Maybe women playing games are actually INTO you?

[Touchout]

I have been thinking about this for a while and it seems to make sense in my head. It's just a theory, I know I'm probably going to get flamed for it.

So I feel women's games, with the exception of flaking, are almost the equivalent of male's neg hits, their something to bring the other person down off their pedestal and equal to you. The things they do such as creating jealousy, not calling back, and giving mixed signals are all used to generate attraction in you, to make you think about them, to make you develop oneitis.

For me, whenever I start gaming a girl and she starts feeling attraction, she will start giving mixed signals, so by now it's a dead giveaway to me that she wants me. Instead of getting jealous or developing oneitis, I just become more confident in my game knowing that I am already in.

So, does anyone else agree with this?

 

[djSlvt]

They do all these things, sometimes on purpose, to get you into them. It does not mean they like you. It does mean it gives them an ego boost. Women are extrimely insecure creatures by nature, and having a boy going crazy over them is just what doctor ordered. Put it in any other way, it's what it comes down to.

No, if she likes you she won't play these stupid games. Unless she's the rules girl. There is a test to find out if she is.

If they play these games use the regular procedures to knock if off. If she's interested she'll knock it off, if not, she's not worth it.

 

[MatureDJ]

The main determinant is whether or not she does the chasing. So long as she is chasing you (i.e., she is calling you, wanting to get together, etc.), you are definitely in the ball game. In fact, I would say that as long as you find her attractive, you should stick with it. Eventually she will make it clear that she wants a romantic relationship.

A woman that flakes will generally not be the type that will chase you.

Of course, that is not to say that you shouldn't pursue other plates if they come your way.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Nah they do it to see how interested in them you are.

They figure men that don't chase them every single day at every moment and don't persist don't really like them/aren't attracted to them..

They have a point cuz if you really like the chic/really want to bang her there's verly little she can do to turn you away..

So they have a point,but they're low-self-esteem is freightening.A good personality & enthusiasm can make an average girl gorgeous.

There's nothing in this world like having a chic light up like a tree whenever she sees you..I LOVE THAT..it makes my day..

Now,notice if a girl already knows for sure you want to **** the sh1t outta and you can barley keep it in your pants around her she's gonna be smiling and sexual to you when she plays those lil' games and you'll eat it up there..

But if a girl has doubts those flakes & jealousy games will either piss you off beyond belief cuz of the uncertainty or break your heart and turn you into a coldhearted animal...

Very few women don't play games at the very least all women have "frozen me out" at one time or another..or done the whole "emotionally neglected routine"..

Some women know how to play those mindgames to encourage you or you wet your sexual appetite(example:Not so cute face wise girl but with an a plus body shows up with no bra,tight jeans and some nice perfume and lipstick going on and looks at you with the sex eyes when she's talking bs to another guy...you're gonna wanna take that azz right then and there cuz you know she's doing it for you..)..

Most don't know what the **** they're doing come off as mean b1tches and make you sorta take it out on all other chics..(example:She speaks to you everyday for a week straight,on the phone all nightlong for another weekstraight..shes dying to go out but then she flakes and on top of that ignores you the next day..)...

You're gonna come home and gonna wanna to kill the b1tch....lol...

It depends on the girl and it's all a game to make you more interested/see how interested you are..

 

[reset]

If it's a game to see how interested you really are, then some of these chicks must be really dense. Guys want to screw them, and they know this.

They must be super insecure to need this constant reminder that the guy is interested. It's sad when you see a girl who is otherwise intelligent, and on the surface appears to be an adult, turn into a three year old little girl the moment you pull away attention from them.

But I'm having a tough time buying the "it means they're interested" in you part. I think girls like this are interested until you show them interest, then at that point they lose interest in YOU AS A PERSON, but it's still essential to them that you maintain your interest IN THEM.

So if they see you withdrawing, the sweetness and light will come out, the flirty behavior gets amped up, they hold it in front of you but just out of reach, and as soon as you show any type of interest in that, they pull it right away, and they are gone. Gone for as long as necessary until their insecurities come back up, then they're back to make sure they've "still got it".

So I guess there's two ways to go. You either give in and let them know you want them so damn bad, that you've been "caught" and that's the point they lose all respect for you, and turn you into a friend, or a back-up (which they'll never claim). And during this time you are not allowed to show interest in other girls, because even though they don't want you, you still belong to them, as their back-up plan/ego-booster.

Or you can do what I've done, and just withdraw, knowing that there's no way in hell you're going to settle for some "artificial friendship". You know you're being used and manipulated so you just don't play. This drives them absolutely nuts, and you will see much more of them this way. When you submit to their fake friendship, you rarely see them, but when you refuse to play games, they are never out of sight. Then you become their drama drug, they are addicted to you, the challenge you give them... except deep down they have absolutely no self-esteem, so the moment you open up, they are gone, rinse repeat.

Guess I'm rambling here. I just don't see the "it means she really likes you" part. I've had a couple chicks like this and at first I would tell myself it's because they like ME, and that protected my ego. Now I see it as not being about me at all, but about them, and their need for drama.

 

[ryannath]

This is a good question and I have wondered it before too, but no, I don't think them playing games means they are interested. When a woman is interested, it's SOOO easy to figure it out. It's like they have it written on their forehead. They will look at you with "the look." Maybe even lick their lips. This is if you are in person. If not, they will call you more, text, Im, etc. It's so obvious to tell when they want you.

 

[Phyzzle]

So I feel women's games, with the exception of flaking, are almost the equivalent of male's neg hits, their something to bring the other person down off their pedestal and equal to you.

What I bolded here is extremely important. Don't forget this. Don't turn into one of those guys who has a fantasy relationship with some chick who flirts like crazy at work, but won't see him otherwise.

Interested women want to be with you. The ones who don't want to be with you aren't playing 'head games' while secretly harboring interest for you. Take the hint and stop pursuing her.