"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Me and my teacher

DonJuanit0

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So, I have this teacher I met today in our first lesson in univ. We are about 15 students in the classroom. She is like HB 9!! She is about 25 and I am 20 years old... I know it's kinda difficult to try something with a teacher of yours, I guess you all can see why is that! Even though I think I have some chances with her so for today I kept eye contact with her way too much time and she was staring back a lot, like it was normal (prolly it was for her, I don't know). At some point while we were staring each other she lost her words so that made me calm a bit and let her teach, I thought I was the problem for that loss (or wanted to be me). Anyway she came close to as outside of the class, stood next to me and started talking to us... All the time I kept a mysterious face, talked rarelly and only to say something good in the class and out of it.
There is also this other guy who was coming all the time in our classroom just to be with that teacher! Everyone even the teacher have understand he is such an AFC, but he is no threat for many reasons... I was even able to use him and made myself seen as wise (from what I said at some point anyway). So, this is the thing... Any advice? Anyone has something similar to this and can guide my moves? She is a teacher and I am a student...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ucmedv8

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A little background is necessary here. I'm a GTA (graduate teaching instructor), which I'm guessing is your instructors position. She seems a bit young to be a professor, so she is likely a graduate student still, like myself. We are not allowed to see (f*ck or date) current students, but we can mess around with former students. GTAs and TAs are constantly doing this, but it must be initiated by the student. The one former student I boinked contacted me through facebook. She showed interest, so I invited her out.

You need to go to her office hours often. Make these meetings enjoyable not just for you, but for her. Read her body language during these meetings and in class to get clues if she is attracted to you. If you think she is then make a move when the quarter/semester is over. Good luck!
 

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"All the time I kept a mysterious face, talked rarelly"

"I kept eye contact with her way too much time and she was staring back a lot"

Sounds like you're being a weirdo stalker who is creeping her out.
 

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hahaha, maybe she got freaked out during class and choked. That may have been where the pause came from.
 

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haha! No, I know how to keep an eye contact and and all that staff! Trust me she wasn't freaked out, she wouldn't talk to me in the class or came next to me during break! :) Btw, thanks ucmed I'll stick to this for now and I guess w8 for the semester to end...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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