Maybe i cant be just friends with you....(Long)

[Jizz]

Ok guys, its time to sort this situation im in with this girl out because its bugging me!

Basically a few months ago, me and this gal liked each other! Everything was great, the only problem being we lived quite far apart and also her best friend liked me even tho i had no interest in her.

We spent a weekend together, but this other girl and her best friend were with us all weekend too, so i couldnt do something that we had talked about before hand which was go for the kiss! She told me before "If you want something to happen, the balls in your court, im not gonna stop you, i like a guy who takes control" But i didnt do this, i have to admit, i did bottle it, i had one oppurtunity to go for it, but i missed it (big mistake i know) mainly because i was thinking about her best friend and thought it would be a lil harsh seeing as the weekend was about her that weekend (Long story, but it was her weekend)

Anyway, we used to talk all the time (big mistake i know) but we always knew distance this girl were always a problem! We were once talking and she said "Its like shes yours, coz she found you first, its like shes yours" so i said "If only we met first" and she replied "I know, but you dont always get what you want in life!"

Then one day we finally got "Permission" from this other girl that it would be ok if we got together, great i thought, the gal i was interested in text me to tell me that her friend said she didnt mind, and at this point, i should of gone for it full steam ahead, no holding back, i should of said "Well theres nothing stopping us now, meet me blah blah" but instead i made another big mistake and thought about her friends feelings again i said something like "Well hopefully she will be ok with it, ill talk to her soon about it" I regret doing that now!

That weekend i think it was, she went to her friends birthday party, she came back and i found out she had got with this lad, i didnt mind too much, but it was a lil annoying!

From that moment on things went downhill, i think she thought wel this guy is here now, and theres no complications, so whats stopping me, whereas as he (me) is living a while away and theres complications, even if he is a better guy!

I tried getting her to meet me and she said she couldnt coz of money then she said "We had fun before, maybe we should leave it at that! I dont wanna ruin a friendship with a relationship that wouldnt work coz of distance and (her best friend)"

I was like fine, then!

But i made a massive mistake again, i became friends, and im in the friends zone, it was fine at first because after this gal turned me down i had this other gal who i was talking to that i started to get with, but i soon got bored with her and now my mind is back on this girl even tho im in the just friendzone with her and she has a bf who she calls "Nothing serious! And I know we wont last but its fun atm"

Im gonna tell her straight out "I cant be just friends with you" I know exactly how she will react she will say "Dont you think its just coz we get along so well? Just coz we have a relaxed friendship, dont you think thats all it is?"

Im gonna be like "No, i think its coz i like you, and i think i cant be just friends with you, so if your happy with your bf, take care!"

And im gonna try and cut contact with her! I dont think the fun we had and the fact that we liked each other could of just changed like that! If it doesnt get her back at least ill soon forget about her!

I know telling a girl you like her etc is wrong, but i dont wanna be just friends! Am i doing the right thing, she thinks im over her now and that we can be just friends, i have to let her know i want her and i dont wanna be friends!

Am i doing the right thing?

Ta very much for any advice

 

[QuezNozet]

alright im going to a park soon with one of these "we can still hang out...just as friends" girl and was wondering how it should go?.....how different should i be from when i was actually talking to her?

 

[Kaptain]

Jizz

You lost your chick 'cos your actions did not match your words: Your actions left her confused to wheather you actual liked her and then another dude came along. Please don't emasculate yourself any further by having a hissy fit.

 

[Kaptain]

QuezNozet you shouldn't be any different

People say "Let just be friends" for their own benefit not yours. Why should you act any differently?

 

[Desdinova]

Women will get tired of waiting forever for a guy to make a move. If nothing happens by the time the next guy comes along and DOES make a move, the first guy is thrown into the friend zone. Once you're in the friend zone, your chances of getting out are close to nil.

You blew this one by hesitating. Who cares if her friends are there? Who cares if one of them likes you? Take what you want.

Cut all contact with her and learn from this experience. For the next girl you meet, don't hesitate or you'll wind up in the friend zone again. As the old saying goes,
Hesitation = Masturbation

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Here the word from the god of the elite so suave squad, which is me

"When a woman says LETS JUST BE FRIENDS, it is REJECTION , but don't take it negatively. She believes down in the long run you two will not be together, SHe is saving you Energy/Time - she is doing YOU a favor. ONLY AFCS like yourself whine and complain. I know this because I used to be AFC. Become a DJ and then when I see you are worthy you can be part of the Elite SS DJ Squad"

 

[izza]

Hey Jizz,

As a general principle, a DJ avoids any sort of long-distance relationship, at least at the beginning. I know that you were just looking for random play. But the fact of the matter is that I'm sure there are plenty of gorgeous, single women in your area. The question becomes, why aren't you meeting them?

The problem here isn't "oh rats things didn't work out with this one chick, I was a coward etc". Even though it's true that you messed up, that's not the problem. The problem is that you clearly have no worthwhile prospects in your own area. If you did, this post wouldn't exist in the first place.

Be glad all this didn't work out with this chick, it only increases your motivation to approach more women. When you make it your lifestyle to approach women, one woman cannot cause such distress.

Make approaching your no. 1 goal.

IZZA