Ight, so me and this chick have been dating since the 3rd soo a little over 3 weeks. Background is ive known her for almost 4 months....i went to juvi for one of those months. so we are dating and she told me from the start that it was a no sex until marriage for her, i knew she wouldnt be able2 resist and i called her on her bullsht last night and was right. we went at it for 2 hours and it was great. but now the mornin after im starting to wonder if I did the wrong thing by hookin up wit her. I took her virginity so now shes gonna be attached. What if I lose attraction with her soon? shes gonna think i played her and thats the last thing i want! help!
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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
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So let me get this straight:
First, you believed she was a virgin.
(If I think about this too long I'll sh** my gut laughing)
So..
Second, you had sex with her and are worried she will become attached.
Third, you are worried you will lose interest in her now you have stuck it in her.
Forth, you don't want her to think you played her?
Is this correct?
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First, you believed she was a virgin.
(If I think about this too long I'll sh** my gut laughing)
So..
Second, you had sex with her and are worried she will become attached.
Third, you are worried you will lose interest in her now you have stuck it in her.
Forth, you don't want her to think you played her?
Is this correct?
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Did she bleed??? Hors "play" themselves - you owe her shyt!!! I hate it when hors try to act innocent!!OUTCRY said:
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well did she?Last Man Standing said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
na she didnt bleed, and ive fkd virgins before and they were all in more pain then her, but i did oral on her for about an hour and only stuck it in there for a few minutes before she went down on me. so im not too sure. i was thinkin the same thing as u guys and i know girls play games but this would blow my mind if this chick was lying if u knew her and how she goes2 church 3 times a week u would understand but idkk
1. Tell her you're attracted to her (or show her)
2. Tell her that you lose your attraction to chicks who get too attached to you. (make sure you clearly communicate this)
Number 1 will reinforce her confidence and make it less likely she'll get defensive. Number 2 will correct her behavior so she doesn't annoy the **** out of you.
2. Tell her that you lose your attraction to chicks who get too attached to you. (make sure you clearly communicate this)
Number 1 will reinforce her confidence and make it less likely she'll get defensive. Number 2 will correct her behavior so she doesn't annoy the **** out of you.
driveon your exactly right, cuz i am attracted to her, im just worried that shell get wayyy too attached which will make me wanna walk away. thanks for the advice and thumbs up! and yes i still think this girl was a virgin she wouldnt even kiss me for the first 2 weeks we dated cuz she felt it was something "special" sooo
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You would walk away 'cos she gets too attached?
Eh.. are you friends with Cod3r?
The Muscly Jerk
Eh.. are you friends with Cod3r?
The Muscly Jerk
well I just found out she was raped when she was 7, so i gues that would negate the bleeding. and yes i get verrrry unattracted when a girl gets too attached so i need to show her in away to back of a lil witout starting a drama showdown
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Mate leave it alone, stay away from rape or sexual abuse victims at all costs!OUTCRY said:
They have major issues that will never go away and will dominate their behaivour and she will ruin your life! :nervous:
Run forest, run!
The Muscly Jerk
You didn't do anything wrong because you never made any long term promises that things will change between the two of you after you have sex.
As for the rape story, I would be more concerned about that. Women never fully recover from being raped and are psychologically fvcked in some form of another. The whole waiting to have sex before marriage is not due to personal choice but due to the fact she was raped (if she really was raped who knows.)
Proceed with caution......
As for the rape story, I would be more concerned about that. Women never fully recover from being raped and are psychologically fvcked in some form of another. The whole waiting to have sex before marriage is not due to personal choice but due to the fact she was raped (if she really was raped who knows.)
Proceed with caution......
DJdamage you are right about the no sex before marriage not being a religous choice, it was becuase of her being raped and being worried about the whole ordeal. you all are also right about being VERRY cautious about the rape thing and hermental state, but she has gave me 0 indications of psychological problems of any sort besides normal stuff so i will keep on top of it
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dude now i understand why she told you "its no sex until marriage". most girls that truly believe this dont blurt it out in the time span of 3 weeks. i feel like she is already attached to you even if she isnt showing you signs. shes thinking about you just as much as a WBAFC thinks about his "gf" (-_-").
and just as a heads up, theres a 80% chance shes on medication (prescribed by her psychiatrist of course), so her emotions will be even more f"ed up from time to time.
if you want to leave her, follow these 3 steps:
1. inflate her ego
2. show some "creepy" affection
3. and just wait for the LJBF to kick in
if you want to be really mean (i know someone who did this to a girl, really sucks) avoid her / ignore her / dont take her calls FOREVER.
if you want to be with her then its easy, you dont really have to do much. just be prepared for some weird sh!t in the future.
really curious...how did you find out she was raped? did she tell you? if she did, thats a bad sign. if you heard from her close friend or something, then thats different.
and just as a heads up, theres a 80% chance shes on medication (prescribed by her psychiatrist of course), so her emotions will be even more f"ed up from time to time.
no she gave it to you. now she might be expecting something in return, like a BF to protect her for example......
if you want to leave her, follow these 3 steps:
1. inflate her ego
2. show some "creepy" affection
3. and just wait for the LJBF to kick in
if you want to be really mean (i know someone who did this to a girl, really sucks) avoid her / ignore her / dont take her calls FOREVER.
if you want to be with her then its easy, you dont really have to do much. just be prepared for some weird sh!t in the future.
really curious...how did you find out she was raped? did she tell you? if she did, thats a bad sign. if you heard from her close friend or something, then thats different.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I heard from her that she was raped, she told me becuz i asked her why she didnty bleed when we had sex if she was virgin, she didnt tell me right away but few hours we were talkin bout it again and then she told me that she didnt wanna say anything about it or talk about it much but that she was raped when she was 7 so idk. thatnks for all the advice everyone and if i wanna leave her it has to be on good terms being we work together(another big no no)