May have messed it up!! ?? Help!

[Wynston]

Hey guys... I'm a 28 year old guy and I met a girl on the internet, a beautiful 24 year old half spanish girl.. The only thing is she lives 2.5 hrs away anyway after we met online we have msged and txt each other everyday all day and I have been up to hers 3 times and she is coming to see me play in a gig (i play in a band) in 2 weeks.. The thing is she got really close really fast and was really into me.. So the last time I went up to see her I stayed for about 4 nights and after like the 3 night I felt less affection from her, I ended up seeming quite needy after all it was our last night I thought I would have had some affection back, so alarm bells started ringing... so.. 2 weeks have passed and her texts have been less affectionate i.e. she used to call me baby all the time now its only 1 in about 10 and she used to put 4 kisses and now it seems like she only puts 3 kisses and then sometimes 4.. I know that may sound neurotic but i notice these things.. she txt me the other day asking am I seeing other people I said no are you? she said no and then asked where are 'us' goin?? I phoned her in the night and I said if she wanted to not bother then to say cos i dont wanna be messed around, she said she wont mess me around!! I said I liked things the way they were like me goin to see her and her coming to see me every few weeks.. She seemed happy and sent me a really affectionate text.. I was happy but since I still dont see any baby and the 3 kisses are still there so I'm confused as to how she feels... I know one thing, when we 1st met I didnt read any of these sites hence we went too fast, then when I did I slowed it down and poked fun at her and tried to become a challenge, maybe this contrast in me has made her think I dont like her when I do!! Another thing is the everyday texting, which is great cos she has the same sense of humour as me... But I know we shouldnt text everyday I think.. aaargh I havent a clue how to save this, I feel as if I have tried to be a challenge but it seems like she is getting less interested the more of a challenge I am!!

Yours confused
Wynston p.s sorry for the large post

 

[MikeEdward1973]

how old are you?

 

[Wynston]

Im 28 man!!

 

[decades]

forget about her and find a girl who lives a HALF hour away or less.

 

[Wynston]

Dont you think its possible to do this??

My mate who is now married used to see a girl who lived 8hrs away.. Suppose I wouldnt be so optimistic if it wasnt for that...

Anyway what I'm really asking for is help on to play the text msg/email game? Should I still be ****y and funny to her and playing with her... I would assume so.. Yet I understand that it would be against most laws of the DJ to have a Long distance relationship!! hmm

 

[Sandow]

Don't put all ur chips in this one. You definitely need to spin ur plates, meet other girls that live closer to you. Chances are, this one will not work out, but thats ok cuz you have other girls to fall back on. And if it does work out, then you can stop seeing ur other plates. So it's a win-win situation. Also you'll look less needy if your talking to other girls. Girls will sense this and thus like you more.

 

[Wynston]

I went to see her the last 2 days, and I thought to myself lets go up there and not even touch her, so I went up and just laid back chatted and we went out with some of her friends, so I carried on my laid back and confident look and before I knew it she was all touchy feely with me. So I carried on acting this way all yesterday too and she wanted to hold my hand when we were out etc etc ... I'm learning guys...!! ha

 

[Wynston]

Oh Yeah and she's calling me baby on the texts and I have my 4 kisses back!! Women are strange !!