"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Meeting an internet girl on new years

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Yes, thats right i'm meeting a girl from the internet on new years eve, she will be in the same club as the one i'm going to, so we figured it would be cool to meet up. Only problem is its someone i've been talking to for almost a year, i never had any previous internet in her, but she sent me a recent photo and shes actually very attractive in it. Plus she was was pretty cool to talk to, so im thinking, who knows?

Only problem is i've never met someone from the net b4 and i can imagine it will be awkward, we have already talked a lot and i dont know what i'll say? I cant small talk with her, cos i already know some facts about her, so how do i play it?

Im pretty sure she may have interest in me, as she previously text messaged me a lot, for no particular reason, an average of every two days... and yes im pretty sure she's not a fake cos when i say her pic is attractive, its not out of this world attractive, just kind of cute, in other words genuine.

So how could i play it? What would you advise if i want to maybe hook up with her? Remember i've not been interested in her b4 now, only the recent pic sparked my interest and obviously if she turns out to be nice i will think of giving it a go... the fact i already sorta know her is the problem... so any suggestions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I'm curious in whether you guys were long distance since it took a year for you to meet. If not, I wouldn't get my hopes up about her IL.

Some tips for during the party, don't go there with the intent on meeting her. Go there to have fun and party, if you happen to run into her, great. You do not want to focus all of your attention on her if this is going to be a casual meeting.

Some things to chat about could include past New Years parties you've attended, Internet dating stories and new years resolutions. Whatever you decide to talk about, keep it light and friendly.

Meeting someone from the Net is actually very easy if you do you due diligence and qualify the women. Being selective usually pays off.
 
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she doesnt live that far away, i've just always been very lathargic in meeting her, never really had the motivation before, and btw its a small club its inevitable we will bump into eachother.

Im not going to just try to hook up with her, but it would be cool if it happened, that is, if she's nice... also i realise she cant have an IL in me, but im thinking well maybe she will when we meet :D
 

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Dude no amount of talking online will prepare you for her.

Just treat her like a complete stranger. Because she really is regardless of how well you think you may know her.
 
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hmmm julian, that doesnt particularly tell me anything i dont already know!

im wondering if any real dj's out there have any ideas?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I have met a few women and just because you met them on the net doesn't mean you should treat them any different than any other women. Stick to what you normally do, act ****y & funny, bust her balls, just have fun, since your not going there specifically to meet her, talk to her for a bit now and then, but keep going back to your friends every few minutes, gives you more opportunity to build up IL by making yourself rare but also a bonus cuz you know her already and don't have to start from scratch.
 
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