"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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me n my broke ass

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it's her birthday next week i didn't know in advance coz we've been goin out for 2 weeks now. problem is i'm as broke ass hell and i don't want to dissapoint her. how do i break it down, i definitely can't tel her i'm broke. help... anyone... anywhere?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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people like David Deangelo talk about not giving a girl gifts except for a couple very special occasions a year. and not to give gifts too early, either. complication comes when you start dating and it's her birthday soon. umm. here's an excerpt i found ...

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In other words, I think that deep down, most of us guys
really want to treat women VERY WELL.

We WANT to do nice, thoughtful things for a special woman,
and have her do nice, thoughtful things in return.

Amen?

The problem comes when we go overboard and start using gifts
and favors TOO MUCH, and start communicating to the woman
that WE ARE OWNED BY HER.

If you're going to do wonderful things for a woman that you
care about, make sure that you do things that MAKE AN
IMPACT. And make sure that they AREN'T PREDICTABLE.

If you want to give her a nice gift that doesn't cost a
lot of money, cook her a meal, then give her a massage, and
finally wrap up with feeding her fruit in bed... etc.

Women want things that communicate THOUGHTFULNESS. Not that
they don't enjoy diamonds... lol. But if you do something
that says "I was thinking about you, and I wanted you to
have a great experience" it will make FAR more of an impact
than an expensive gift that wasn't chosen with care.

But as I mentioned, don't OVERDO the gifts and favors...
don't ever become PREDICTABLE.

And, interestingly enough, this can be a great test to see
how a woman can handle extra-nice treatment. If she starts
acting overly demanding and spoiled after you give her a
gift of thoughtful experience, then you might have a
damaged woman on your hands. Pay attention.
-----[credit: David DeAngelo]

yeah..

-JP
 

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Originally posted by seroph
[ complication comes when you start dating and it's her birthday soon.

that's exactly the situation dawg
 

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make her a candle lit romantic dinner. crap like that for her birthday and im sure ull get a nice lay that evening....
 

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Get her two tickets to X event, hopefully something you would enjoy as well. Its not overly sappy, not too expensive, and it sets up another date for the two of you in the future.

However, for two weeks, it may just be better to just take her out to something cheap just to celebrate.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Always thought that getting just a baloon and a card and make em dinner later on would be kinda cute!
 

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I'm a BIG fan of the whole spoiling them for an evening.

Think about what goes on at the Day Spa and do something of the sort. Starting off with a real nice dinner (Her favorites not yours) and going into a long massage with oils and a foot massage.

Finish off with her favorite desserts and a DVD that you KNOW she loves and it'll be an evening she calls all her friends about when she gets home.

Notice there is no lay involved in my plan. If she wants to thats great, but I wouldnt initiate it. Show her that this evening is about her feeling great, not you getting a nut.:)
 

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And how is his broke ass going to afford taking this chick that his been seeing for 2 WEEKS to the day spa? Great call. I'm thinking the above mentioned balloon and card/dinner for her sounds like a good call. Go pick up some candles, invite her over, cook her up something she'll enjoy. Maybe finish off with a dvd or massage or both.
 

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Originally posted by TACH
And how is his broke ass going to afford taking this chick that his been seeing for 2 WEEKS to the day spa? Great call. I'm thinking the above mentioned balloon and card/dinner for her sounds like a good call. Go pick up some candles, invite her over, cook her up something she'll enjoy. Maybe finish off with a dvd or massage or both.
I never said TAKE her to one. Create one at home. Give her all the same treatments...
 

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I see, but that could still cost more than he could afford perhaps. If dergz could afford that it would be pretty cool to do for her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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take her to a picknick (pack up all the stuff, and don't tell her where your going)
 

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Originally posted by TACH
I see, but that could still cost more than he could afford perhaps. If dergz could afford that it would be pretty cool to do for her.
Might even be a bit much for a 2 week relationship, but thats the kind of **** I do. Be my normal C+F self, not too much attention for any one chick and then on SPECIAL days they get queen treatment.

Her knowing that you can treat her that way will raise her IL especially when you dont do it all the time.
 

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Thanks a lot guyz i think i'll go for the picnic thang spider mentioned it's pretty cool coz down here we got a few nice spots. had never thought of that before. yu guyz are fcking gr8!
 
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