Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Maybe you could help me with a problem?

Klugscheisser

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Hello everybody!

First of all, i'm terribly sorry for my average english skills ;) I don't have a lot of experience in speaking english.

Well then, let's come to my problem:

Almost one year ago, i've met a very beautiful girl, which i liked immediately. But i'm a very shy person, and that's why i couldn't start a conversation with her. A bit later, i've found out that she's working for the same company as i do, so i've seen her almost every day on my way to work. I always was a very shy guy, and this was the point in my life, where i decided to change everything.

One day, i've finally managed to talk to her, and we had a nice conversation. She even started talking to me the other day, but i always had the feeling that she don't like me very much, because she is the exact opposite of me! Not shy at all!
For example, she "touched" almost everyone during a conversation, except me. She sent E-Mails and SMS to almost every person in the company, except to me. And sometimes, she even acted like she can't see me or looked on the other side instead of saying hello. But there were also a few singns of interest, for example:

-she told me a lot about her life, although i didn't ask her to tell me this.
-she mentioned my girlfriend in a conversation, like she wanted to aks me if i have one
-she playfully hitted me when i didn't see her
-she always asked me what i've done during my weekend
-she started to talk about soccer, and i'm pretty sure that she don't care about it. But she knows that i'm a huge fan, i i visit almost every game of my favourite club.
etc.

But some time ago, she started to totally ignore me. if i see her, she tries to "run away", she don't say hello anymore. So i stopped to talk to her, too.

What should i do now? Should i ask her if she has a problem with me, or should i ingnore her? Is there still a chance for me? What should i do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jeffthechef

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i think you might be in the wrong section..this is the high school section
but i'll try to help you anyways

there's nothing wrong in being interested in the opposite sex, right?
then why should you be nervous about expressing it?

is there any particular reason you get nervous?

as for the signs. forget them...they only hinder you...do not try to figure out whether she's interested..it's pointless....forget all the "signs"..
just ask her to dinner or coffee or the park or the movies or anywhere

if she says no, is there any negative consequences? no. You've gotten closer to becoming a man though.

if she says yes, great.

good luck:rock:
 

MisterMcGee

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She knows you're shy and wants to be 'polite'. Girls used to act like that to me in highschool. Maybe she wants you to open up by being polite to you, the shy closed guy. Many people talk to shy people the way she seems to be talking to you.

You need to rad the DJ bible and get your grips with being a man before you attempt to do anything with this girl.
 
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