"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well I spotted this girl at my school I thought was attractive, I went up to her and offered to show her around since she was new to the school if she ever got lost.

She is a freshmen and I am a junior, One of my friends from another school is a relative so I got him to play the middle man and ask what she thought of me.


basically my friend said this guy likes you and would like to get to know you a little before he went out with you, She gave him her number to give to me.


I am thinking of calling her tomorrow but I just don't know what to say because I am the kind of guy that gets to know the girl for 2 days then asks her out.

It has been 2 weeks since I have broken up with my girlfriend and I really don't know how to spit game.


I am planning on calling her on monday during our break and introducing myself in person


Any suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by tpntch
Well I spotted this girl at my school I thought was attractive, I went up to her and offered to show her around since she was new to the school if she ever got lost.

She is a freshmen and I am a junior, One of my friends from another school is a relative so I got him to play the middle man and ask what she thought of me.
Hope your right hand is in good working order. You'll be needing it.

Originally posted by tpntch
basically my friend said this guy likes you and would like to get to know you a little before he went out with you...
Another bad idea. Approaching yourself has a higher success rate, and boosts your confidence.

Originally posted by tpntch
She gave him her number to give to me.
Interesting. It might have worked! Don't count on it though.

Originally posted by tpntch
I am thinking of calling her tomorrow but I just don't know what to say because I am the kind of guy that gets to know the girl for 2 days then asks her out.
A very unusual technique...how do you get to know a girl after two days if you meet her on a bus, or in a club, etc?

Originally posted by tpntch
It has been 2 weeks since I have broken up with my girlfriend and I really don't know how to spit game.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

Originally posted by tpntch

I am planning on calling her on monday during our break and introducing myself in person

Any suggestions?
1) Prepare for failure. I think that you've got this approach very wrong. By all means call her, but expect rejection, if not immediately but after a few dates. If you bang her, good on you son, but I doubt it will happen.

2) Go after more women. You can find them almost everywhere, funnily enough. Post reports here, too.

3) Read the Bible.
 

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I was the first to approach her.....



I am a bit flustered at how that will not work
 

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Suggestion ... call her.
If she likes you then good, it will be easy to set up a date.
She doesn't like you then good, you figured it out sooner.
 

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shes a fresh your a junior you should easily have this chick. act like an upper classmen should or any dj for that matter.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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