"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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May I Have This Dance?: Good things to say to get a girl to dance with you

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I've never really liked the whole "grab her by her waist and 'hi, mind if I rub my **** against your ass while not saying anything?'" type of approach.

So, sometimes I say "may I have this dance?" with a "I'm pretending to be suave just to be funny" face as sort of a classy/corny/funny way to do it. It breaks the ice, is different than what all the other guys do, and works better than just awkwardly sliding my hips against her butt... (i.e. less rejections), but not as well as I thought it would. Mainly cause it's hard for her to hear and I have to go right up to her ear to say it, which freaks her out.

So... any better ideas? Sometimes I just go with, "hi" but I'm looking for something better.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don't worry about it. I wouldn't ask her to dance. Just go out, have fun, and dance. or not dance, just do whatever you think is fun and if she wants to dance with you she will, if not, then nobody cares.
 
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The whole bumping into a girl and dancing thing is much easier. But I can imagine the "May I have this dance?" *Cheesy suave pose* would build some instant attraction. Couple that with an elegantly outstretched hand and bowed head and you have yourself a winner
 
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If you want less rejections, develop rapport with the woman FIRST. Don't do it on the dance floor, do it when she goes for a drink or when she's talking to her friends.

Then when a song comes on, say "let's go dance!" and drag her ass onto the dancefloor. If she doesn't want to dance, she'll let you know :)
 
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