"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hunterchilla

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Ok im a big newbie and I dont really have that much trouble picking up women

I mean my game isnt great but im really good looking so it makes up for it. also i usually get hooked up through friends.

Anyway I dont go out, I dont like clubs, and I hate bars, so the last time I went out was when I was in southbeach with my friends and when we go out we go to these really nice Lounges/clubs

I admit I have fun when im with them but when im in NYC i dont realy go out. So I dont have much experience with lounges. Not that im a complete newb I know what to do etc and its not hard for me since im going down to LA and MIA for a month

im gonna be going to alot of LOUNGES,and Parties

so anyway I remember when I was doing this and on the rare occasion when i was hooked up.

Anyway I always ran into the same problem, Id get numbers always while my friends met girls and brought them back to the house to have sex. Id come home with a number!

Anyway I have major problems sealing the deal.

I think my main problem is that i indicate it to obviously that I just wanna bring em back and rail them or something.

So my friend always uses this line AND it almost always works for him,

he says so wanna come back for the after party?

or he says wanna come back and have some wine at my house?

and it always works

I tried this and the girls are always like no not tonight call me tomorrow etc,etc

and EVERYTHING goes perfect also, it can be a night of making out on a couch, and still they wont go home with me!

Anyone know what this could be? i dont know what im doin wrong

anyone can give me some tips?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bourne

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Stop poluting TIPS forum.

This is where you post tips not ask for them.
 

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I live here in Miami and am privy to the club/lounge scene here.

It seems to me that you may be coming off as too desperate while your friend is good at establishing good rapport with the girls before taking them home.

Other than that it is hard to see what you are doing wrong/right. If you are good looking like you say then you already are ahead of the game since the women here, especially the ones you see at the clubs, are superficial.

The way I work it at a club is that I try to connect with the girl with good rapport so that she feels comfortable with me and after I sense that there is chemistry, I will invite her to another more intimate venue either at my place or a small bar/lounge. After a couple of more drinks they usually are in a high state of horniness that not much effort is needed to get them into bed.

So, if were you I'll try working more to estgablish rapport so that the girl feels comfortable in going home with you.
 

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thanks yeah that seems about right, by the way what clubs are u hitting up, just curious

i usually go to Rock bar, Privvay, The Raleigh Hotel, Mint, and Mansion. how about you>
 

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crobar, space, bed, skybar, etc. to name a few. There is also a new club called metropolis in downtown Miami that always has its plate full of hot chicas. You should also give that a try.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oh i forgot to mention SKYBAR i love that place, its so beautiful by the pool area,

what r u doin in CROBAR though that places is ghetto'ed out.
 

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Yea, you are right. Places like space and crobar used to be really good before the whole hip hop scene took over the clubs several years ago. Along with the hip hop came the ghetto thugs you see nowadays on South Beach. For that reason I don't go to these places anymore unless I happen to get VIP passes. I know a DJ who used to work at crobar and still has enough juice to get vip passes. But, I very rarely step foot in those places anymore.

The best places are the lounges like Bed, and the ones you mentioned like Mynt, Prive and the like.
 
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