Meeting a cougar from POF tonight, but getting wierd vibe? Thoughts?

[-E-]

It does not really matter how many signals she sends you. What matters is that you realize that you are being played in some wacked out ego game in which she pulls you in then tosses you back. You are her partner in mindsports....

Here is the point - a sane woman who is genuinely interested will make herself AVAILABLE. She will also ASK you about the details of your life. She will want to know about you, and she will ultimately COMPLY with your suggestion to meet up.
ONLY agree to go out with a woman who is moving toward you, keeps her word and does not confuse you.

I hear ya. She is actually asking me questions about my life (i.e. When's my Birthday, etc etc). But we'll see if we eventually meet or not. Either way this one's probably a wash but since she's still taking an interest in me and taking the initiative to text/set something up, I'm going to use it as an opportunity for practice. If it results in a little Cougar action, all the better... lol. But whatever.

With the NEXT girl that shows interest I'll take all the advice given here and elsewhere and apply it from the very first moment, avoiding mistakes I may have made with this one.

 

[Donnie Darko]

Please STOP answering all of her questions that she is sending you via text. Answering all of her questions, means that you are not a mystery.

Personal questions should be asked face to face during a date.

Ignore her texts. Wait a few days and see if she calls you and asks you to meet. If she calls, don't spend more than 10-15 minutes talking to her on the phone.

If she doesn't call you, then call her and tell her let's plan on getting together at (insert location here ) at (insert time here) on (insert day here).

If she accepts, then meet her.

If she rejects but counter offers, consider accepting her counter offer if it works for you.

If she rejects and does not counter offer, then NEXT her.

If she flakes again, then NEXT her.

Go meet and try to date other women ASAP.

 

[-E-]

Please STOP answering all of her questions that she is sending you via text. Answering all of her questions, means that you are not a mystery.

Personal questions should be asked face to face during a date.

Ignore her texts. Wait a few days and see if she calls you and asks you to meet. If she calls, don't spend more than 10-15 minutes talking to her on the phone.

If she doesn't call you, then call her and tell her let's plan on getting together at (insert location here ) at (insert time here) on (insert day here).

If she accepts, then meet her.

If she rejects but counter offers, consider accepting her counter offer if it works for you.

If she rejects and does not counter offer, then NEXT her.

If she flakes again, then NEXT her.

Go meet and try to date other women ASAP.

Roger, Maverick has the ball.

 

[-E-]

OH MY GOD I'm really starting to despise texting. She just sent me 3 texts in the span of 2 minutes -

#1 - "Can u meet tonight?"

#2 - "Like around 6 or 7?"

#3 - "Let me know - my son has hockey for a few hrs..."


Texting = one big pile of annoying fail... maybe I'll let her wonder for a few hours then call her to tell her "Not tonight but let's do it on Saturday". I'm not replying with a text though... lol.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

E,

Call her like a man IF and ONLY IF you have time in your BUSY SCHEDULE. No text replies.

If she doesn't pick up her phone. Leave a message that you cannot meet as you've got things to do tonight and for her to suggest an alternate time so you can see if you're free to do something fun together.

IF she answers her phone ask her how long she plans on meeting you for, as you have things to do tonight "to gauge if you are going to waste your time with a quick meeting". If she says "Oh quick" I've got things to do. Have her suggest another time to see if you are not busy. If she says "Oh for awhile tonight after my son's hockey" then you know she is looking for more than a quick "hello" tonight and not wasting your time. No TEXT replies. She's a 42 year old woman for crissakes. She should ACT like it and pick up her phone. IF she's really interested.

 

[Poonani Maker]

About POF women, I had a 22 year old rich girl with two jobs message me back and forth about a month ago (she knows what I do and she likes the way I look and what I say - high value). Sooo I showed a friend of mine her profile, and he thought that she was ugly. I began to lose interest like a b!tch. I thought she look better than average, not UGly. Maybe she showed your profile to another friend and developed the same thoughts I did about this chick. I've stopped messaging this girl and she's messaged me once a week since. She's probably wondering what made me cut her off.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Hahaha, I'd bash you for letting a friends opinion effect you to the point of losing attraction, but I once did that too . . in the OTHER direction. This skinny girl with not a lot going on body-wise, but nice face. She would show me attention and I just didn't really care that much . . didn't think she was that special. Anyway, friend hooks up with her and calls her the "hottest girl he's ever fvcked." For some reason that increased her value to me, and down the line I got oneitus for her.

 

[-E-]

Okay I'm starting to get a real psycho vibe from this lady. I left her a message on her cell around 4:30 saying I couldn't meet tonight but let's grab some food on Saturday. While I was at the gym after work she left me a text (again with the text!) saying she didn't know because she had custody of her son this weekend. So I get home around 7pm and log in to POF to see if I have any messages, which I don't. I was on the site for literally 2 minutes, then logged off and continued with my evening.

I just checked POF again and this cougar chick sent me the following email:


"You couldn't meet me tonight..LOL but your on POF. Tis online dating. LOL"


WTF? Am I correct in my perception that this is borderline psycho-chick behavior? I think I'm just going to NEXT her completely now and not offer a response of any kind to this. Talk about creepy.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I wouldn't respond. I have chicks on there trying to play the one-upmanship game with me too E. They can be on there. Stalk you. And then claim "Oh you were on POF" too bad. It's a dating site. She had to be on to see you were on and probably reading emails and replying to other dudes. These women crack me up with the pathetic games they try to make us into AFC's with. I wouldn't respond and look for more. If she's really interested she'll have a solid date for BOTH of you. If not she can fvck off with her baggage in tow.

