meeting chick at bar - is it afc to pick her up?

[DJArlington]

i am meeting a (a knockout) chick tomorrow at a bar that's like i would say a 1/3rd to 1/2mile walk from her place. this will be our first time going out, should i offer to pick her up at her place because the walk is so far? honestly it doesn't matter to me, i just want to know what to do in this situation. i'm not trying to be afc, just want to be a gentleman.

 

[Jitterbug]

1/3~1/2 of a mile isn't far! That's like a 5~8 min walk, unless she's really out of shape.

If she's interested in you, I don't think it matters if you offer or not. Do whatever you feel like, as long as you're not needy and trying hard to get into her panties. If you're a gentleman type, stay congruent to your character.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Forget the picking up situation.....WTF are you doing taking her to a bar on a first date? Unless its like a lounge or mellow place, your putting her amongst the wolves while trying to get to know her better, bad idea!!

Why not do something fun together instead.....mini golf is a good one, anything to bring out some competitive fun in her. This also takes the focus away from just you two and helps you two enjoy each other's company.

If your dead set on the bar, I would have one drink, chill and bounce to a more comfortable location.

PS: It doesn't really matter if you pick her up or not, however usually you should meet the girl at whereever your going for the first couple dates IMO.


PIMP

 

[broken dreams]

take them to a lounge or something like a dive bar.
walk w them dont be too needy or rapport seeking to do anything for her dont show too much interest after she qualifies herself to you
remmebr cat string theory?
then seal the deal

 

[Alexander the Great]

Arlington, seriously... why do you worry about this?

It's not AFC to pick her up as long as you don't act like she's a fragile little bird that can't fly herself. It's not AFC to pick her up if you don't expect her to be thankful and rewarding to you because you think you did her a favour.

You worry too much. Stop doing that. Then pick her up like there's nothing to it. Or let her go ther on her own if she prefers that (then you know what time it is a bit already).

And a bar may indeed be a less then optimal location for a first date. But I don't know what bars are like where you are.

 

[DJArlington]

Alexander, thanks for the advice. We ended up going out for dinnner last night and drinks. We had a good time and I drove her back home. No kiss or anything at the end of the night, but she wants to hang out again. I don't think she's using me at all because she paid for 1/2 the drinks and even offered to pay her portion of dinner. It was nice that she offered but I didn't take 1/2 the money for dinner. Good conversation, we'll see where it leads.

Man getting women, dating, etc. takes a ton of effort. what a pain. i wish women would just chase me.

 

[thedeparted]

Saturday night dinner/drinks on you first date? That is not the way to go.

 

[DJArlington]

seriously - that's what i always do. what should i have done? please explain, just getting back into dating game after long relationship.

 

[Jitterbug]

It's because a Saturday night out with dinner & drinks is what a couple do together, not two people who hardly know each other do on a first date.

Keep your first dates short & sweet, see if she's worth pursuing, leave her wanting more.

 

[DJArlington]

you got it man. that's what i'll do from now on. i just emailed another chick i met last week and asked her to get a coffee, on a weeknight - so i'm making my improvements right away.

 

[MacAvoy]

I always try to pick the girl up. Because then if things go well on the date it opens the door to get invited in to her place after the date.

If she likes the idea of you picking her up, that is an indicator that she wants some sex.

I agree with this 100%, it prevents her from driving and you missing the opportunity to take her home. Its very simple, nothing AFC about it.