Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Maybe she's trying to make me chase her...

ARrocket

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So if anybody read my post last night, it was about the girl that wouldn't give me her number after I asked her to go ice skating with me over spring break.

Well, today she stopped me in the hallway this morning before first period. She asks me to come to some youth thing at her church, and then says "we can go ice skating next Friday I think." I didn't really react to that, just said "ok, write down your number and give it to me later." So, she comes up to me later (while I'm talking to another girl....just a friend but SHE doesn't know that ;) ) I didn't read the paper right away, but when I did, it turns out she didn't leave her number!! She just wrote down the address of the church and what time I should show up...and what to wear. lol. I don't really have much of a question, just venting. What is wrong with her? Why won't she give me her number???? If I had the number I'd call her and tell her something came up and I couldn't go (I don't wanna go to this church thingy at all), but I don't, so if I don't go, I won't be able to contact her for awhile, and she'll be thinking "wtf? Why didn't her show up??). The thing is, I think this girl has serious potential (she's obviously interested, and I like her) so I guess I have to go :(
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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you dont have to show. she coulda done that to try and make you think this way. only go if you want too
 

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I don't want to go, but I am thinking of asking this girl to prom, so I need to get things moving with her. By not giving me her number, she's either very smart or very slow lol.

If I don't show, she'll be pissed, and I have no way to contact her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she might just be like you and trying to 'game' you (in the way girls do). You know they act all flirty and stuff but when you use C&F or negs on her she has some sort of comeback. This is happening to me now with one chick I know. So she may have read up on how guys game (or she's just experienced). You know what do women say on similar forums as this one? Do they all say play hard to get and not give out your number if you know the guy likes you? I would think that to be the case because they probably figure they can get control by doing so.

Look, rocket, just don't start getting oneitis for this girl and let her take control of you. Even if you guys start going out DO NOT become an AFC. Remember this forum.

But I would go. I mean you need to get her number or something. Try getting an email. Again, HS chicks are really weird so some of the stuff the guys in this part of the forum say may not apply to this young immature broad.
 

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ezily said:
she might just be like you and trying to 'game' you (in the way girls do). You know they act all flirty and stuff but when you use C&F or negs on her she has some sort of comeback. This is happening to me now with one chick I know. So she may have read up on how guys game (or she's just experienced). You know what do women say on similar forums as this one? Do they all say play hard to get and not give out your number if you know the guy likes you? I would think that to be the case because they probably figure they can get control by doing so.

Look, rocket, just don't start getting oneitis for this girl and let her take control of you. Even if you guys start going out DO NOT become an AFC. Remember this forum.

But I would go. I mean you need to get her number or something. Try getting an email. Again, HS chicks are really weird so some of the stuff the guys in this part of the forum say may not apply to this young immature broad.
True, but I get much better answers in this forum :)

Thanks. I'll go, and I will get that number. And yeah, she always has a comeback. Didn't at first, but she does now. Even starts convos by throwing in her own neg-hits. Seems like all the girls I attract are like that. Hmm....maybe those are just the ones I'm attracted to lol.

Yup, no AFC, and that's a promise. The oneites thing, however, is harder, since there are NO quality girls around. I could get with plenty of them, but they all are stupid, seriously.
 

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haha yeah I always like the one's who neg back or act bratty on purpose. They make the game more fun because they can kinda sense what you're doing and they're playing along really well. From my experience I would say girls like that are interested. Kinda sucks for me sometimes though because I like to do this stuff with girls while I'm at work and in my job it wouldn't be a good idea to ask for a number while she's there. I have to hope I'll run into her outside of work which luckily happens every now and then.

You however have it good with this chick. Just keep it up. I would be very surprised if it didn't pay off in the end. But watch out for oneitis because at this point you cannot be 100% sure she is interested.
 

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i'm not going to be the normal basher of christians. but, from experience, my brother is one of those religious zealots. he thinks it his job to *RECRUIT* people to his church.

maybe that's what shes doing.

but it doesn't hurt to take out 1-2 hours of your time to go. just a heads up... they might make you feel bad for "going to church for the wrong reasons" and such.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Michele said:
i'm not going to be the normal basher of christians. but, from experience, my brother is one of those religious zealots. he thinks it his job to *RECRUIT* people to his church.

maybe that's what shes doing.

but it doesn't hurt to take out 1-2 hours of your time to go. just a heads up... they might make you feel bad for "going to church for the wrong reasons" and such.
Yeah, I'll go, but I won't go more than once. I'll make sure to get the digits.
 

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Wow, this is really horrible.....it's snowing like crazy here, so everything is canceled. I'm assuming the church thing is too. That means, I have no way of contacting her at all, since she didn't give me the number. ARRGH. Women.
 

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DonGorgon said:
I would not go but i would scold her fro not giving me the number as instructed.
Yeah, well, I can't go anyway because of the snow shutting down the city basically. However, I can't scold her for another 10 days because it's spring break!! That's the worst part...I can't contact her at all.
 

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ARrocket said:
Yeah, well, I can't go anyway because of the snow shutting down the city basically. However, I can't scold her for another 10 days because it's spring break!! That's the worst part...I can't contact her at all.
wow so you have to wait fro her to finnish her f'ing spree to resolve this issue?! Let it go..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonGorgon said:
wow so you have to wait fro her to finnish her f'ing spree to resolve this issue?! Let it go..

spree? What do you mean? Anyway, I don't just wanna next her, she has real potential. I was thinking of taking her to prom. She's obviously interested, just seems to be playing games.
 

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DonGorgon said:
^^^spring break is when young hot girls gout out of state to get f'ed i thuoght you knew.
Haha that doesn't apply. We're in high school. I'm 18 and she's 17.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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