Ace of Flames
Master Don Juan
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Ok, first off, I searched for any threads that might cover something like this, but got nothing. I realize that the majority of information on this site is about picking up chicks and getting laid, but naturally, that could lead to a relationship. This site should extend into that territory more, since I believe most people here are more interested in a real relationship than just sex. Anyway, only the experienced should really apply themselves to my thread here.
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Tonight I got to see my girl that I never get to see. She goes to college upstate, and we only get to be together a few times a year. She isn't my girlfriend, but we have a deep love for each other, and we've slept together a few times. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Overall, our relationship status is complicated...
We talk online all the time, that's our main way of keeping in touch. Our conversations are great on there, we talk and flirt and its wonderful. A few days ago, we decided to call each other and have phone-sex-without-the-sex. Basically, talk real sexy and get each other horny as hell. Well, after that, she commented that I didn't say a whole lot. Can you blame me? All my blood was going to my other head. Apparently, she wanted me to say more, and she complained that she has to talk all the time. I said I'd work on it and that was that.
Fast-forward to today. She came to town this weekend, and we had kinda semi-planned to see each other. Friday, not a word from her. Today, all day, not a word. Then she calls about 9 o'clock. Says she's across town, but she wants to see me, and it would take her about an hour to get to my house. We plan to go to the movies. OK, great right? So I take a shower, get ready. Then she calls about 40 minutes later. Start drama now:
Apparently, she had a bad day. But that was alright, she was going to go out with me and have fun anyway. Then on her way to my house, she had to go through a toll, and she didn't have any change, and no one was working the booths, and she only had a $10, and the change machine only took 1's and 5's, and blah blah blah BLAH. So that whole thing just pushed her over the edge, and she got all emotional about everything. Then she called me, saying she just felt really bad and wanted to go home. I convinced her to come see me anyway, and she showed up a little bit later.
We go park somewhere in my neighborhood, and she vents everything to me for like 30 minutes, including the toll thing. Not exactly what I had in mind for what we'd do after not seeing each other for 6 months. But oh well, she's important to me, I wanted to cheer her up. Anyway, she seemed a little happier after letting it out. Then she starts asking me to talk, and here's the whole point of the thread: My mind was a blank. Literally, I couldn't think of a single thing to say. I tried to get her to pick a topic, then I would feed off that, but she wasn't having it. She was looking at me, expecting something, anything... and I had nothing. Sh!t.
Honestly, in that moment, all I wanted to do was kiss her. But I knew that would've been a bad idea, since she was so vulnerable and all. I figure if I did, it would come across as me taking advantage of her, or not respecting her feelings. Was that the right thing to do? Anyway, after a few minutes of not really saying anything, she decided she was ready to go home.
We get back to my house, and I try to explain why I had nothing to say. I said that she threw me off with everything she said, and I was expecting the fun date thing that was supposed to happen. She was like uh-huh, and I said you don't believe me. She said it was OK, and that she had to go. Then I said "I have to kiss you before I go", and just moved in. We had a nice few kisses, and I left.
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Sigh... after typing it all out and getting a chance to go over it again, I feel stupid. Why couldn't I think of anything meaningful to say? I claim that I love this girl, shouldn't I be able to talk to her about anything? Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I can just put it all up to her bad day. Any other time we talk, its fine. Conversation flows normally. Maybe tonight was just weird.
But it does bother me that I really had nothing to say. Does that mean anything significant? I don't really know what to ask you guys... just any advice or insight you think would help.
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Tonight I got to see my girl that I never get to see. She goes to college upstate, and we only get to be together a few times a year. She isn't my girlfriend, but we have a deep love for each other, and we've slept together a few times. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Overall, our relationship status is complicated...
We talk online all the time, that's our main way of keeping in touch. Our conversations are great on there, we talk and flirt and its wonderful. A few days ago, we decided to call each other and have phone-sex-without-the-sex. Basically, talk real sexy and get each other horny as hell. Well, after that, she commented that I didn't say a whole lot. Can you blame me? All my blood was going to my other head. Apparently, she wanted me to say more, and she complained that she has to talk all the time. I said I'd work on it and that was that.
Fast-forward to today. She came to town this weekend, and we had kinda semi-planned to see each other. Friday, not a word from her. Today, all day, not a word. Then she calls about 9 o'clock. Says she's across town, but she wants to see me, and it would take her about an hour to get to my house. We plan to go to the movies. OK, great right? So I take a shower, get ready. Then she calls about 40 minutes later. Start drama now:
Apparently, she had a bad day. But that was alright, she was going to go out with me and have fun anyway. Then on her way to my house, she had to go through a toll, and she didn't have any change, and no one was working the booths, and she only had a $10, and the change machine only took 1's and 5's, and blah blah blah BLAH. So that whole thing just pushed her over the edge, and she got all emotional about everything. Then she called me, saying she just felt really bad and wanted to go home. I convinced her to come see me anyway, and she showed up a little bit later.
We go park somewhere in my neighborhood, and she vents everything to me for like 30 minutes, including the toll thing. Not exactly what I had in mind for what we'd do after not seeing each other for 6 months. But oh well, she's important to me, I wanted to cheer her up. Anyway, she seemed a little happier after letting it out. Then she starts asking me to talk, and here's the whole point of the thread: My mind was a blank. Literally, I couldn't think of a single thing to say. I tried to get her to pick a topic, then I would feed off that, but she wasn't having it. She was looking at me, expecting something, anything... and I had nothing. Sh!t.
Honestly, in that moment, all I wanted to do was kiss her. But I knew that would've been a bad idea, since she was so vulnerable and all. I figure if I did, it would come across as me taking advantage of her, or not respecting her feelings. Was that the right thing to do? Anyway, after a few minutes of not really saying anything, she decided she was ready to go home.
We get back to my house, and I try to explain why I had nothing to say. I said that she threw me off with everything she said, and I was expecting the fun date thing that was supposed to happen. She was like uh-huh, and I said you don't believe me. She said it was OK, and that she had to go. Then I said "I have to kiss you before I go", and just moved in. We had a nice few kisses, and I left.
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Sigh... after typing it all out and getting a chance to go over it again, I feel stupid. Why couldn't I think of anything meaningful to say? I claim that I love this girl, shouldn't I be able to talk to her about anything? Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I can just put it all up to her bad day. Any other time we talk, its fine. Conversation flows normally. Maybe tonight was just weird.
But it does bother me that I really had nothing to say. Does that mean anything significant? I don't really know what to ask you guys... just any advice or insight you think would help.