"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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meeting and picking up international japanese and korean girls in dwtn library, chapt

joe45

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i was at the downtown library today trying to so called pick up girls. the international japanese, korean student girls. what i would do is spark a convesation with them asking them oh do you now where i can find comic books in the library or do you now when the library closes-anything to spark convesation and from there i would say oh your from japan right and how long shes been in vancouver and how shes likes it, i then would ask for her email and maybe also her phone number. it would vary some would say they don;t have a cell or email and some would give you their email, but not their cell. or both.
but what i notice is with the time in the dwtn library and the international students girls i have emailed back like 98% of them don;t respond back to my email-as to asking them when they are free so we can go hang out for coffee, lunch.

do you guys find meeting girls randomly is like a waste of time.
what your take on the international overseas japanese, korean girls. have you met any at the library , chapters book store in dwtn. i talked to them gotten emails, but no email responces back or even a coffee date.
i done this like over a 4 month period maybe like approx 30-40 girls. and no luck, no date, no nothing. you email them but they don;t email you back and if you do get their number they don;t phone back or if they pick up its liek they say the call back but never.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Couple things you did there that I would stray away from..

1) asking where the comic books are
2) asking for her email

You aren't creating enough attraction or interest when you meet them. That's why a ton of PUAs have come up with a bunch of different routines. Asking her what time the library closes in no way sets you apart from the other 10 people that have asked her the same question.

But IMO cold approach that effective for picking up ladies. It's most beneficial towards building your confidence when it comes to talking to girls, but 90% of the time (random number I pulled out of my ass) it ends in a flake, as you've already experienced.
 

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nice boring conversation
 

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smtimex said:
Couple things you did there that I would stray away from..

1) asking where the comic books are
2) asking for her email

You aren't creating enough attraction or interest when you meet them. That's why a ton of PUAs have come up with a bunch of different routines. Asking her what time the library closes in no way sets you apart from the other 10 people that have asked her the same question.

But IMO cold approach that effective for picking up ladies. It's most beneficial towards building your confidence when it comes to talking to girls, but 90% of the time (random number I pulled out of my ass) it ends in a flake, as you've already experienced.
so what should i be saying hehe. what would u say to them if it was in a library, bookstore, starbucks.....

what should i be talking about.
 

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its not what you talk about thats important.. its how you present yourself.

Before you go up to a girl, picture a very happy time or memory in your life and express this with your whole smile. What ever you say to the girl, she will smile at you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how exactly are you asking for the # or email?
 
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smtimex said:
Couple things you did there that I would stray away from..

1) asking where the comic books are
2) asking for her email

You aren't creating enough attraction or interest when you meet them. That's why a ton of PUAs have come up with a bunch of different routines. Asking her what time the library closes in no way sets you apart from the other 10 people that have asked her the same question.

But IMO cold approach that effective for picking up ladies. It's most beneficial towards building your confidence when it comes to talking to girls, but 90% of the time (random number I pulled out of my ass) it ends in a flake, as you've already experienced.
Really don't understand what you are saying. Care to elaborate more.
 

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I strongly disagree with the pple here saying cold approaching doesn't work. Personally, I find I have a better rate of success picking up sober girls on the street than some blacked-out skank from the bar who will forget all about her night once she wakes up (unless we're talking ONS...). This is especially true with Asian chicks, whom I've had a lot of success gaming during the day here in the US and in Asia when I lived there.

First of all, props to you for going after international asian students, they re a good niche to start working with if your game is not top-notch yet. You have to understand that japanese and korean girls who come studying in North America all share one fantasy: to fvck a non-asian guy. Unfortunately, a lot of it has to do with looks. These girls want a tall, somewhat muscular guy, with blue eyes and light hair. So if you're that guy, all you have to do is smile at them and it's game over...

Even if you're not that guy though, do not despair! I've seen plenty of average and below average guys in Tokyo and Seoul pulling some of the hottest local girls. The second part about attracting these chicks is to be personality-wise as different as you can from japanese and korean guys. So act very extrovert, be the center of the conversation, always wear a big smile on your face and, most importantly, take control! In japanese and korean cultures girls like guys to take control, but a lot of the local boys are too shy to do it. Don't do the same mistake.

One last point (and this is huge): japanese and koreans have much more of a herd mentality, especially when they are abroad. If you are accepted by their group as the "cool local guy", the girls will look up to you and you are almost guaranteed to get laid. So try to approach some of the guys, become friends with them and have them invite you to their parties or invite their whole group out. You'll be surprise how much the guys, especially japanese, will go out of their way to help you hook-up with the hot chikcs in their program...

hope this helps and good luck!
 

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drak_ool said:
First of all, props to you for going after international asian students, they re a good niche to start working with if your game is not top-notch yet. You have to understand that japanese and korean girls who come studying in North America all share one fantasy: to fvck a non-asian guy.
I say this is BS
 

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drak_ool said:
I strongly disagree with the pple here saying cold approaching doesn't work. Personally, I find I have a better rate of success picking up sober girls on the street than some blacked-out skank from the bar who will forget all about her night once she wakes up (unless we're talking ONS...). This is especially true with Asian chicks, whom I've had a lot of success gaming during the day here in the US and in Asia when I lived there.

First of all, props to you for going after international asian students, they re a good niche to start working with if your game is not top-notch yet. You have to understand that japanese and korean girls who come studying in North America all share one fantasy: to fvck a non-asian guy. Unfortunately, a lot of it has to do with looks. These girls want a tall, somewhat muscular guy, with blue eyes and light hair. So if you're that guy, all you have to do is smile at them and it's game over...

Even if you're not that guy though, do not despair! I've seen plenty of average and below average guys in Tokyo and Seoul pulling some of the hottest local girls. The second part about attracting these chicks is to be personality-wise as different as you can from japanese and korean guys. So act very extrovert, be the center of the conversation, always wear a big smile on your face and, most importantly, take control! In japanese and korean cultures girls like guys to take control, but a lot of the local boys are too shy to do it. Don't do the same mistake.

One last point (and this is huge): japanese and koreans have much more of a herd mentality, especially when they are abroad. If you are accepted by their group as the "cool local guy", the girls will look up to you and you are almost guaranteed to get laid. So try to approach some of the guys, become friends with them and have them invite you to their parties or invite their whole group out. You'll be surprise how much the guys, especially japanese, will go out of their way to help you hook-up with the hot chikcs in their program...

hope this helps and good luck!
I haven't done well in cold approaching Foreign Asian girls, one girl that I did one on won't even give me eye contact, and another 2-set I approached hasn't came to me for anything, though that approach went much smoother. Foreign Asian girls have been difficult for me to game successfully overall. But I will keep trying. :)
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Asian girls are more conservative so you might think indirect is better. Try direct though cause it also is easier to lead on to further conversation instead of having to try to force the conversation from "what time is it" to hey lets take a walk together etc..
 
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