Maybe it's just me

[st_99]

I was just going through all the girls that I've known fairly well over the past few years or so, friends, flings, coworkers, friends of friends, etc.. and if somebody asked me if any one of them would fit my criteria for a girl I would honestly desire a LTR with, I would say NOT EVEN ONE of them.

Sure, I'd bang most of them, and have some of them, but if I was being totally honest with myself, I would find they just wouldn't work because of one thing or another. Some may be good looking but have other issues, others have good personalities but are like HB4's others just suck in a lot of area's, etc. Others are ok in most areas but really just are not good enough in any area to be long term desirable..

Having said all that, I don't think I'm THAT picky. I'd just like something in the HB7+ area, that is generally a happy person that smiles, doesn't have a ton of baggage, is not BPD, and is just all around fairly normal.

It's nuts, I mean, is there any hope at all??

 

[Zunder]

I was just going through all the girls that I've known fairly well over the past few years or so, friends, flings, coworkers, friends of friends, etc.. and if somebody asked me if any one of them would fit my criteria for a girl I would honestly desire a LTR with, I would say NOT EVEN ONE of them.

Sure, I'd bang most of them, and have some of them, but if I was being totally honest with myself, I would find they just wouldn't work because of one thing or another. Some may be good looking but have other issues, others have good personalities but are like HB4's others just suck in a lot of area's, etc. Others are ok in most areas but really just are not good enough in any area to be long term desirable..

Having said all that, I don't think I'm THAT picky. I'd just like something in the HB7+ area, that is generally a happy person that smiles, doesn't have a ton of baggage, is not BPD, and is just all around fairly normal.

It's nuts, I mean, is there any hope at all??

Go overseas. Latvia etc

 

[Mike32ct]

Go overseas. Latvia etc

Mr. Jimbo, please come to the courtesy desk. We have a call for you on line 1 LOL.

 

[Jitterbug]

Young women these days aren't brought up to be a wife, therefore you will struggle to find one who is suitable as a LTR.

I have the same issue.

You may have better luck overseas, but you gotta be quick. Even my mother's home country (a SE Asian one) has been ruined by that.

The good ones that you can be in a LTR with (regardless of countries of origin) are usually brought up to fulfill that role by her parents and extended family. Think about how little girls have been brought up in the last 3-4 decades and you'll have your answer.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
Not a good Idea to look for a wife overseas...particularly an East Asian Girl....There is not so much a gap as a yawning chasm between you and her...although in general they are far superior wives,and long term lovers,there will be significant communication and Cultural problems ...best idea is to find one that someone else has broken in...Don't have to marry them that way.....I have found Mainland Chinese the best...Roissy has a really good blog "Gaming Asian Women" in general the correspondents would mirror my experiences.

 

[squirrels]

They are out there...you just have to be willing to put in the time and exercise the patience to find one. Be glad that most men don't have the persistence to do anything more than settle.

You know how the hot girl in the club is usually undersexed because most guys believe they are "out of her league"? The same principle applies in the "relationship" world. The best women get approached only by pricks and losers who have nothing to lose...they are waiting for you. But they won't find you unless you keep putting yourself out there.

When you see the drek that is passing for "good people" in Western society today, it's hard to maintain faith. But you must. And get some good f**king in the meantime.

 

[squirrels]

Laggy-ass forum. Double post.

 

[Colossus]

I was just going through all the girls that I've known fairly well over the past few years or so, friends, flings, coworkers, friends of friends, etc.. and if somebody asked me if any one of them would fit my criteria for a girl I would honestly desire a LTR with, I would say NOT EVEN ONE of them.

Sure, I'd bang most of them, and have some of them, but if I was being totally honest with myself, I would find they just wouldn't work because of one thing or another. Some may be good looking but have other issues, others have good personalities but are like HB4's others just suck in a lot of area's, etc. Others are ok in most areas but really just are not good enough in any area to be long term desirable..

Having said all that, I don't think I'm THAT picky. I'd just like something in the HB7+ area, that is generally a happy person that smiles, doesn't have a ton of baggage, is not BPD, and is just all around fairly normal.

It's nuts, I mean, is there any hope at all??

No, it's not just you. I felt that way for a long time, a couple of years probably.

There IS hope, trust me. You just have to keep your head up. I know that's really nonspecific advice but it's all you can do, along with continual self-improvement. I will say though be careful of thinking that foreign women are the answer...they arent. They can be refreshingly different in a lot of ways, but like Scaramouche said you have to take into account the cultural and communication differences. These can be a major headache and it's not something you can just ignore---in fact this was one of the main reasons my last gf (brazilian) and I didnt work out---her expectations were totally different than American chicks and it was just tough when she never got my jokes, pop culture references, etc.

My gf and I now work amazing well together and honestly there wasnt anything special I did to meet her, I guess the timing was right. I had just worked through some personal issues with a counselor right before I met her---so there you go, self-improvement again. It's an exercise in patience more than anything else.