"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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May be this be love?

Tails

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Not to say I am in love yet, but it may be soon enough. I think I have found a nice girl (online), who lives very close. We have been chatting, but not too much, only because she had a recent break up with a guy who ditched her on valentine's day! What an ******* huh?

Anyway, I am trying to show her I am here for her, as a friend... hopefully that is what I will become and sooner, maybe more. She is even taking up some alcohol because she is hurt. It seems like she is over him, just not the situation of the break up. She says I am a good listener and that is a great thing to be to a girl.

She is 19 years old, she plays tennis, she studies at a university: journalism. She says she is over men (only because she must be feeling hurt). But I don't intend to give up on her just yet. I am starting to like this girl. Only problem is, she just won't initiate a chat with me first. It's always me messaging her trying to get a conversation going on. Like just before, I asked how her day was, she said she was studying and she still is. So I said sorry and left her alone. But now she is online and it seems she isn't set as busy anymore (msn messenger). She won't tell me that she has finished homework or say she is back. And I feel like I don't want to keep bothering her, like: "hey, are you finished yet?"

So what shall I do guys? Does she need time maybe? I wish she would at least message me sometime first and start up a conversation. I also worry if I don't chat to her for a while, she won't either and that will be the end. But I dislike TRYING to always chat with her first.

Tell me your thoughts please.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Anyway, I am trying to show her I am here for her, as a friend... hopefully that is what I will become and sooner, maybe more
You are definitely being friendly with this girl, which is fine, if you need a female friend that will never think of you as a man who she'd ever consider dating. This girl definitely sees you as a friend, and it will be very very hard to get her to see you as more than that. You've been her emotional tampon, and you've always been the first to message her, which makes you seem desperate.
 

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Go outside and meet a flesh and bones woman. You are young, dont be a pvssy and use the internet as your excuse for not going out and trying to meet real women. This relationship will go nowhere because there is no relationship, and this chick, as far as you should be concerned, does not exist.
 

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Alright... she lives "pretty close" and she just said she recently "broke up" with some guy over valentines day? If it's just been a week, go meet her. If it's been a month..consider yourself possibly in friends position.
 

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I wouldnt even mess with her. You said she has alcohol problems and shes only 19? Sounds kinda fishy to me
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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