 

[-E-]

I wouldn't respond. I have chicks on there trying to play the one-upmanship game with me too E. They can be on there. Stalk you. And then claim "Oh you were on POF" too bad. It's a dating site. She had to be on to see you were on and probably reading emails and replying to other dudes. These women crack me up with the pathetic games they try to make us into AFC's with. I wouldn't respond and look for more. If she's really interested she'll have a solid date for BOTH of you. If not she can fvck off with her baggage in tow.

Yeah but is this an indication of psycho tendencies, or is she just playing games? Even if she were to try and offer a solid time for a meeting now I don't think it would matter. This kind of thing makes me NEVER want to meet her... lol.

I mean I was literally on there for only 2 minutes, and it didn't show her as logged in when I was. POF must keep your profile showing as online for a while after you logout...

 

[jophil28]

"You couldn't meet me tonight..LOL but your on POF. Tis online dating. LOL"


WTF? Am I correct in my perception that this is borderline psycho-chick behavior? I think I'm just going to NEXT her completely now and not offer a response of any kind to this. Talk about creepy.

Look, you can post here back and forth trying to unravel what game some loonie cougar is playing at. A woman who acts like her is convinced that she is doing YOU a favor by talking to you, and you should show your gratitude to "Her Royalness" by falling in with her needs and molding yourself to suit her life.

IT does not matter much why she is like she is .
The only question that you need to ask yourself is the same question with ALL new women ....
"How much effort is she putting in to make herself available to meet with me ?"

An honest answer, to yourself , will lead you to taking the next correct step for your wellbeing.
Only spend effort and time (and $$) on women who are EAGER to be with you.

 

[-E-]

Look, you can post here back and forth trying to unravel what game some loonie cougar is playing at. A woman who acts like her is convinced that she is doing YOU a favor by talking to you, and you should show your gratitude to "Her Royalness" by falling in with her needs and molding yourself to suit her life.

IT does not matter much why she is like she is .
The only question that you need to ask yourself is the same question with ALL new women ....
"How much effort is she putting in to make herself available to meet with me ?"

An honest answer, to yourself , will lead you to taking the next correct step for your wellbeing.
Only spend effort and time (and $$) on women who are EAGER to be with you.

You're right. I'm done with this chick. Not just because of her games but anything that strikes me as borderline psycho is an instant NEXT.

 

[jophil28]

You're right. I'm done with this chick. Buh-bye! Anything that strikes me as borderline psycho is an instant NEXT.

Yes.
Women who are 'right' for you FEEL right. They just transmit that 'eager' vibration that will be picked up by your finely tuned receiver as high INTEREST LEVEL.
IT is wrong thinking to believe that you have to "work" at getting chicks or "game" them into having coffee. It should just flow.
Be alert for signs of interest from woman, and also learbn to recognize gamers and ego freaks.
Realize that most women will not be compatible or suitable for you and you should also accept that an early Eject is the best tactic.
A woman who is genuinely interested in you will NOT criticize you by email like she did . You were entitled to do whatever you pleased by logging onto POF. She did not like it because she knew then that she did not have you wriggling on her hook begging her for a chance.
She sounds like she sure has a bloated opinion of her market value.

Too many nights watching "Cougar Town" perhaps.

 

[WhitePimp]

Just call her out on her nuttiness. End the game that she's playing. She's got this whole drama mindfvck thing happening and you're playing right into it by letting her lead you around.

Say, "I'm just looking to go out and have a good time with someone, if you can't do this then please stop texting me all this BS."

She'll either drop the game and submit or disappear. You win.

 

[-E-]

Too many nights watching "Cougar Town" perhaps.

OMFG that's hilarious... she actually lists Cougar Town as one of her main interests on her facebook page... man do you have it pegged or what.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Yeah but is this an indication of psycho tendencies, or is she just playing games? Even if she were to try and offer a solid time for a meeting now I don't think it would matter. This kind of thing makes me NEVER want to meet her... lol.

I mean I was literally on there for only 2 minutes, and it didn't show her as logged in when I was. POF must keep your profile showing as online for a while after you logout...

She hid her profile from being shown online but she was.

Psycho tendencies are already there. She's got a kid and meeting men online. Would you respect your mom, sister, etc for doing that? I mean they've got to meet people if they're single but let's get real. She's either looking for d!ck and or an AFC to eventually care of her and her kid.

With that one I'd cut to the chase and have a "Do or Die" moment of balls to show her you don't care what she thinks. Tell her "I know you want to do me in the worst possible way. So let's stop the nonsense and drop the kiddie game playing toots and let's go out and have some fun!"

Call her ass out and tell her to stop being a coward. Either she gets turned the Fvck on by you going caveman on her ass or you don't waste anymore of your valuable time trying to figure out what's going on and if she wants to fvck .

Just reply like that. And that is the end. Do or die, Sh!t or get off the pot,. and I'm talking about HER. ONE LAST REPLY TO HER. And then drop her ass!


Too many of these girls/womens retarded brains soak up the media B.S. fed to them in order to boost their normal, mundane, everyday lives to susperstar, socialite status like this one you've been chatting with. She has facebook = attention seeking, lists cougartown as favorite show = Fantasyland, is on Plenty of Fish = desperate but will delude herself into thinking the men on the site care about her and she has these "Sex and the City" options.... when they really just want a hit and run. Most women these days are practically worthless, brainless twits.