me and my girlfriend..our IL's may both be falling

[shark]

We've been going for like 3 months now. Beginning, was awesome..she chased me and i played more hard to get. Then I went away for like a month and a half and she stayed true to me. I came back and we were great, but we started playing less games. I seen her almost every night practically i go out. It seems HER and MY Interest level is dropping but i think I LIKE HER MORE then she likes me when it USED to be the opposite.

Will ignoring her a bit more, not taking phonecalls/texts for a day do the trick? Give me some tips

Don't want to lose this one, b/c yeah im what you would say experiencing one-etis (im not really showing it though, but dam it hurts inside)

 

[crowes22]

Well I already told you what I'd do in your other thread. You are afraid of losing her, so basically you are fvcked. You sound young.

 

[shark]

Yah, i'm only a junior in H.S. and this is my first girlfriend. Before her, no girls (even a lot of HB 8's or better) with a good personality wasn't good enough for me to be exclusive with. So, I just have a hard time finding someone who I can be in a relationship with and I have no interest in just "hooking up" with random girls however, this girlfreind buisness and one-etis is f'in with my head to much...i gotta strightin my head out..any advice on that..(how to not care THAT much of losing her)

 

[Hunchback]

Man, you remind me a lot of me. My first girlfriend I loved more than anything. Didn't want to lose her EVER!

She flirted a lot though, I mean...all the ****ing time, with everyone, guys, girls, what the ****?

I was scared of losing her a lot, and this must of showed.

I lost her, took me into a deep ****ing depression.

My best advice is to cut your losses and get the **** out. Honestly as harsh as that is, it's the only thing you can do, in my opinion.

Understand you will get other girls...and this is just a temporary setback.

 

[shark]

But the thing is, no reason for me to get out based on her part. She isn't like THAT THAT flirty. I mean I went away for 6 weeks and she didn't do anything while people told me guys liked her and thought she would..she stayed true to me and she's never tocuhy with anyone BESIDES me.

I mean, are you reccomending i get out now just to save my own feeling from being hurt? If so, why do they have to be hurt. Who knows, things can go on being fine and i may be the one to decide ya know what..you bore me.

It was HER who chased me and spoke up about her feelings initially, this thing is just the past week..ehh

 

[crowes22]

OK, I am going to try and help you shark. You are a jr in HS, ok.
You think losing this GF will be the end of your life, so you justify her shytty behavior therefore disrespecting yourself. And proving to her in her mind that you are a puzzy and have no other options. This is what she thinks.

So what, are you planning to marry this chick? lol.

Face it , you and this chick will end, and you will live. And you will have literally hundreds of chicks interested in you in the future. And some alot hotter than her, I guarantee it.

You simply need to take a gutcheck and man up. If you do this you will have an incredible advantage over your peers in all aspects of life.

 

[shark]

I don't think losing her will be the END of my life. I know I'm smart and will go onto college and hopefully make a good living when i'm older. It's just my pickyness...

Keep it mind for the past 4-5 years I've been hooking up w/ girls, probably a little over 20...and a lot more who i rejected. Alot of these girls were great and hot, and werent good enough for me. So out of 5 years or so of being with girls, only 1 has been good enough for me to go out with her..and i feel like I wont be able to have feelings like that for another girl..for a WHILE and i don't want to be like that. I want a girlfriend, i like girls a little *****y and cold SOMTIMES...idk kinda like a opposite DJ but of a women and thats KINDA how she is.

 

[frivolousz21]

YOU ARE 16 OR 17!

dont sweat it...

wat your doing now will seem meaningless when ur my age of nearly 23!

just re-fycking-lax!

 

[Javelin44]

i think there was a post made as a joke about a one-itis story. oneitis is not bad. love is not bad. you can be clingy if you both love each other. otherwise, keep up the bull**** games

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by shark
I don't think losing her will be the END of my life. I know I'm smart and will go onto college and hopefully make a good living when i'm older. It's just my pickyness...

Pickyness and oneitis are totally seperate, kid, I don't mean to sound condescending, but you are are where I was. I didn't have any guidance (this site) like you do, and I still didn't act like such a chump. That is what you are doing.

Why? I respect myself. I know the difference. Learn it now. I want to help you, but you have to be willing to be helped. Are you? Do you want to be a MAN? Or do you wish to remain a boy? Your choice.

 

[shark]

yes i want to be a man..but do you dump a girl you like b/c of onetic? b/c i like her that much i should dump her for my own good? Even if things are OK with her?