"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me seeing her 2x/week vs. Her seeing her friends 7x/week

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It is generally well known that you need to give the girl(s) that you are seeing the gift of missing you which means allowing plenty of time between dates and not seeing her very often to keep her wanting more.

What I have trouble understanding is why it is beneficial for us guys to see chicks we are dating sparingly while the same girl sees her best friend everyday of every week? Girls can hang out with each other all the time and become closer while it is seemingly opposite when it comes to her dating. I'm just curious, are us guys held up to a higher standard than her own friends? Why does she get sick of guys so easily compared to her girl friends?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Upside said:
It is generally well known that you need to give the girl(s) that you are seeing the gift of missing you which means allowing plenty of time between dates and not seeing her very often to keep her wanting more.

What I have trouble understanding is why it is beneficial for us guys to see chicks we are dating sparingly while the same girl sees her best friend everyday of every week? Girls can hang out with each other all the time and become closer while it is seemingly opposite when it comes to her dating. I'm just curious, are us guys held up to a higher standard than her own friends? Why does she get sick of guys so easily compared to her girl friends?
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Girls can see their girlfriends everyday because they are FRIENDS.

They can talk about their emotions and feelings and get closer with each other.

A guy that does this with a girl will end up as another one of the girl's FRIENDS.

You become to available, needy and clingy and uninteresting when you are seeing the girl everyday.

Don't you have better things to do then spend all of your time with ONE girl?
 
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If you're an interesting person she'll want to see more of you... If you have a full life, full of hobbies and work that you're interested in, she's going to be drawn into your enthusiasm.

Guys try this "gift of missing her" business in an attempt to nurture this, as well as to keep themselves away from getting too clingy too quickly.

But if you're a busy guy, then perhaps you only have a couple days a week to see her.

Are you dating this girl? Are you having sex? Try texting her sexual innuendos during the day, or if you see her on gchat or something start talking sexual.

That'll get her interested in seeing you again, AND she'll start re-arranging her schedule to fit you in more, which will likely mean she'll see her friends less...
 
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you see her ever day of the week and text her 100 times a day and see how it goes

It is generally well known that you need to give the girl(s) that you are seeing the gift of missing you which means allowing plenty of time between dates and not seeing her very often to keep her wanting more.
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you answerd your own question
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challenge = scarcisty = demand = mystery = romance= uncertainty = thinking about you lots = high interest level in you
 
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I think many of you are misunderstanding as to why I made this post. This isn't relavant to my life and my own behavior per se (For those who are wondering, I am dating and ****ing this chick 1-2 times a week. The rest of my time is spent with school, friends, etc.), but why girls RESPOND a whole lot better from a lack of contact from a "partner" compared to their friends. Why do girls need the gift of missing a man but not a fellow woman? What is the difference? Evolutionary, psychological, no explanation available?

You can be the best **** of her life, but she'll grow to resent you if you **** too many times in the week. It doesn't make any sense when you see her talk to her best friend for 5 hours a day everyday.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Seeing a chick less frequently helps the relationship stay fresh, less opportunities to argue, and more opportunities for you to meet other women.

The moment she becomes the center of your world (i.e. wanting to see her almost every day) you become jealous and needy, and you'll only hurt the relationship.
 
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Seeing a chick less frequently helps the relationship stay fresh, less opportunities to argue, and more opportunities for you to meet other women.

The moment she becomes the center of your world (i.e. wanting to see her almost every day) you become jealous and needy, and you'll only hurt the relationship.

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Upside said:
I think many of you are misunderstanding as to why I made this post. This isn't relavant to my life and my own behavior per se (For those who are wondering, I am dating and ****ing this chick 1-2 times a week. The rest of my time is spent with school, friends, etc.), but why girls RESPOND a whole lot better from a lack of contact from a "partner" compared to their friends. Why do girls need the gift of missing a man but not a fellow woman? What is the difference? Evolutionary, psychological, no explanation available?

You can be the best **** of her life, but she'll grow to resent you if you **** too many times in the week. It doesn't make any sense when you see her talk to her best friend for 5 hours a day everyday.
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Relationships require work. Hanging out with friends is free time.
 
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