lol bro, hold on a second here because I'm not sure if this post is directed at me or not... (I don't see why it would be judging from my OP), but in the event that it is...dude, I am a minority. I have been t here where you are now, and the truth of the matter is, you have to be confident in yourself. the **** is not easy.
there is no magic forumla, no truth pill, that is going to gain your confidence. when i first got here, I was scared ****less of attracive women, i didn't give a damn what color they were. I did the bootcamp, I talked to random people and said hi, then I would hold aconverstion with a random woman, then I would ask a woman out, then I would ask a woman out a day.
you have to get over your fear. no one is going to hold your hand. this is a program of action, not one of theory. I say you have to be confident beucase you have to. now the trick is, how do you GET confident. that is a different question altogether. only you can find that. for me it was getting in shape. getting my financies in order, and following my passions in life. I can't answer that for you.
I'm not lacking confidence with women, I don't have fear with women, and I'm not here asking about advice on game...because frankly I have yet to really come across someone that can do in field the things that I can so I'm very picky about who I take advice from.
This post was about me sharing knowledge that I have attained through my time in the field and developing my skills. It has nothing to do with me asking for advice because I'm scared of approaching or lacking confidence and all that. I've already put my dues in in the field.
I made this thread because back when I used to lack confidence and skill with women in the manner that you are suggesting, it was then that I wasn't sure if it was my race or lack of game affecting my results with women, so I just kept working on it as much as I could, until I got to the point where I knew with confidence my game was straight... allowing me to recognize the affects my race was having. Quick random example to make this clear, if you have two dogs in your house and every night you go to sleep one of them is barking his ass off all night keeping you up and causing a problem, well the way to find out which one is the problem you just get rid of one and see if the problem (the barking) still exists. So with game I just acquired the skills to then analyze my results. Very loose analogy since in game, once acquiring more skills my results with white women went up as well, but whatever you get the idea.
It was then that I was able to objectively compare results in various environments and notice patterns. Back when I had 0 game and 0 confidence, I always just attributed my lack of results on a lack of game so I just plugged away at it working on it, but once I had the game and much improved results I still recognized the varying results in different environments which is the reason for my post....
I get the impression you didn't read the thread or understand what I was referring to at all because as I said, I've gotten results here... and I've also explained that you don't have to move to another country to get results, that's just what I said was something I noticed really made game much easier as well.
The following post is a spot on summation of what this all refers to:
In other words, even though my game skill wise can be far superior to an equivalent white dude, his results may be equal or higher than mine due to factors involving environment/market.i'm black and while I have never had a real probelm dating white women or any women for that matter, I do have ot put more effort into it than probably Joseph your all american white guy does. some women just aren't going to dig you. but you know what I havfe found out.. that's not really my problem.
I put myself out there more (when I am dating) and alot of it has to do where you live. whenI was in arkansas man, it was hell. I like black women, my ex fiancee was black. But i like all types of women. I like attractive women. I have a little money and it helps but even with that said, some women just don't want to not deal with the stimga, but everything that comes along with dating a black person int he south. screw em. i didnt' do anything wrong. I'd still get dates, even nice looking ones, but you had to take alot more rejection to get the same amount of numbers.