be scared to be LOUD
Body Language
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1. Walking upto them - Dont face them dead on when walking to them. turn your body to them slightly while pointing your shoulders to them.
2. Conversation - smile, lean back, be cool, chest kind of out, feet apart, and smile
Groups
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Groups are easier to approach then single people because single people feel vulnerable alone.
-When you approach the group, open to the leader of the group (usually loud/talkative/or a guy)
-You do this to not telegraph interest to the target girl and because the leader could be the biggest obstacle in you getting the target.
-if there is no leader open anyone else but the target girl
-After the opener, start engaging the entire group
-Then go for the girl, there wont be resistance because her peers accept you already.
After Your Approach
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-Funny or dramatic stories
-be passionate about them
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Openers
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1. Advice Opener
-Give positive advice and make sure it can be used
-makes you seem as an authorative person
2. Compliment Opener
-Compliment on something that does not include her physical beauty or fashion
e.x. "how high are those heals" - "because you dont fall around like the other women in them"
3. Direct Opener
-Be kind of open about your intent
e.g. "my name is"
"I want to get to know, I am ..."
4.Drama Opener
-Dont tell stories where you cause problems but be in the stories to make it seem like its yours.
-Have a humourous ending or a lesson ending
-no killing or anything
5.Insult Opener
-makes them prove themselves to you.
-better to not use it on groups
-give a compliment that tell them a insecurity of theirs
e.g. "wow you have nice hair, is it real" - "no/yes" - "oh it looks nice anyway"
(Personal note: This is a neg (for the ASF community))
e.g.
if she takes her phone out
"did he call?"
if she says "no" say "thats a shame you seem like a amazing person, is there something wrong with you?"
"who?" say "the guy thats falling head over heels for you"
e.g. out of nowhere "I dont like you, were not going to be able to get along"
follow up with "its because were too alike and well just fight and fight and have makeup sex and i dont like that in relationships"
6. Joke Openers
-Jokes lowers defence and helps you gain rapport
-make sure the punch line is good/say it fast.
e.g. “Hey, let me tell you something about good looking people… we’re not well liked.”
e.g.2
(Walk up to your target with a serious look on your face, scowl, shake your fist, and say)”Wanna fight?” (Get your target’s response, or let the question hang for a minute, then smile devilishly and say) “Then we could have make-up sex.” (The target will usually laugh. But even if they don’t, proceed.) “I’m just kidding. We don’t need to fight to do that.”
7. Internet Approaches
Email -> Show your funny, Create Curiosity, Issue a Challence
Instant Messaging -> Issue a challenge
Email:
[Do read the details in the book about the email]
basically in the email make it personal by including her name
and make it funny and try to demonstrate a higher social value while
doing it.
Kind of make her curious about you and want to prove her self to you
(which will make her email you back)
Instant Messaging: "who are you and what are you doing on my computer"
"whats up dork?"
make sure your grammer and spelling is right to look fairly smart. [grammar - ed]
8. Opinion Opener
"Hey i need your/a female's opinion on..."
-Open ended questions work but present them with 3 or so possible options.
e.g.
“Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two dogs, a Pug dog, and a Beagle dog. She wants to name them after an 80’s pop duo, but I can’t for the life of me think of a good one. Do you guys have any ideas?”
-start disqualifying their replies not forcefully though, so the conversation progresses.
9. Roleplay Opener
-Giver youself the role of someone cool/important
e.g. "You could be starsky because A, B and C but actually X does not work with your attitude so.."
10. Situtational Openers
e.g.
After a cough or a sneeze, point at
the target and say:
“SARS!” (make sure the person isnt Chinese of decent cause it might seem racist)
e.g.2
if a girl comes upto you and says "can i ask you something?" say something funny like "no were not going out!"
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Fear of Approach/Overcoming the Barriers
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-Leave your comfort zone
-Its hard to start to approach because you might have a feeling of Loss (Theory in Book, page 125 or so)
So you have to leave your comfort zone often so you get use to it.
-Usually you get lazy to approach for the fear of not knowing what to say
thats why you should memorize some openers so this problem dosent strike you.
-Do not care about the outcome, dont hope to be sucessful/just dont care about the outcome then you have nothing to lose.
For MORE Information purchase thundercat's awesome book, The Art of Approaching, IT'S WELL WORTH YOUR MONEY!
- Sanik (
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